Hi there! Here's my story:
I grew up in the rural midwest in the 90's. My family and our community was working class, and the weddings we went to were casual. Not casual dress - people wore their nice clothes - but the event was casual. The ceremonies were often in a local church or park, with receptions in the church basement, a "pole barn," or (if you were ~fancy~) in the VFW or American Legion hall. The food was self-catered, with buffets of sandwiches on Hawaiian rolls or a pig roast. The booze was either non-existent or BYOB. I don't remember a single couple taking a honeymoon - that was a thing from the ~movies~. As I got older, weddings got a little fancier, adding professional DJ's and cash bars, but they kept the same casual feel.
Now I am grown up and I live far away from my hometown. I have my own money, I have a great fiancé, and we are planning our very own budget micro wedding! It will be fancier than what we are familiar with. We booked a cool industrial venue, we hired a professional caterer to serve a hot buffet AND beer & wine, and we have an awesome photographer. We will DIY flowers and music.
As we plan we are doing research, and it is very interesting to see what folks from different backgrounds have to say about weddings! I bet some people would be appalled to attend a wedding like I described! Ha! Sometimes I get discouraged that my budget wedding won't look like the gorgeous weddings on social media. Other times it's reassuring knowing that my and my fiancé's family won't be fussy and will have a great time no matter what. (For example, I plan to have our 40 guests carry chairs from the ceremony to the reception tables in the same room. A lot of people online say this is a huge no-no, but I remember doing this as a child and I know our families would think nothing of it.) So it's not all negative, not all positive. Just... different.
Who else has a similar story? How has wedding planning been? I don't need advice, just wanna hear more stories of real people and real weddings.