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Mary
Dedicated February 2020

Am i invited to the wedding?

Mary, on June 12, 2019 at 12:58 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 49

This is the first personal message I’ve received but Ive had plenty of “when is the wedding?” “are we invited?” type comments and I honestly don’t know how to respond. I think this is rude, I don’t think people should heckle you for a date, an invite or trying to get into your life again! It makes...
This is the first personal message I’ve received but Ive had plenty of “when is the wedding?” “are we invited?” type comments and I honestly don’t know how to respond. I think this is rude, I don’t think people should heckle you for a date, an invite or trying to get into your life again! It makes me want to delete social media until the wedding! We have a date picked, venue, and more. I don’t want to rethink my guest list every time someone wants to come to the wedding. Help me respond and understand how to deal with these situations please

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  • latasha
    VIP September 2019
    latasha ·
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    🤦🏾‍♀️ People are so unbelievable sometimes! I have no advice other than to agree with what other PPs have said. I just had to comment because I was annoyed for you lol.
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  • Jesiqua
    Savvy May 2020
    Jesiqua ·
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    We get this everyday and it’s so so rude. Idk what to say. My fiancé has just been saying it’s m into smite wedding and only close family is invited. Or i been saying omg i wish i could invite everyone but everything is so expansive. It’s crazy how people assume they’re coming or ask to be invited!!
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  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
    Michelle ·
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    That happened to us too! My FH is involved in scouting and there are 2 brothers that are as well. He is friends with the younger brother more than the older so we only invited the one he's close with. The older brother's girlfriend saw our STD on their fridge and then messaged my FH and rudely asked where theirs was. He also posted on FB about his ring being in and 2 other people basically invited themselves to the wedding! It's ridiculous! He basically just told them what Caytlyn said previously. We started with close family and friends and unfortunately reached our limit.
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  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    I like this!
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  • Mary
    Dedicated February 2020
    Mary ·
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    Haha yes, exactly! She’s planning a wedding if her own so.. I hope she will understand this is not what a bride wants
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  • Mary
    Dedicated February 2020
    Mary ·
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    Haha well thank you, just hoping I don’t get more lol
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    So far nothing yet. But I get the feeling once invites do go out there may be some discussion amongst guests who were and those who weren't invited.

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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I live in an apartment and a few of my neighbors want to come I think, but only one has tried inviting herself. I've just kept saying wedding plans are going slow...no one needs to know until after. I'll figure out what to say when it's done

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  • Bride2020
    Devoted May 2020
    Bride2020 ·
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    Ok that's literally awful that so many people are asking you, absolutely crazy, but I just wanted to say your phone background is sooo so cute

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  • Chelsey
    Just Said Yes September 2019
    Chelsey ·
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    How well do you know the person? What’s the relationship?
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  • Mary
    Dedicated February 2020
    Mary ·
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    Thank you!🤗
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  • Mary
    Dedicated February 2020
    Mary ·
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    My FH has a better relationship and so I was also surprised they reached out to me, I responded saying we haven’t finalized the guest list
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  • C
    Dedicated November 2019
    Charlotte ·
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    I have the same issue. We both have large families and lots of friends but cannot invite everyone. I rarely post anything on social media about it because I'm tired of people asking if they're invited.
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  • Tonya
    Just Said Yes September 2019
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    Perfect!! I’m stealing this!!
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  • Miriam
    Just Said Yes April 2020
    Miriam ·
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    Hey everyone!!! First of all congratulations to everyone. Well I get that a lot but my answer is “sorry it’s a really intimate wedding and only family is invited” which is true !!!! And really really really closed friends, lol. I didn’t post nothing at all in social media only on instagram but it’s only family and all of them are invited. I work in a inconvenience store and I was talking to a customer who was gambling because I leave in Las Vegas and I was cleaning so I was trying to be nice and talking to her I don’t even know why i told her I was planning my wedding and she said, “ oh I can’t miss that wedding” that was the first time I saw her in my life!!!! I just laugh, lol
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  • T
    Expert May 2010
    Theresa ·
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    Oops, wrong thread. Deleted.

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  • Jennifer
    Just Said Yes August 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    OT: I can't fully see it bc of the notification bubble, but your engagement photos look AH-mazing! Smiley smile

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  • Mary
    Dedicated February 2020
    Mary ·
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    Thank you!🤗

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  • S
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Stephanie ·
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    You have to draw the line somewhere..say, unfortunately, we can't invite everyone. I was just listening to a conversation on the radio about this - a woman called in and said she wasn't invited to her longtime friend's wedding but that she really wanted to see her get married and she was going anyway but not going to the reception. Ummm what?! So rude! I was shocked that someone would do that.

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  • Linda
    October 2021
    Linda ·
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    Simply say due to cost we are keeping our guest list to a minimum thank you for wanting to be part our special day though .
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