Am i crazy?

I think it's nice that you are trying to stay positive. but realistically speaking his 3 step plan might not come into fruition - at this point so many things are left uncertain and unclear

So ultimately the presidents plan leaves things up to the states and the governors. I know I’m in California which was one of the least hit states with this and they are telling us to not expect any large gatherings until next year. But other states are valuing opening up their economy over other things so they might return to some semblance of normal a little earlier.

I'm Optimistic As Well. Of Course It's Dependent On Each States Governor But I See No Reason To Worry To Much Yet. As Long As My State(Virginia) Is At Phase 2 By October Ill Be Happy With A 50 Guest Wedding, Considering It Wouldve Been 60. I Don't See Things Staying This Strict For Much Longer, Excluding The Hard Hit States.

I think it largely depends on your guest list and if you are willing to shrink it down to meet whatever the max capacity they are allowing for events at that time. Every state is going to go through these phases at different times so there is no real timeline of when things will be more “normal”. Unfortunately it will be up in the air until close to the date unless things get significantly better within the next few months. Ultimately if you are willing to compromise with some things, I think you can definately make a wedding work by September! I’m remaining as optimistic and continuing to plan on getting married in October regardless if it has to just be me and my husband or if we are able to have the wedding we have planned for. All I know is stressing won’t change things so whatever happens will happen and we will still get our special days. They will be the best days of our life even if the circumstances are different than we originally thought.

I'm optimistic too. I'm in Wisconsin, our stay at home thing was extended till the end of May. But the worse part is we are in smaller community with next to no cases and we are being punished because of bigger cities; it's incredibly frustrating. But we are going on as normal with planning. We are getting married September 12th; no plans to change that. We are not adding anymore to the guest list to be safe.

I am not even allowing the thought to enter my mind that I may have to postpone. This wedding will be almost three years in the making. I got pregnant a week after my fiancé proposed so I had to place a hold on any wedding plans as we had to prepare for the little life we created. But in retrospect it allowed us more time to do a number of things we wouldn’t have had time to do otherwise and of course to save more money. Stay positive girl!!! Keep speaking your wedding and and marriage on the day you planned and how you planned it into existence.

My wedding is in December and I'm trying to stay optimistic too due to the fact that a lot can still happen. I don't think things will be totally back to normal but hoping that there are ways to stay safe while having larger gatherings.

Our wedding is in CA but nowhere near a big city so I'm hopeful. The one thing I worry about is that all our guests are from out of state and 90% of my family is out of country so we'll see if borders are open. No matter what, I don't plan on making a decision to postpone until September/october.

I think a lot of it depends on your state and guest count. I think some states will be able to hold large gatherings a few months from now. But I am also concerned about my state going to the next phase, and then having an increase in cases, and having to regress and start over. There is so much unknown. We are inviting about 135 people. I do not think my state (Ohio) will be in Phase 3 by June 20. The state isn't capable of entering phase 3 until the end of May, and they could always go back to phase 2 the day before my wedding! So, I think I am going to postpone to August and hope for the best. We will cut the guest list down to 50 at that time if we have to.

September 5th 2020 bride here. I don't think you are crazy! I don't plan on postponing.

September bride here too. There's still a lot of time for things to change - for now all we can do is wait and try to be optimistic!

I have the exact date as you, September 6th and although I currently live in Arizona I’m having my wedding in Virginia. My only worry is my family and my fiancé’s family still lives in NJ and they got hit hard. But I will watch closely and I’m going to remain hopeful because many of my guests are driving and my guest count is only 50. I still think we can make it work with a small guest count.

It's really important to be hopeful and optimistic right now, for 100% sure! With that said, we have to keep in mind that even through we are different states, we are still a part of 1 country that is in the worst shape compared to any other country in the world. With events/gatherings people will be commuting around their towns and/or into other towns so the virus will just keep spreading (since we can't test most people, who knows who has it and doesn't know they have it) until people come together and see that we are 1 community regardless of where you live in this country. Personally, we were scheduled to get married May 16, 2020 which we changed to August 30, 2020. I changed it knowing that we will likely have to change it again. It really does suck, and it's beyond stressful. But, we decided that we would move on with the rest of our family planning in the meantime with looking for a home, starting a family. Although we can't actually go look at anything, lol. We're just holding our heads up and looking forward. Doing all the spreadsheet planning, research, etc. Also, I just want to add that public officials are doing their best to stay positive and going baby steps in a lot of ways with their words and actions to make us feel better. It's not the scientific reality though. Until there is a vaccine, I wouldn't count on anything going back to normal. States may try to open back up, but that will just continue to make this worse. I don't have the answers, but I think you should stay happy and positive but with the scientific reality in mind.

I think it comes down to how much has been completed concerning the wedding. If you've met vendors and have everything pretty much etched in stone then go for it, that's what we're doing. But if you still have a lot that needs to be done I would push it back to allott more time.

Same day as you. Trying to maintain positivity. Fiancé keeps saying we should cancel and do something intimate instead. I suggested waiting at least until June to decide, as that’s when we were going to send invites anyways. Im in CO but getting married in NY, where things are pretty strict right now; however, truly no idea how things will pan out over the summer. I don’t wish to postpone another year because we chose September for weather-related reasons.

Mine's August 8th and I'm still hoping it will be okay (meaning we're allowed to invite everyone and doing so is not likely to be a vector for new infections).
I think it's good to be optimistic as long as you know things aren't guaranteed to go the way you want them to, so you're not crushed if it doesn't work out the way you envisioned.

Hi Olivia,


I’m in the same boat as you! Just trying to stay optimistic but every day is a literal rollercoaster. Right now all of my vendors advise to keep the date and wait until late June to make a final call on postponing. We’re in it together! Fingers crossed things are on the upswing this summer.