Alternative Registry- Large Items

That's a great idea, we're planning on adding a few larger items to our registry that people can contribute to with whatever amount their comfortable!

Registries are typically for showers. Of course you can have a registry without a shower, but people typically gift cash or checks for weddings. I don't see anyone buying you a bedroom set for your shower, if you have one. I think that registering for a few higher priced items (like a couple hundred) is fine, but registering for furniture is a bit of a stretch. If you don't need typical household registry items, I would just skip the registry and use whatever cash gifts you receive toward a bedroom set or whatever you want.

I love the idea of people contributing to a gift you will actually use. We didn't have items with that kind of big ticket, but still added the contribute feature for anything over $100 because I never want people to feel like they need to spend that kind of money on us. And if they aren't comfortable with that, there's always the smaller items and of course, cash!

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Since when are registries typically for showers? Every website I've ever seen says "wedding registry" not "wedding shower registry". People always ask "where are you registered?" regardless of if there's a shower/if they're invited to a shower. I think that implies that people expect to buy wedding gifts off of registries, unless they prefer to give money.

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I've never seen a physical gift given at a wedding. And we went to 7 weddings last year. Never did I see someone walk in with a stand mixer in hand. I've also never seen wedding registries at furniture stores. I find it super odd that you feel the need to come after my comments so often. You can disagree without replying to all of my comments.

I think furniture is totally fine. We had an amazon registry and it had a few furniture items, smart home accessories, light fixtures, camping accessories, etc.

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I'm not saying physical gifts are often brought to a wedding, they're usually sent to the couple directly (just easier that way). When have I "come after all of your comments"? If I've replied to your comments, it's because I'm referencing something you said in my response and want the OP to know what I'm referring to. I've had people quote my comments all the time, since when is that not allowed? You don't have to be so defensive/combative, it's not that serious.

I have a lot of family out of town that I am expecting to not come to the shower or wedding. I feel this might be an easy way for them to contribute if they want to without the worry of mailing something over to me. Or they may just not get anything which is totally fine. I know this is overboard with the cost and is probably not a normal thing at all, but was hoping to get something we actually needed and with 150 people invited, the contribution to meet the mark would be very small (even if not everyone contributed).

I'm actually doing that. I have cheaper items on Wal-Mart, a little higher quality items on Bed Bath and Beyond, and then we really need a new bed frame (I bought it used 12 years ago when I was single), so I have a registry on Wayfare just for that with the option that people can group together to contribute.

Hmmm I'm kinda torn on this one. I feel the same exact way. We desperately need new bedroom furniture, but I don't know if I feel right about registering for it. I'm not offended by it, but I just don't know how that work logistically unless on Amazon.

I feel like having a few larger furniture items is completely reasonable. My fiancé and I have most of what we need already with combining two households so we opted to create a honeymoon registry!

Not tacky at all! In fact, it's very common now, so lots of places even allow you to set it up so that multiple people can purchase one gift. It allows Mrs. Smith to donate $50 to the new table and Mr. Halburn to donate another $75 and so on and so forth.

I don't think it's tacky at all and we were surprised with how many big items we got!

There are some websites where your registry can be a cash registry. So for example, if you have goals like bedroom decor, or honeymoon fund, or house repairs, people can contribute to that and still feel like they are giving you a gift and not just cash since they're helping towards goals!