Anxiety/rant/stress

I'm sorry.

Practice telling them, "I'll take that into consideration." And change the subject. And then don't take it into consideration.

Also, "I am tired of talking about the wedding, please, let's talk about *insert topic about their life, or sports, or local event or whatever*."

Many people have opinions about things they get no say in. Put up the boundary and stick to it.

I would just ignore it because people are ALWAYS going to have something to say about EVERYTHING. I get it though, it's so annoying

I'm sorry. I'm typically an outspoken and direct person - I've wondered how people that are more reserved deal with all of it, as you're right it can be overwhelming.
My silver lining is that it's been an interesting way to find my "more true" friends. The people with pushy opinions may still love you, they just are choosing to prioritize their opinion on your life event and not understanding that it's not what you need.
That has made me appreciate the friends and family who are able to first empathize - asking to understand me before slathering in their opinions on it.Seek out those ppl. ✌️

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Or, if you want to be snarky, “I’ll give that all the consideration it deserves.” People don’t know how to take that so it generally shuts them up!

I recommend to not even discuss your wedding with those who usually have comments/ opinions that bother you.

I dealt with some direct comments and a lot of passive aggressiveness. I prefer not to tell people I'll consider their opinions, because I feel like that gives them an opportunity to follow up on something I have no interest in. For the most part, I either told them what we were doing that was not their suggestion, or I'd say, "we haven't made any final decisions on that yet." Either way, I'd physically leave the conversation, or, if that wasn't possible, change the topic to something drastically different. (Ask them something specific about their own life, people can usually get distracted if you force them to think about themselves.) I find the passive aggressive and secondhand comments to be more emotionally draining because you don't get a chance to respond to them without going out of your way and engaging in unnecessary drama. To deal with those, try to remind yourself that your wedding isn't about those people, so their opinions aren't relevant here. Also, if they don't speak to you directly, you are not under any sort of obligation to respond to them.

Haha suddenly? I feel like COVID or not, weddings are an excuse for everyone to voice their unwanted opinions no matter how close or not they are to the couple. People always want to act like they matter. My husband and I decided the day we got engaged we were doing what WE wanted and that was it.

I had some people that were this way and basically I've just ignored wedding talk with just about anyone. I may share something post decision making and if there is a comment, I thank them and move on.

SO MANY OPINIONS! At this point, it feels like FH and I an do no right. It's especially hard when it's our grandparents and parents, who we respect and love dearly, telling us that we are doing things all wrong.

I agree with PP, just politely disregard. This is easier said than done, and I am still working on it. But it's worth practicing because it will save you so much anxiety. Remember that you and FS are a Two Person Team. You two make the calls, and nobody else.