Any ladies find love & a partner/husband in their 30s?

I was widowed at the age of 24 and single for years after that. I dated but they were all crappy relationships. I met my husband and got remarried at the age of 37. I don't think age matters one bit and timing is everything! Anything is possible!

Hi Penny,

After an 8 year relationship full of mental and emotional abuse and what seemed like a period of rediscovering myself I met my now husband in my late 20's, we got married March of this year and I was 30, now 31. We want kids but not yet, maybe next year maybe the year after. I dont know, I had to learn so much about myself and grow in so many ways before I took this step and I am glad I did because had I gotten married to my ex I would have lived through a worse hell than I did. Thankfully, I was able to reflect on myself and crawl my way out of the fire, I saw strength in me that I had forgotten I had. Then I met Eric and I was terrified that it could happen again but I couldn't let that stop me from finding out and it was the best thing I did. Things will happen at their time for you, you're still young and should be living your best life. Take advantage of your independence and have a blast, when its your turn you won't even see it coming. Lol, at least thats how it seemed, best of luck to you girl and keep your head up!

I met my fiance right before I turned 31. We're getting married next year, I'll be 33 and he'll be almost 28 at our wedding. At first I wasn't sure of our age difference but a lot of his friends are more my age so I don't think much of it now. Ideally I would have liked to have been married before 30 but now that I've been with my fiance I don't think I'd change it.😊

I can very much relate to this. My first real relationship lasted for the entire duration of my 20s--we started dating when I was just a few weeks shy of 20. It was lovely in the beginning but there red flags that I chose to ignore, mostly out of naivety. But life happened and by the time I was 32, I could not ignore the fact that the relationship was bad, so I left. It would take another year for me to fully acknowledge that I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship.

But I also met my fiance around the same time, and we've been engaged for a year now--I'm 36. I imagine the marriage standards in your area may be different from mine (people get married pretty late in life here in SF), but don't fret! You have plenty of time to decide who and what is right for you!

My FH and I are both getting married for the first time at age 40. I was in 2 back to back long term (6 and 7 year, respectively) relationships and a few shorter term ones before that, but I knew even then that they would never amount to much. We basically ended up room mates near the end. My FH and I found each other at age 38. Just when I'd pretty much given up on ever thinking I'd get married (and I was totally ok with that). But then FH came along and here we are...

I was not looking to rush...everyone in my family got married young and are on their 2nd or 3rd wedding...so clearly rushing was not really helpful to them. I am only doing this once.

Just my advice--you need to make sure you are comfortable with you and only you. That is a thing of beauty right there. To be dependent on yourself, to be able to take care of your own stuff, pay your own bills, know the things you enjoy, etc... It's a great feeling to not NEED to be with someone but rather to WANT to be with them. I love my alone time and I love our together time. I truly believe that I wasn't meant to find my guy until later in life. I had no idea what I wanted out of my life, no idea how to just be me...I did a lot of soul searching, tried a bunch of new things...realized I can do things I never thought I could (fix my own vehicles/house repairs and other typical "guy" things that I always thought I needed someone else for). I became fiercely independent. I no longer thought I "had" to have someone to complete my life. I realized my life is fabulous and I, for once, was really, truly happy and I wouldn't settle for anything less than that in my life. My FH is the perfect complement to my life and we can't wait to start our adventure together!

Found my FH when I was in my early 30’s, he is 12yrs older.


Walked through hell with a very Abusive guy for 5yrs and made it out alive- barley. Now I am with the love of my life and am safe and happy!
It IS possible to find someone.

I got married when I was 26 and was widowed when I was 36. I never thought I’d find love again, but when I was 43, it found me and I wasn’t even looking. . Be open and patient. Enjoy your life. The right person will find you at the right time.