I have a very complex relationship with my dad. He was amazing from birth to 18 and raised me but when he divorced my mom when I was at ubiversity he checked out mentally and emotionally from me. Several times when we make plans, he'll cancel last minute. He even drove 100 miles to visit me at university then stayed for only 10 mins then drove back to his house. When I told his parents this, he became livid and screamed profanities at me. Never apologized for it til this day....
He just has now been reliable at meeting me which is once every 8 to 12 weeks for lunch since COVID. When his father (my grandfather) died back in April, he did not invute me to the funeral wgich I was extremely hurt about since I was fairly close to my grandfather and called him often and not ONCE asked anyone for money unlike my siblings and cousins. When I call people, it's genuinly to talk.
After much thought, I have decided to not invite my dad to my mini marriage ceremony. It was originally supposed to be an elopement, but FH insisted his parents be present and then I invitex my mom who has always been there for me. Now, FH's parents keep pressuring me to invite my dad abd it's starting to bother me. Do you all think I'm wrong for not wanting to invite him?