Anxiety help!

I have anxiety too, and my FH is really good about helping me calm down. He reminds me that worrying now means I am just reliving the stress over and over again. Then usually he bugs and teases me so much until I get mad at him and eventually can’t help but laughing and letting some of it go.
It helps me to just finish some of the things (like booking vendors, deciding on a cake or invite list) and then don’t allow myself to reconsider it - the decision is made so let it go. It also helps when I say what I’m worried about out loud. Literally, write down a list. Most concerns about weddings are pretty trivial when you actually think about it. Don’t let yourself compound the problem and spiral, address each specific source of stress.
And definitely stop stressing about Father’s Day, it is literally the lowest tier of holidays and so not a big deal! ☺️

Hi Heather! I've been seeing a therapist and have been on medication for anxiety for a long time. Still gets to me though. What has been helping me with wedding planning is first and foremost, staying organized. I used to organize ad shoots in my previous job so I just started treating the whole thing like a photoshoot - I got spreadsheets and folders galore on my google drive. I find it helps me feel more in control (even if there may be some things i CAN'T control- like this uptick in covid cases )

Also setting aside specific times where I work on planning. Like in the evening, I try not to even think about it/talk about it/work on anything and just eat dinner and watch TV with FH.

In terms of natural remedies, CBD if available, can be great. I take it for pain (usually in candy or cream form) but it could help relax you too. If I had a tub, I'd probably soak in a lavender bath to relax too. Make sure you are also exercising - something as simple as walking can calm your mind down if you are feeling overwhelmed.

Best of luck

I have anxiety and social anxiety. The thought of not having things done before the day of and having the spotlight on me has me on edge all the time. I'm 14 days out and some days are worse than others. But my fiance trys to help calm me down. We have a weighted blanket and lavender oil for our oil diffuser. That helps take the edge off.

I'm with you there... I have a panic disorder and my panic attacks cause me immense pain and GI distress, so I'm really nervous that the day of the wedding I'll be having non-stop panic attacks.

My backup is taking a Xanax. A half tablet will instantly stop a panic attack while leaving me clear-headed. But I try not to rely on pills if at all possible; it makes me feel like I can't handle things without help.

What helped me most was CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). It helps to break down your worries and examine whether or not the things you fear will really happen, and if they do, how bad they'd really be. Anxiety will kind of create a big scary monster, which is so scary that you can't even look at it properly to see it's actually a little mouse. In reality a lot of the worst case scenarios you fear, if you really break them down, aren't that bad. You'll get through them a bit at a time and everything will turn out okay. My therapist used to say "If you can do something about it, don't worry; if you can't do anything about it, don't worry" and that helps me a bit too.

I’ve honestly started seeing my therapist again for my anxiety and have been working with CBT techniques to help with over thinking. I initially started seeing him again bc I myself am a people pleaser and we worked on setting boundaries during the planning process which really helped. But everything that could go wrong has and altho we’ve been able to problem solved and fix it, it’s a lot of stress and anxiety which just adds to my overall anxiety level. It’s gotten so bad I sometimes have panic attacks driving on the highway and get super anxious driving now which is super new for me, that my therapist thinks could be sympathetic symptoms (I think that’s what it’s called) from underlying wedding stress .. as for other ways to mellow out, I give myself 30 mins a night to read which calms me and baths. I’ve been working out more and trying to incorporate some meditation/breathing exercises in the evening

I have bad depression/anxiety. I also work and I’m a parent and nursing student. I’m worried that as our wedding planning intensifies and we get closer to the wedding date, I’m gonna go downhill. My fiancé is my anchor and knows how to handle me at my worst which is such a blessing. I drink a lot of tea which helps to calm my nerves. Also, avoiding stimulants like caffeine keeps my anxiety levels from increasing. I am also interested in hearing what others suggest as I could totally benefit from tips. I hope you find some relief for your big day.

Ladies I want to say THANK YOU. All of these ideas are wonderful. I’ve been seeing a therapist for years, although, she is not licensed to prescribe anything. I am crazy type A do everything is organized on spreadsheets by color so that’s already done lol. I think the CBD and the working out more will help. FH is really really supportive and helps me off the ledge every time. I am off all summer so I have a LOT of time to overthink. I think staying busy also helps control it.

Thanks all for sharing! I have a lot of the same anxieties as the date gets closer. I need to start managing it better I feel - what’s helped in the past is doing yoga, going on walks, journaling, anything that helps me feel more grounded and less in my head. 💜

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for this! This couldn’t have come at a better time. 💜

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