Am i being rude for not having my childhood friend as my bridesmaid?

Nope! You’re allowed to have who you want as bridesmaids and people are allowed to have their feelings about that. But even if she’s upset that doesn’t mean you have to add her.

I don't think so. You have whom you want.

I know you might not feel that close but since you were just in hers last year, she might feel slighted. But it’s up to you if she decides not to come or your friendship fades as a result (but seems like you only see her 1x year anyway).

If she is no longer an large part of your life then no. I am having a high school friend as a BM but she and I have kept in touch and stayed close since I moved away. I do only see her 1-2 times a year but that is because she and her family still live in MI and we live in VA but we always make it a point to get together when I'm home. We also chat all the time on the phone/messenger. It's up to you who is in your bridal party and why, no explanation is needed.

No you’re not being a jerk at all. You get to choose who is in your wedding party and you should not feel guilty if you do not want her in it. If you want her to somehow be a part of your special day you could always ask her to take on another responsibility

I had a friend who had this issue with one of our old high school friends he hung out with a lot in high school. He and I hadn't really kept in touch, so I was delighted to even be invited to the wedding. She, on the other hand, got really hurt that he didn't include her in his wedding party and she didn't even come to the wedding. He still was overjoyed on his wedding day to marry the man of his dreams. And it was hands down the most fun wedding I have ever been to.

These matters aren't easy, but you should only have people in your wedding party that you want in your wedding party, not people you feel obligated to have in your wedding party.

I think you should have whomever you want as a bridesmaid. I will say that she will more than likely have her feelings hurt since you were in her wedding. I'm unsure if that will bother you or not. You could always include her in some other way that is not a bridesmaid- sit with the guestbook, give a speech, etc. if you wanted to. Up to you!