Am i overplanning?

Can you provide more info? Do you mean, planning too early?

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Yes! Definitely! Sorry, I'm at the end of my night shift lol

View Quoted Comment It's never too early to start researching and narrowing down options. I personally, wouldn't start putting money down for a 50+ guest count wedding until after COVID is gone.

I don’t see anything wrong with planning early. It’s a good way to manage your budget and to really research what you want!

There’s no such thing as planning too early. There are a couple things that I would wait until a year out to do, such as dress shopping and asking your bridal party.

View Quoted Comment I agree with Caytlyn! Definitely not too early to plan for 2022, though I agree that it's a good idea to wait on buying a dress (might change your mind later, or the size you purchase today might not be the size you'd need to purchase in a year from now, which would cost more in alterations) and asking your bridal party (relationships can and do change, so I recommend waiting until around 10-12 months before the wedding to ask your bridal party). Everything else (venue, vendors, getting ideas, etc) are all great things to start working on now. Happy wedding planning!

We planned early and it was the best thing we could have done. We had all of our vendors paid off months before our wedding and not stressing over money on wedding day was great.

Certain things like vendors can definitely be selected ahead of time, but smaller things I would wait on. I also wouldn't get your wedding dress too early or you could change your mind.

I think it’s better to plan sooner than later especially since things are booking years out due to covid. Also see that you do night shift, when I was doing overnights found it easier to make calls before my days off so I can plan time to talk during normal hours. Have fun! (Also using the task feature on here is super helpful to stay on track and not get too overwhelmed since everything’s nicely mapped out).

I don’t think you’re starting too early- in my opinion it’s never too early to start especially with something this big. We got engaged in July 2019 & I started planning almost immediately. He wanted to enjoy just being engaged. I pointed out that our date (4/3/21) is going to be very popular & we needed to lock in a venue. We booked our venue within 2 months of our engagement. I love the forums on this site but the actual site has too many flaws (seen it from a lot of brides that their website from WW isn’t working) so our main site is The Knot. Their planning checklist is awesome & keeps me on track.

With many Covid brides having to reschedule their weddings, I do not think you are planning too early. Getting the big/major vendors (venue, caterer, photographer) booked as soon as possible is in your favor right now. You can wait a little longer on things like your dress, bridal party, flowers, and cake.

Even in pre-COVID times, planning for a wedding 2+ years out is not uncommon. 2022 weddings are being booked sooner than usual due to all of the postponements and uncertainty, so it's definitely not too early to get started!

Venues/food, photographers, and DJs book up the soonest, so I would start there.

We booked our wedding venue about 2 years in advance (granted, we ended up rescheduling due to COVID) and most of our major vendors about 1-1.5 years in advance. Its definitely not too early to at least start looking around, picking some vendors, and especially budgeting!

First decide what's most important. Skip whatever isn't. Get your venue secured first...after settling on a ballpark budget and guestlist. Research major vendors (caterer, photographer). Gather ideas from Pinterest and Instagram. Beyond that, other details can wait.

Its never too early to plan!! I see that if you plan a lot before time and gets things done, then when it gets closer to the wedding you get to relax a bit more and enjoy the time!

Also based on countless posts of bridesmaid drama because they were picked way too early, wait to ask them at 6 months before the wedding. There is nothing they need to do prior to that except order dresses 4 months out.

I think planning early is great. You can really take your time to figure out what you want. And if you get to a point where you are stressed out or in a rut you can step back for a few weeks and not think about anything wedding related and not have to worry about falling behind in plans.

Planning early is great, because you will get your choice in vendors and venues.

I am planning our big day for the 12th of nov in 22 as well. We've been engaged for some time even had an earlier date set so I've done a lot of our own planning already. Now it's on to venders and venues. In my opinion it's never to early.

Dear Ansley,


We got engaged sometime in January in 2019 and will be getting married in January of 2022. So we’ve been engaged for about two years now.
PROS: You have a head start regarding researching the best vendors, and if you’re strategic enough (and want to) could plan the entire wedding yourself. For example, I’m doing all the fresh and fake flowers, all the music will be displayed on a projector with live performances from when the guests arrive to when they leave, etc.
CONS: Things change. A lot of things change in 2-3 years. I always thought it was ridiculous to be so down to the wire, as most planning calendars will give you a 12 month timeframe. However, we’ve gone from a destination wedding to contemplating eloping to finally deciding to have it at the family home in the country. There are a lot of ups and downs in that; especially if you’re someone who has their hopes set on a specific vision from the start. When you begin planning later, it may be less meticulous or strategic, but it doesn’t make it any less amazing.
All in all, we’ve been engaged for two years but it’s just starting to kick in as we book our important deposits a year in advance (structural tent, chairs, photographer, etc.) One funny note is that what I wanted in the beginning is so much different from what I want now. After all of the research and saving over the years I’ve been able to know exactly what I, personally, can do myself and cut corners with.
I hope this gives a bit of insight from someone in the throes of everything! And congrats!!❤️
Aubrianna Abbema