Hi fellow future brides,
I’m dealing with a situation with my fiancé and need advise. He recently received a text on his birthday from a girl who was in one of his classes in grad school about 2 semesters ago. I saw the message because I was trying to show him something on his phone I had sent him earlier in the day. The girl had texted him “Happy Birthday! I hope you had a great day!”. Normally I’d consider this innocent, but I noticed the “do not disturb” sign was next to her name. For those with iPhones you know it’s the little half moon sign, which silences alerts so they will not pop up on the phone. This is what upset me. Why would he have to silence alerts from this person? I questioned my fiancé about it and at first he became a bit defensive and said he doesn’t know why she texted him. I told him this made me uncomfortable seeing the do not disturb sign next to her name and he said he’s surprised she even texted him happy birthday, because they are not close according to him. I never hear him speak of her. I do remember them texting once before about school related things when they were in the same class. He mentioned he recently asked her a few questions about the dissertation project. He also said he never told her when his birthday was, however they are friends on Facebook. He just doesn’t understand why she couldn’t just write happy birthday on Facebook. I’m trying not to feel insecure and worry about this, but I can’t stop but think and worry about why he had Do Not Disturb on for her texts. When I asked him why Do Not Disturb feature was on, he said he didn’t know... he said it may have turned on accidentally when he tried to delete her texts. He has a history of deleting texts from everyone except me or his mom. I just don’t know what to think. Am I overreacting?