Any couples living separately before marriage?

View Quoted Comment Woah I highly disagree! I've been dating my FH for 5 years and I can assure you that I know whether or not he snores. Speaking from personal experience and studying psychology for a decade, sex and/or living together can indeed cloud judgement.
Not living together wouldn't 'cloud' judgement, it may not give one enough information to make an accurate judgement.
I noticed people are quick to point out negatives of decisions they did not do, but are slow to point out negatives of decisions that they did do.Lets agree to disagree. Thanks for your contribution.

View Quoted Comment I'm not saying you don't know, just that you don't live with the experience day to day, and you won't until you're married because that is the choice you've made. There's a difference between knowing something and having that as your lived experience. I'm not trying to criticize your choice or your own experience. But yes, agree to disagree.

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I did not feel as such but thanks for the clarification. Okay, have a great day.

View Quoted Comment ALL. OF THIS. My fiance and I were together for 8 1/2 years before we moved in together. And when did, the dynamic of our relationship changed in all of the best ways. You learn what it's like to spend time together every day, while also learning the balance of keeping time for yourself while sharing a living space. You figure out cooking and cleaning together every day and all the other responsibilities that come with cohabitating. It's the little things that may not seem important now that would change, and you can't experience the true extent of those things and how they will affect your relationship until you live together. I wouldn't change that for the world. But as everyone has said it really is up to the couple to know what's best for them.

View Quoted Comment Okay thanks for sharing, Kristin! I did not experience this when I moved in with my FH temporarily at one point. I guess I'm an odd ball lol.

View Quoted Comment How long was temporary? Because unless you had a personal chef and a maid, I don't see how it's possible that you didn't experience cooking and cleaning together every day lol

View Quoted Comment How does living together or having sex together "cloud your judgement"?
About what does it cloud your judgement?

I know i'm late on this topic ...
I'm not sure why you're concerned by their pressure , as long as this is what you and your partner want ... Even if you want this but your fiance doesn't.
However it sounds like you wouldn'y cave: great because otherwise, you would open the door for them to dictate what to do/ not to do about other big,major decisions that only you and your fiance are supposed to make through your married life IfLiving apart from your fiance/fiancee outside the bonds of marriage is like other traditions: they are ditched by most people one day or another. It's he same as the guy asking the father of the bride's permission or the bride's family to foot the whole bill except for the reharsal diner paid by the groom's family, the engagement ring for the bride costs the groom 3 months' salary and so on ...

I think it’s so rare bc the cost of living has sky rocketed and wages not so much. My fiancé and I have been together for 7 1/2, lived together for 4, and engaged for a little over a year. And before we lived together we both still lived w our parents. We couldn’t afford it on our own and now we have a nice size 1bdrm for our city close to our jobs we def couldn’t afford or at least afford much else if we lived alone ..

View Quoted Comment Okay thanks for your input.


I took a relationships and financial class in HS. Best lesson I received was to never get a place with a ronantic partner that you cannot afford on your own. I used to live in Asia and South America in cities where rent is high. Bc of cultural differences, ppl there still do NOT live with a romantic partner before marriage. They live with family or a roommate.

View Quoted Comment Man I wish I went to your HS. A financial class would have been awesome upon graduating hs, but I have learned about finances since over the years. I think it’s not that common for people to live with their SO bc cost of living is so high, but there are always roommates or living with family as you said. It’s just kind of worked for us. We are also no religious which I think is why people may chose to wait too, but it’s not as taboo as it once was to live together before being married and I wanted to live w my partner as that throws new things into a relationship when running a household together. We almost had a kid together until I miscarried and now have pets together and have built a life together. In my eyes marriage didn’t have to come before any of that. I think it’s a matter of opinion really at this point why you would chose to live together or not before getting married.