Am i too old for this stuff?

No, you are not too old! Your time to shine is now! Enjoy it! As for the other posts on here--you all are young! ha ha!!! Ladies, I am going to be 53 in September and not getting married until next year--for the first time! I met my answer to many prayers over three years ago. My fiancé is a widower, so we are taking our time. But yes, I get it. Trying to balance having a nice affair that's not over the top, but elegant, pretty, with the nice gold chairs, and my garden party vision while also being mindful that he still has a son in college and we both need to build our retirement nest eggs ain't easy. Sometimes the family drama doesn't go away either. For me it has brought up a lot of stuff, including just losing my Dad last year and he won't be here to walk me down the aisle or have a first dance. And I just lost my loyal buddy Baci, my 13-year old Bichon to cancer. Some shifting of your thoughts may come up about what you want, but that's all part of the unfolding process. It's sounds like you've done a fantastic job of coordinating things. How does something make you feel? What will you want to remember? What will you regret if you don't do it? You're only doing it once...I say focus on what you want to cultivate and what's really important. My closest friends and family who want to celebrate us don't care where we have this--they just are happy for us and want to celebrate us. You do you. It will all work out! God bless you and your marriage/future together! May you be blessed!

p.s. I also was not one to dream about getting married since I was a little girl, or a fairy tale wedding, or being the princess bride. But, I do love to plan and host events and parties for people I love. I'm trying not to get so frustrated at venue rental fees in my area--Washington, DC--which are crazy!

Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Have you looked a bit more south, like northern Va?

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Thank you! The thing is I want to get married in our church in DC and we live in Maryland as do most of his family that are here, but I appreciate your suggestion.

View Quoted Comment I wasn’t sure if you were doing Md side of DC or Va side! Every damn thing is expensive!

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Agree totally! My BFFs since middle school and high school are trying to plan a girls weekend for me and a few other close friends and all of us are in different states--and it isn't like they aren't busy with husbands, kids, jobs, elderly parents we are taking care of. The people who want to show up for you will do so.

I want to get a circuit! ha ha!

Have a fantastic wedding! There is nothing more important than love.

View Quoted Comment You too!! It will be amazing!

No you’re not too old and no brides don’t have to be “younger”. However, if you truly want a JOP ceremony, that’s totally fine regardless of a bride’s age

Agree with the others, no one is too old to celebrate their love!

Your a bride and you are never too old for love and not only that but you deserve a wedding, there is nothing wrong with you being your age and having a wedding. Congrats and I hope you plan the wedding you and your better half wants regardless of age

Girl! Enjoy your day! Do what you want. I don't think you're too old to have a wedding, your age shouldn't determine whether or not you have a JOP ceremony or the big circus; that should be decided by you and your beloved. Congratulations to you both!!

I'll be 41 on my wedding day - never married. You are absolutely not too old! It took for-ev-er for us to find each other, and friends and family on both sides are incredibly excited for us. More importantly, I just didn't feel ready to be married to someone until my late 30s. There's no expiration date on love - celebrate however you want!

You're not too old! I'm gonna be 37 by the time I get married this fall, and I still want to be treated like a total princess. I've read a few articles written for older brides, and they all say that if you've waited this long, you deserve to go all out! My fiance and I have been together eight years, and we'll have been engaged for five by the time we get married. We were sidetracked by many things in the early days of our engagement, and then we were all set to finally get married last April, but then came COVID. Anyway, you deserve to have the wedding of your dreams. I'm certainly banking on mine.

Congratulations! I’m also 42 and getting married on July 03! I’ve had the same thoughts. I’ve been reading some of the comments and I’ve also had my bridesmaids complaining about the dresses lol! Glad I’m not alone 😂 this whole experience is a first for me. It’s definitely more stressful than I imagined. But I do deserve to have a nice wedding. I don’t think age should take that from us!

I'm 52 and married for the first time 7 month ago. My husband is 49, 1st marriage also! It was a beautiful Catholic church ceremony!

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"Our wedding will be small at around 100 guests (that’s small for us🙂)"

😃 😄. I can relate!

No! My cousin got married at 43 and had her huge wedding and nobody thought anything of it! Totally normal ☺️ Enjoy!

There is no age on having a wedding. What your heart desires go for it why not or keep wondering what your wedding would have been like My wedding is June 19th we have been together for 15yrs I’m very excited and counting the days. Congrats and everything will turn out the way you want it.

Rebecca, I photographed hundreds of brides over a lifelong career in NE Ohio. My happiest Bride ever was 66 years young and it was her very first wedding. She never stopped smiling in her beautiful gown and kept saying it was the happiest day of her life. Her budget was small, but she wanted quality images. She thanked me over and over for offering coverage from $495, which I still do today. That was 12 years ago. I will never forget her.

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No ma’am!!! You are not too old! I was a 41 year old, first time bride in January of this year (my husband is also in his early 40s and was a first time groom). COVID prevented us from having the large wedding we had originally planned (250 guests, 7 bridesmaids, 7 groomsmen, but even with our smaller 20 person wedding, I was hellbent that I would not cheat me and my husband out of a true wedding experience - so we went all out (gorgeous dress, custom suit, wedding at a beach resort, excellent food, yummy tiered wedding cake, and gorgeous flowers). Your age does not dictate anything about your wedding. You get to have the wedding you want and deserve.


And by the way, this post made me smile to see other brides (and some now wives) who are older than the average bride. When I was planning, I would have loved to have a group chat to discuss these types of issues.

Thank you everyone! I'm so glad to meet such a wonderfully supportive group such as yourselves! You are all amazing, and I feel much better about these wedding plans I have for FH and I.