I’m engaged to the most wonderful man. When he initially popped the question he used a sapphire ring that was dainty, and not exactly “engagement” but I loved it nonetheless! I’ve never been a diamond ring type of girl (though they are beautiful) so I never minded my little sapphires.
When we announced to FH’s family they were so happy for us! They’d ask to see my ring and id show them, and receive comments such as “that’s good of you” or “that’s not really an engagement ring”. These comments started to make FH feel bad, and I was sort of uncomfortable but brushed it off.
FH’s grandmother kept pushing that my ring wasn’t REAL enough. So she offered up FH’s mother’s engagement ring (when she married FH’s father and they promptly divorced 8 months later). They had given his grandmother the Ring after in return for a loan of however much it was worth.
Now, I don’t believe rings are cursed, but I sort of hate that Ring. It’s not my style, and FH’s parents abandoned him with his grandparents after the divorce so it feels very strange for me to wear a family heirloom that...to be blunt...didn’t really mean anything to the people that had it before me. We were given the okay to reset it, but I just can’t see the worth in putting money into resetting a 1/4ct stone of that size instead of either just keeping my ring or buying a larger morganite Ring for roughly the same price as resetting the heirloom.
I told this to FH, and he mentioned it to his grandmother who felt very upset I didn’t particularly want the ring. I don’t want to disrespect his family, and we have the money to reset/buy a new Ring, but I just don’t feel right about it all. Has anyone ever reset a 1/4 diamond? And what would you do in this situation?
