Alternatives to bouquet toss and garter toss?

We’re skipping them, but not replacing them with anything else. We’d rather just have 15 extra minutes of dancing. You could do something like the anniversary dance?

You can do the money dance instead?

Or some other different audience participation games

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I love the anniversary dance. And then you can give your bouquet or the "toss bouquet" to the couple who has been married the longest.

My cousin also had an alternative to the bouquet toss where she had a toss bouquet made up of 5 - 10 mini bouquets that broke apart when she threw it so multiple people ended up with a bouquet and there was no fighting. (at her sister's wedding years before 2 guest went to the floor fighting for a good 10 minutes over just the stems)

I attended a wedding where they auctioned off the garter rather than throwing it. Not the best idea to appease a more traditional crowd... but they made like $300 on the garter

We're skipping them because we're the last of our single friends.

We are skipping them! We will be having the anniversary dance (hands down my favorite wedding dance st every wedding I’ve ever been to), and just going to enjoy the extra time to dance!

View Quoted Comment Ooh what's an anniversary dance?

Were skipping it. But I've heard of doing a random drawing for the women and men. Also there is a alternative giving those things to the longest married couple at your wedding

We are skipping them, but instead since we are inviting kids, we want to have a “kids dance party” where for one song, only children will be invited up to the dance floor with the two of us. We think it will be fun & will give the kids all their own special memory of our night too

View Quoted Comment It’s a special dance where you invite all the married couples into the dance floor (or more modern version is all couples period), and then you announce years together, usually in increments 5 years. Couples leave the floor as the years go up, and eventually the couple(s) who’ve been married the longest are the only ones on the floor. It’s an fun way morning only to honor those who’ve made it that long, but also I always love seeing how long people are together! At my sisters wedding my grandparents “won” at 64 years together!

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That is the cutest idea ever! Totally a way to get most people involved! Wow your grandparents are GOALS

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Right?! It's my favorite! IMO, WAAAAYYYYYY better than watching the groom stick his head under the bride's dress, or have a bunch of single girls either duke it out for the bouquet or be embarrassed for being *singled* out (literally). Each to their own, but I love the classiness and the meaningfulness of the anniversary dance! And Yes, they are!! That was 64 years MARRIED. They were together for over 70 when my gramps passed a few years ago.

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Ugh I completely agree. The majority of my guestlist are couples so I never wanted to do the bouquet toss in the first place. Some of the old fashioned "classic" wedding things like the garter and bouquet toss are played out (but totally not against other people choosing to do it for their wedding).

I hope we are all as lucky as your grandparents! I bet your grandma is sad but also so fulfilled she had an amazing love and life partner. How many people can say that?

Just skip them - they won't be missed by anyone.

Also - that anniversary dance is a great idea! I would just be careful about any invited guests who may have recently lost a partner and will no longer be celebrating anniversaries together - something like that can totally ruin the mood of the night. But if you don't have any issues like that then it can be a great event!