Any ladies find love & a partner/husband in their 30s?

Very similar! I didn't date at all until I was 28, and by that I mean...yeah, no one. I had resigned myself to just living my best life and focusing on doing my own thing, but then my FH slipped into my life. Or more, we had known each other for 3 years as coworkers, but we had no idea how right we were for each other until we were working on the same project and proved we were a powerhouse team.


He asked me out for Valentine's Day, my first date in my life beyond a few tinder dates that went nowhere. I was so nervous and shy, but he got me then as he gets me now. And I know its tough. Believe me I do. I was so sure I would never get married to the right man, but I relaxed and allowed things to happen like they should.
God it sucks! Sitting next to my FH, cuddled up on a cold night, I remember crying and thinking it would never happen. But you just have to keep moving forward. And remember that you will find love when you're supposed to.

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You are so sweet. Thank you for sharing your story and for your well wishes.

I am getting married next year at the age of 33.

I hopped around in longterm relationships for most of my 20s and in my late 20s, was single for almost 2 years. I really loved those years and got to know myself and what I wanted in a partner and out of life.

I ended up finding the right guy just two years ago and I am glad I had those years to grow as a person.

I know it's easy to say don't worry, but I would enjoy it and good things will come when it's the right time! (people used to say this to me too and I thought they were crazy lol)

I didn't really think I'd find someone I could live with long-term after many super-frustrating roommate situations. Then, when I least expected it, at 27, I met my "Mr Right." We've been together 34 years, married 32+. Things happen when you least expect them!

I was mostly single and focused on work from college on. Decided to start dating in my mid 30s, met FH at 36, we’ll be married when I’m 39. Wouldn’t have it any other way ❤️

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Thanks Lauren! How did you and your husband meet?

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Thanks Neeva. You are right though when you say don't worry and it will come! How did you meet your FH?

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We met at work!

I was looking online but nothing from there every panned out for me.

View Quoted Comment We met on bumble. On line dating is....difficult haha. I was getting ready to delete all the apps and take a break, and then we matched. Matched on a Sunday, date that Tuesday. He proposed about 2 years later.

My story sounds super similar to yours. My last serious relationship ended when I was 33 (we met when I was 31) and I was single (again!) for what felt like forever. Before that I went from long serious relationships to long bouts of singledom twice. And then suddenly FH came into my life when I was 36, and I will be 39 when we wed. We met online. I am his first serious relationship and I can’t believe no one snatched him up but I’m so thankful they didn’t. I went on A LOT of first dates before I met him, and we met right before I was about to sign off of all the apps again. So I guess my point is that since 30 I have had the time to be in both a serious, live in relationship that didn’t work out, and meet the love of my life that did, so there is much in store for you I am sure!

I was 41 when I met FH. I never had much luck with relationships and dating. I was on Match, met a couple of guys that went nowhere. I was basically just riding out my membership at that point. I started doing a lot of soul searching, trying to figure what I wanted out of life. I had always pictured my life as being married and having kids. As I was approaching 40 and not meeting anyone special I went through a grieving process for the life I always envisioned but clearly wasn't going to happen. I got to a point where I realized I had to create a new vision of my life which wouldn't include a husband and kids. I truly accepted that and was ok with that. Than I received a very simple email on Match and my life changed for the better. I still won't have kids, that part of my life has passed. But I do get my fairy tale happy ending when I really no longer expected it.


My advice to you is live the life you want, do things that genuinely make you happy without expectations of meeting someone in the process. Be comfortable, truly ok with being single. While you're busy doing what you enjoy, not thinking about being a relationship, amazing things can happen. He's out there, waiting for you to be genuinely ready for the best thing to come into your life.

Have faith, girl. I figured marriage might not be in my cards but met my hubby in my 40’s, married 3 years later! Been married a few years and still giddy. Worth the wait. Marriage is fun work but unless the right match, I woulda stayed single. ❤️

I met DH when I was 32 (we met on eHarmony). We married when I was 35 and now I’m pregnant with our first (and will probably be our only) at 39.

I was engaged to a guy I dated for 7 years in my 20s. It was a terrible, abusive relationship, and it ended before the wedding. Thank goodness.

Right after I turned 29, I met DH. (He was, um, 22 at the time. Ahem.)

We just got married. I'm 36, he turned 30 days after the wedding. We took our time, for a lot of reasons.

Don't worry, take care of yourself, have fun, do you.

You'll find someone!

Live the life you imagined and true love will happen when it’s time. My mom met the love of her life at 58. She thought she’d be old and single. Now, she’s in love and living with the man of her dreams. It’s possible.

I’m 29 and my fiance is 35, but both of us have had a messy past. Even our relationship with each other has not been perfect and we broke up for 6 months at one point. Hang in there!

I was single for most of my twenties aside from some very casual ‘flings’. Much like Rebecca above, I met my fiancé when I was 28 and he was 22. And let me tell you that he is the most handsome guy I’ve ever seen. I had that whole feeling left out and that I was missing something my whole twenties when my friends were getting married and having children. I thought there was something wrong with me. But nope, there was a reason. You’ll be fine. There was a weird joke I heard once about not getting married in your twenties and about avoiding your first divorce, I personally loved that joke.

I will be getting married next year right before I turn 34. It is definitely possible. I read somewhere that the average age of women getting married is now 33. Don't lose hope, it can be hard to be over the age of 25-ish and be single. Depending on your circle there can be a lot pressure to find a man and start a family. Or sometimes feeling like you are a third wheel. I think over 30 is a great time to get married. Most of the time we have our ish together, we know what we want, and don't waste time with partners who don't have anything going on. Just be open to meeting new people, in person or online. One of my good friend was complaining about not meeting any good men and i asked her where she was looking, she said she wasn't! LOL I had to tell her unless she wanted to date the mail man she has to leave the house to find one!

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I love this! I read somewhere that if you're over 30 and single, maybe you're not doing something wrong. It's because you're doing something right. I hope that is true.

I am 43 and just married the most incredible person for me.

I married my now ex-husband when I was 20, but finally ended it for good before I turned 30. I had two major relationships after, one abusive and horrifying, the other with someone who was too immature to put me and my son first and put us in a bad situation before he decided to bail. I met my wife toward the end of my 30s. We were friends for a few years and got closer around the time I turned 40. After 2 years as a couple we are now married and couldn't be happier. I wasn't looking for any relationship at all, I had chosen to simply live single the rest of my days. I think there was something about that acceptance of myself and not needing someone else that made me ready for the one. There is no time table for these things. And let's be honest, I'm not having any more kids so that is certainly not a concern. When you are ready, and so is that other person, you will figure it out. Enjoy being you for now and good luck!