Any brides who are also mothers?

I wasn't a mom when I got married but the comment she made was uncalled for. I would ignore her or anyone else that makes rude comments like that. Just because you have a baby doesn't mean you shouldn't have the wedding you want.

Oh wow, that comment from the manager was uncalled for and unprofessional! You definitely deserve to have a big wedding if you want one! Having a child before marriage does not mean that you can't have the wedding of your dreams. Everyone has different timelines for life events. Personally, I would find a new jeweler to do business with in the future. Keep planning your wedding, and ignore the comment that person made!

Wow that was really poor customer service. That comment was unnecessary

Hi,

I am a mother of 8 kids, My fiance has stepped up to the plate and is the father figure to my 7 and together we have a daughter that is 10 months old. I get judged all the time that money can be used towards the kids etc,, however our kids each have a college fund we have 7,000 in savings and have all of our bills paid. we are using our tax returns for the wedding.

That was rude and cruel of the manager, I say take your business elsewhere!
As for the wedding, have what you and your partner want to have. I’ve been to several weddings where the couple already had children. If they were old enough, they were part of the ceremony, and if they were too young it still made for some sweet moments during the ceremony/reception. Weddings bring people together, don’t let a complete stranger ruin your day.

I think to argue that it is irresponsible to have a big wedding after you have kids is not entirely logical. Couldn't you make the same argument for a couple that knows they want kids? That they could/should save their money for their unborn children?


I don't see anything wrong with having as big or small as a wedding as you want and can afford with or without kids. Anyone else's financial responsibility is not my business.
It's also more common for people to live together and even have kids before they are married than it was in the past. Haley, I think you should just keep doing you and not worry about what other people say!

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I agree 100% with all of this. Haley, do not let this person's unprofessional remark affect you. Take your business elsewhere, and have the wedding you want. You definitely deserve it.

Don’t even let that jerk bother you one bit!


By the way, historically there have been many places where parents have not been married till the baby’s baptism or older. Sometimes it was because priests were in short supply so they would travel town to town and people weren’t going to wait around to get married. And other cultures put such a high value on having children/lower fertility rate that it was important to know if healthy children were possible.That’s ancient history but the important thing is that you two are doing what works for you in your time!

Wow. I agree with others, take your business elsewhere. That was uncalled for and frankly none of her business. It’s wonderful that you and FH are getting married and it will be special that your child will get to be a part of it. Please don’t let that one person dampen your excitement.
My situation is different from yours in that I do have a 9 year old daughter but I am getting married to a man that is not her birth father. It is my first wedding and his 2nd. I’m sure some people feel we shouldn’t be having the wedding we are having (even though it is small) because of our age, because between us we have 3 children and because he has been married before. But it isn’t really for anyone else to decide who we want to celebrate our wedding with.
Hold you head high, be proud of your family, and plan the wedding you want.

I think people who don’t have children, should be careful on commenting about their opinions on what’s best for any family. How to make a call on what decisions you need to make when you’re not living a life responsible for those decisions. Just something everyone in general can keep in mind. Girl enjoy your wedding and having your beautiful child share that day with you.

I have a 5 yr old son that is not the son of the man I married. It's our first wedding for both of us. Thankfully I haven't gotten any rude comments that I know of. You should absolutely still get the wedding you want even if you have a child. And your financial situation (kids or not) is absolutely no one else's business. I'm so glad my son will be there for my wedding and to walk me down the aisle.

That was an absolutely out-of-line comment, and honestly?

I'd report it to the manager. That person either needs better training, or to find a different line of work, because they are costing the store business.

I have been previously married and had a son during that marriage. he will be 9 years old when it will come time for the wedding. I have not had any issues like this during our planning process and I am so sorry to hear that workers comment has had such affected you so because it was completely out of line and unprofessional for such a statement to be made,

My advice would be to not let it get to you, it was a rude statement that shouldn't have been said, you two absolutely deserve to have the "big wedding" to help celebrate you two coming together as one as well as that precious little you have! Don't let this ruin your happiness and joy with planning the wedding you've wanted, you three are all that matter when it comes to your special "big wedding" day!

With my first wedding it was my ex-MIL that pretty much planned it all, she would only ask me questions when she "knew" that her son would have an opinion about it, in which he usually would just leave it up to me without giving any input, but then his mother wouldn't adhere to what she was being told.
Being able to actually plan this wedding and my FH wanting to be apart of it every step is so fantastic and makes me so excited to have the wedding I've always wanted to, plus the fact of having my son be apart of it makes it that much more special.

I am so sorry this was said to you. It was very rude and unnecessary.

I'm a mom. I have a 10-year old son from a previous relationship and a 1-year old son with my FH. I've gotten rude comments from when I was a 19-year old single mother to when I met my FH and people were worried that I was trying to "trap" him (he had no children before our son).

NO ONE can decide what kind of wedding you get to have for yourself, despite being a mother already or anything else. They are not based on anything other than you want one and can have one. I won't say 'Don't let it bother you' because it already did BUT I will say "They succeeded in making you feel bad. Don't give them that power again". People are going to talk regardless of your situation, be prepared to ignore them.

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Hey Kimberly,

like you I have a 6 year old daughter and am engaged to someone who isnt her biological dad . He also has two kids and is divorced. Im happy with going through with a marriage, I dont care to follow tradition in that sense, and if it makes us , or anyone happy that is all that matters.