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Rebecca
Beginner July 2021

Am i too old for this stuff?

Rebecca, on March 29, 2021 at 8:16 AM

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I am 42 and getting married July 3 this year. I've never been married and have been with the groom for 12 years. I have a venue that's paid for, my dress is almost done, I have caterer and cake situations handled. I've never been the girl who has "dreamed of her wedding since she was little", but...
I am 42 and getting married July 3 this year. I've never been married and have been with the groom for 12 years. I have a venue that's paid for, my dress is almost done, I have caterer and cake situations handled. I've never been the girl who has "dreamed of her wedding since she was little", but now that I'm planning this whole circus I'm finding that I want more than a JOP wedding. Am I too old for this? Shouldn't brides be younger? Maybe I'm just being insecure? Thoughts?

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  • Tihani
    Just Said Yes May 2024
    Tihani ·
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    Never to old I am 26 been with my FH for 11yrs we have 4 kids and we still aren’t married yet Smiley smile anywho, a really good friend of mine is 55 and her husband is 62 they just got married in our back yard like 2 years ago... simple, small wedding that’s all they wanted, but girl it’s your big day! You go as big and bold as you want to! Or as simple and small... whatever will make it special to you and your FH alone no one else. Don’t let anyone or anything else stop you from doing so.
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  • M
    Just Said Yes July 2022
    Monique ·
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    Have the wedding of your dream. Don't let no age stop you. Your day has come. Enjoy and celebrate it to the fullest.
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  • Ali
    Dedicated September 2021
    Ali ·
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    Girl you deserve whatever you want at whatever age!! This day is about the celebration of love in you and your significant other have found in each other and age shouldn’t even be a consideration! I hope it’s everything you want it to be and you truly get all of the bridal moments you want!!
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  • Dottie
    Savvy May 2021
    Dottie ·
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    I’m 41 and finally getting married. I use to think I’m an old bride but I changed my mind! I feel much younger
    Now ❤️
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  • Dawn
    Dedicated May 2021
    Dawn ·
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    I will be 58 when we marry. This will be my 2nd wedding. I wanted JOP, he wanted bigger, to celebrate our love. I'm glad I listened to him. Getting married is an exciting time, and you should enjoy every minute of it. Age isn't important!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Nope! I was mid 40’s and it was my 1st wedding/marriage. As an “older” couple my hubby and I planned OUR dream wedding, no society or family pressures (and yes, I wore a ballgown). It’s always the right age to celebrate love!!! ♥️
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  • Adriana
    Savvy July 2021
    Adriana ·
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    Never ever too old to celebrate your love!! You deserve your day to be exactly the way you dream it to be!!
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  • Private User
    Beginner September 2021
    Private User ·
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    NO WAY!!! We are never too old to create a beautiful wedding for ourselves and our significant other! That day is a day created for the 2 of you, to make a commitment to one, another from that day forward, and THAT MY FRIEND is worth is having it in a special place that will be special to the both of you forever ❤


    Do NOT feel bad if you wanna change your location. But if you wanna change your location, and you don't because you're worried about everyone else, you will regret it. This day is for you and your fiance! Make it a day neither of you will ever forget!!
    Hugs 🤗
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated August 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    No, no no! You are never "too old" to get married! I'm a few years older than you and getting married for the first time in August. My fiance is 50. I cannot wait for my Cinderella moment. Enjoy every minute of your wedding. You deserve it!! Smiley heart

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  • Samantha
    Beginner August 2022
    Samantha ·
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    My dad just got remarried and he and his bride ran into a similar feeling. She's in her 50's, she had been married once before and it was a small courthouse wedding. She wanted to celebrate and she wanted a big party, so that's exactly what they did! It was beautiful, and it was a perfect way to celebrate them and their love. So, you do you, and who cares about the age thing. Congrats on finding the man you want to spend your life with Smiley heart Your friends and family will love the excuse to party, and will have so much fun watching your joy.

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  • J
    Just Said Yes August 2022
    Joan ·
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    I didn't think I would feel awkward getting married, in fact I thought it would be an exciting time. I'm 56 my fiance 58. I believe it's because a friend of mine's daughter and my niece who are both in their 20's also got engaged this past year along with me and I feel as if I'm out of the loop with all their talk as to the things they all do today partly due to social media and the 20 somethings. For example; he asked and she said yes stuff and the save the date etc. They never did any of this stuff years ago, I wasn't aware of any of these new things they do and find it sort of silly and unnecessary. My sister who's two years younger than me and whom I never had a doubt would be my MOH seems indifferent to my being engaged and shows no interest in my wedding plans. When I mentioned my having a bridal shower in passing at brunch with her and all our friends (we share the same friends) she replied out loud, a shower at your age, why would you want a shower you're too old for that and besides your fiance has a house with pots and pans. I was mortified but my friends saw my reaction and said of course you deserve a shower we will have one. I really feel disappointed and don't even want her as my MOH but I still feel obligated to have her. I'm just all around a little disheartened. I want to have a nice wedding but everyone around me is young and having these big affairs with many guests and bridal parties I feel my wedding will not seem like anything special.
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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
    Mrs.evans ·
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    You are never too old for this no matter what age we are we deserve it as well. I'm 49 been engaged for 1yrs and 3mos. We are getting married this year have to finish paying off my venue. I've been with the groom for a long time. We deserve it all if you want big an Extravagant or small and Intimate ok don't sell your self short enjoy all of these butterfly moments.C
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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
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    Hi Joan I'm srry for her making you feel that way. A love your friends for having your back I know that you said that when you gotten engaged that she your sister would be your choice Of MOH. So if you choice someone else who support your wants and if she has a problem with it tell her why you change who will stand up with you.You have fun and dont let no make you feel bad about this amazing thing that is happening. You deserve all of the beautiful things yet come and have your bridal shower
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  • J
    Just Said Yes August 2022
    Joan ·
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    Thank you and I'm glad I am in good company.
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    Just Said Yes August 2022
    Joan ·
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    Thank you Monique I feel a lot better hearing your words of support, I will focus on myself and think of you, I wish you all the luck and joy on your special day!
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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
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    Aww thank you for the kinds words we are family here to help lift us up We are at an exciting time and moments for us planning a wedding getting married to the person we love and our fiancee that loves us back. Have fun planning your special day
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