Alternative to wedding party

You could always have 1 or 2 people and buy their dress. That way they won't have to spend any money.


Both my MOH are at different financial points in life and I plan to buy both their dresses just to make it easy on them.

I think you'll hurt more feelings when you have a gang of women in blue, and others still wondering why you didn't pick them. A bigger selected group turns the party into haves and have nots.

The blue crew would also need to already have a blue dress that fits your wedding's formality. I personally dislike the blue crew since I see it as a consolation prize and not really an honor, but that's just me.

You don't have to have a wedding party. Being a guest is fine. If you do want a MOH or a few bridesmaids, they can wear something they already have in their closet, you can offer to pay for their dresses. There are ways to take the financial burden away

I’m not sure what this plan accomplishes. Asking wedding guests to buy a specific dress they would not otherwise have had to buy doesn’t sound like much of an honor TBH.


Any other extra expense is voluntary on their part as well as within your control to accept or turn down. If you are concerned then don’t accept any offers of expensive pre-wedding events, destination weekends etc. Or make it clear up front that the honor does not come with any obligation other than to support you on your wedding day.

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Very few people in real life will be upset that they were not asked to be bridesmaids. Not everyone can afford the expenses nor is able to put in the emotional energy. But that doesn’t mean that they don’t support you or your relationship. Most states however require 1-2 legal witnesses to sign the marriage certificate so you and fiancé need to have someone chosen for that. Beyond that, many people feel that being a guest is a huge honor on its own, though you won’t read that online, and they prefer to have no responsibility beyond having fun and supporting your relationship.


Plus, there is no one-size-fits-all list of bridesmaid expectations. The bare minimum requirements are to purchase a dress and show up for the rehearsal and wedding day. Anything beyond that is extra and optional, though many insist that a bridesmaid must abide by a longer list of obligations and expenses, that are all optional in the end. If someone cannot fulfill those extra obligations or afford the extra expenses, that is not a reason to burn bridges because they have done nothing wrong.

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