Alternatives to Bachelor/ bachelorette Party

Ive only been to one traditional bachelorette party and to be honest I was a bit bored watching everyone get drunk and stupid. I don't mind drinking or even being tipsy but drunk is just yuk.

That being said, the other parties I went to we're wonderful. We stole one our friends for a surprise trip to the beach. We picked up her bag the night before and she thought she was coming just for lunch bc her mother had planned a lot of stuff for the weekend. Her mom was in on it and it was a wonderful time.

For two of my other friends, we went camping. We had days filled with hiking and laughing.

One of my bridesmaids (I know! It was to early to ask but she was so excited that I was getting married and was already asking me about my plans and what she can do to help! So I asked early!) is so excited she wants us to go camping and have a girls weekend! With my MOH, other Bridesmaid and my mom! Sometimes I think she is more excited about all of it more then I am! lol

For mine my pals rented us a fancy hotel suite and treated me to a massage at the hotel spa in the afternoon. we ordered a bunch of takeout and everyone brought snacks and we basically just listened to music, chowed down on some edibles, drank some bubbly, and sang along to some 90s jams (the suite also came with a guitar, so i serenaded everyone with the Cranberries, obviously). it was so fun, super chill, and very memorable. there are lots of ways that you can celebrate without going wild in public, though no shame to that kind of celebration either.

We are having just a gathering and doing pottery painting and possibly the pumpkin patch (this weekend!!!) None of us party or drink more than a couple glasses of wine at a time, so this worked for us. We also all have kids under 6 plus I also have a 9 year old that are ALL in the wedding, so they get to join.

Point being: there are plenty of other options!

For the bachelorette parties I've been a part of, I've never had a "traditional" one.

One trip was time at the beach where we just spent the days being lazy, eating at all the different restaurants (we are definitely foodies), and paddle boarding.

Another one was at a casino where we got all dressed up, gambled a little bit (nothing major of course), ate out, and danced the night away.

Just getting your girls together is what makes it fun. Do what you want!

We are doing a spa day for my bachelorette just all the girls going to the spa and getting pampered. I'm not a huge partier so the relaxation was much more appealing to my girls and I.

What do you usually do for fun with your friends? Do that.

My MOH planned a day full of activities for mine with her and my BMs. They took me to my favorite bagel shop from when I was in college (we got married in the same area where my MOH and I did undergrad), and then did an escape room together. After the escape room, they took me to a tea room for lunch/afternoon tea. We were doing this the day before the wedding because we all live in different states, so we took a break to go to the rehearsal band RD. Later that night, my BP was staying in the bridal suite with me, so my MOH continued the bachelorette by taking out some wine glasses to paint and we snacked on chocolate, cheese, and champagne/sparkling cider until finally deciding to head to bed.

Paint night!! That way everyone gets a keepsake for that night or day. We wanted to go play laser tag and go go carting together with our wedding party, but we're doing the traditional stripper stuff!!

We are doing a traditional one, my MOH and FMIL are planning it. My only request was we spent an afternoon drinking by the pool. We are going to Vegas.

You could go to a local bar and take dance lessons, or do a paint night or a girls night.

For my friend's bachelorette party we went to a movie got dinner and ice cream. I kind of want a girls weekend, bad 90s movies and just us all hanging out.

Escape rooms, paint & sip parties, spa day. Anything you enjoy doing. I had a nice dinner and went dancing.

One I went to this year was a concert and dinner overnight at a casino. Very causal and fun. The other was a weekend in Atlantic City and it included nightclubs, pole dancing, etc. it was very expensive and exhausting.

I think the best kind of party is something you and your friends normally do, but taking it to the next level. If you like the beach, go for an overnight. If you like the spa, treat yourselves to a very very nice one.

Also, don't plan your own party.

I'm with you on this part. The whole idea of the guys taking out the groom and the girls taking out the bride and giving them a last Hoorah before the wedding makes no sense when the opposite sex is involved for temptation reasons. I always said you're still in a relationship, you're not "single" so why go look at strippers and/or anything else with them, or go to the club/bar where you're bound to draw attention with your sash and have to fend people off all night. Ugh, its a sad world we live in.

BUT I do agree with a little time out with your friends doing what you all love. Spa day, paint night, camping, etc. This time should be spent having a fun night with the people who will stand by your side on your big day. THATS what you should be celebrating

My sisters and friends already know what I will NOT do, so as long as they know you and your wishes you should just have a great time!

For one of mine we got an Airbnb, got dinner, then went to a bar. Nothing crazy. The other one, we went to a friends house a had a 90s party with lots of candy and movies.

I am pretty low-key too. Not really into bars and clubs. We are doing a girls weekend. We will have a slumber party Friday night so we can bond and get to know each other better and maybe do Escape Room Detroit. Saturday morning will be a spa and later that night drag queen bingo. We will head back to our cities Sunday afternoon.

First thing: You dont plan the bachelor/ette party. Your MOH and BP does. And what you do is tell them what you are comfortable with and what your not. Then trust them to plan.

For mine we had lunch, got massages, played just dance, then went to a drag show. The boys went to the movies, went to the gun range, and played video games all night.

I really want to know what LB said.

On that note, if your friends don't throw you one, you don't have one at all. If they tell you that they are throwing you one, tell them you don't want to go to a strip club.

It sounds like you're trying to dictate what FH does I'm feeling that vibe.

Lol did I get flagged for saying the word fuck?

Def didn't saying anything flaggable, but nice try

Its not against the rules to say fuck. PAGE admin and have them put it back up. Tf is there a serial flagger running around here for! I can't keep up.