Anxious/nervous?

It is very normal to feel this way. I'm a very nervous/anxious person myself and all this planning has me just wanting to elope! We aren't, but a lot more goes into a wedding than I expected. If you start feeling nervous, just take a step back from planning and enjoy some time to yourself. Also, getting on here everyday made me nervous as well because it seems like everyone has everything booked and is good to go, but some just work faster than others. I am finally getting to the point of having everything booked, but it definitely wasn't stress free! Like I had my meeting with a DJ on Saturday and was TOTALLY dreading it. I didn't want to think about planning for one day, but we got it over with and now have that down. Just take a deep breath, some time to yourself and realize that everything will be perfect! Also, if it makes you feel better, just start booking with who you want and slowly marking stuff off your list. I feel as though the "list" is what gives most brides anxiety. Best of luck! Know you aren't alone!

Hi Marita! Welcome to the WeddingWire Community! OF COURSE, it's normal to feel nervous about getting married! It's one of the most significant life changes you'll encounter. Everything about your daily life changes and you now have to think collectively with your FH in mind at all times - that's a drastic change! In the same way, it's also a rewarding transition, as you receive the opportunity to spend the rest of your life with someone you love and cherish. I can certainly understand how difficult it might be to make planning decisions, as I am also very indecisive. I would recommend not thinking too hard about your options, just relax and trust that whichever vendors you select will perform sufficiently.

You'll be just fine!

I wish you the best of luck!!

Thank you for your comment & reassurance! I was starting to think there was something wrong with me because I found myself at times not exactly blissful and excited but more anxious, scared, and nervous! I tend to be that type of person who takes things very slow and sometimes you need to light a fire under my butt to get going (haha) so needless to say I approach with caution so I think part of it is my personality as well. Thank you again for being able to relate!

I feel exactly the same way so please know that you are not alone. Something simple like picking text on an invitation has become a struggle. I am a very anxious person and each step I have had to step back and say it will be ok. Research your vendors, choose, then don't look back. Try grouping tasks into small lists to get done so it is not overwhelming. These are a few things that have helped me!

I feel better knowing I'm not alone! Thank you for that. I'm trying to not procrastinate and just take things one day at a time and enjoy it.

Honestly, I think having a longer engagement makes it worse. Our engagement is a year and a half total, and I don't usually have a problem making decisions and sticking to them, however, with so much time to think about everything it makes it easy to change your mind or double guess yourself. It definitely helps to plan a little at a time, don't get into too much at once, and once you make a decision move on from it and put it out of your mind.

Thanks everyone! I truly appreciate your feedback. I'm trying to take it one day at a time. My FH is very supportive and helps calm my nerves/anxieties. He is a little more grounded than me when it comes to deciding on things or planning. He can reel me in and help me not go down the spiral of worry and reminds me what's important and how the most important thing is the people we celebrate and spend it with, not the color scheme! (haha)

Also I think getting married and going through the process has a lot of self mental preparing that needs to be done, which I'm going through. It is a HUGE transition and step in life and I suppose with change comes anxiety, worry over the next step or unknown. Getting out of that comfort zone of where you and your FH are, into the next step because it's all so new. It's exciting but nerve racking and "so real" haha. I tend to be that person who gets comfortable so when I'm being uprooted into the next step, I get scared. I've been that way with everything. Graduating college, a layoff, new job, etc. It's the anxiety of the unknown. In addition, I think for myself who is a very independent, free spirit, the notion of no longer officially being an "I" and becoming a "we" scares me. I know I love my FH & want to spend the rest of my life with him and it actually bothers and hurts me to even think of a life without him in it, it's the change of identity, the saying goodbye to the old me and welcoming in the new me, the married me. While it's exciting, I suppose I have to mentally go through a grieving process too (which sounds so morbid and maybe for a lot of women ridiculous) but I am a very VERY independent person so for me the idea of marriage is a sacrificial move of love on my part. I am giving up aspects of my old self for a new one and that brings anxiety. I have decided it's what I want but my independent nature is scared.

I have also decided that premarital counseling seems like a very good idea to help me manage anxiety, look forward and enjoy what's coming, and appropriate it fearlessly.