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Malia
Savvy June 2022

Anxiety about bridal shower this weekend!

Malia, on March 2, 2022 at 1:11 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 5
Hey, y’all - I’ve been SO anxious about my upcoming bridal shower for the past two weeks! I’m finishing up my last semester of college and am the youngest of two, so my mom is an empty nester, and I know how much joy planning this shower has brought her! She’s had the living room layout setup for over a week now and has been in and out of craft stores and bake shops what seems like everyday! My three aunts are also co-hosting, and I know they’ve spent so much money to make everything beautiful and an absolutely amazing experience for me and and all of the guests, but I’m so worried that hardly anyone is going to show up! They invited 46 guests (all of whom are invited to the wedding, of course - and yes, I sent save the dates months ago), which included my bridal party of 6 (all of whom are OOS, so I didn’t expect them to make it), and so far, my aunt who’s collecting RSVPs has gotten 26 ‘Yes’ responses. Today, my mom heard from two guests that are now going to miss due to Covid, and even though we’re three days out, only four guests have purchased items from our registry (including one guest that RSVP’d ‘No’). I would just be so sad that my family went through all of the trouble to put everything together to have just a handful of people show up, and honestly, I’m also a little nervous about not getting many things from our registry. FH graduated a semester early to start working and saving for furniture and rent while living with his parents, and I’m not starting work until July (our wedding is June 24th), but we’ve never lived together and don’t have much, so we’ll pretty much be starting from scratch. I know no one is obligated to give a gift, but FH and I are funding a third of our wedding costs ($10k between the two of us) for a guest list of 250 people (a LOT of obligatory extended family invites on FH’s side - I wanted a much smaller wedding), and it’s a little scary to think about having to buy all of the basics ourselves while we’re trying to get our financial footing. Any advice or words of encouragement would be so appreciated!

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Latest activity by Ladyray, on March 2, 2022 at 10:06 PM
  • L
    Super August 2023
    Lunajay ·
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    My words of advice is not to worry. I'm sure with all the planning your mom and aunties have done, your bridal shower will be amazing. Sadly covid has changed a lot for weddings and any other big event because people don't want to take the risk. If your worried about receiving gifts, you have time to see if people will still give one. Most people do wait till the wedding to give a wedding gift.

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  • S
    Super September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    Regardless of how many people come your shower will be absolutely amazing! Tell your mom and aunts you appreciate the hard work they put into the shower. Also if 26 people responded yes I’m sure you’ll get more than just a couple to come. Some people just wait until last minute to buy gifts. Also, if you don’t receive a ton of items off your registry, most stores give you a discount to buy the remaining items after your wedding! I know it would still suck to buy all that stuff, but hopefully that’s a little encouraging! And maybe guests are getting you gift cards to those stores! That could help as well!
    I know it’s easier said than done, but try not to worry about it and just enjoy your time with your friends and family.
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  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey ·
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    My word of advice is to stop stalking your registry and just let yourself be surprised instead of stressed 😊 26 (or 24 if the covid guests are out) is the perfect size! Not too overwhelming and should give you time to talk with each guest one on one. Also, many people gift cash at the wedding, so you should be able to purchase any remaining registry items you still need.
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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
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    Your shower will be amazing no matter who shows up. The were 40 invited to my shower and 14 actually came. Honestly, I loved it! We were able to chat and enjoy each other's company. My family who planned the shower made it so beautiful.
    Don't worry about the registry. A lot of people just prefer to give cash at the wedding. You can take that and buy the things you need.
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  • L
    Dedicated January 2026
    Ladyray ·
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    Honestly, I wouldn't worry about how many people show up to the bridal party just yet. Some people forget to RSVP until the last-minute or don't at all. And I wouldn't let the numbers of attendees at the bridal shower make you think a bunch of people won't show up for the bigger event too! It sounds like you have a lot of support regardless and I think you should use this as an opportunity to voice your concerns with them. COVID-19 has changed the way people approach these big life events too, and definitely when it comes to etiquette, but I would keep in mind that the right people will show up when you need them to.

    For now, I would steer clear of the registry because it seems to be one of the sources of your anxiety and maybe opt for a weekend away from the planning madness. Keep your head up!

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