Any May 2020 Brides? How Much Have You Planned Already?

View Quoted Comment My wedding date is the 2nd of May and I’m not pushing at the moment. I’ve been in contact with my event coordinator/venue and we’re still holding out. I’m also praying and keeping calm and trying not to stress!

I’m May 9th and we’re still trying for that day, however I did create a plan B with our venue and vendors for July 24th just in case we have to postpone. Really hoping and praying we’ll all be ok with our original dates!!

Our date is May 30. We have most things completed just praying for better days so we can continue our plans. Hoping we don't have to change the date. My bridal shower was supposed to be today but the hotel had to cancel last minute. Feeling a bit panicky.

How did everyone get Plan B dates so easily? Did you manage to keep all your same vendors?
Our wedding is currently scheduled for May 30, and we're really hoping that's late enough to be safe...but after seeing the posts here I decided to start thinking of a backup date.First we reached out to our venue to get the weekends they still have open in 2020, then we sent all those dates to our vendors and asked what they still had available from that list. We haven't heard back from all our vendors yet, but it's already not looking good. So far our DJ can only do one date, my makeup artist can't do any, and it looks like we'll need to find a new person for our cake. I really don't want to start over from scratch with finding all new vendors when we were feeling so good about the team we had put together. ☹️ We've been engaged for 2 years at this point and just wanted to get married already! But at this rate, if we have to postpone, it looks like it'll have to be a whole year later in 2021. We're both so emotionally strained at this point and are not sure what to do.

Much to our dismay we decided to postpone our big day! We are still going to get married that day, but our celebration will be postponed until September. Thankfully, all of our vendors are able to accommodate our new date.

I am so sorry for those of you in our shoes, and even those who can't get the same vendors. It is TOTALLY okay to feel your feelings and be sad.

We're May 9th, and haven't postponed YET. We'll be making the call within the next two weeks. Our honeymoon was just cancelled by the resort, so that sucks, but thankfully we have travel insurance on it. Two weeks ago I emailed my venue and asked for any open Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays for the rest of 2020. Then I did a quick excel sheet on our vendors and who we've put the most money into so far, in that order of importance. I started from the top and emailed each vendor the whole list of dates and started to figure out the best day to reserve a backup date, based on the most amount of vendors that were available. Really hoping July 24th will work if we do have to postpone. Luckily only our florist can't make that date, so we only loose the deposit. Considering everything I'm ok to be out that money and find a new florist.

This is just awful for everyone

We’re still holding out for May 16th. Partially because we’re being optimistic and partially because our venue has no Fridays or Saturdays left this year 😭 So we’d have to reschedule for next year anyway.

Hi Everyone! Just wanted to throw in my two cents, as mine is May 16, 2020. Making a back up plan wasn't easy - I stayed up until 4:30am one night in a panic. Our back up plan is to do the wedding on the same date, just with immediate family (mom, dad, grandma's) and bridal party only. We would still have our venue, photographer, and DJ. We are doing Chipotle for food, so that will be easy to adjust. These are the people who are most important to us, so I am actually pretty okay with it. It takes the stress of the day off as well, as it will be more relaxed. Then, in one year, we want to have an "anniversary party", where we have our entire guest list attend. It gives me incentive to keep working out for a year, so I can wear my dress again! I already have all the decorations, and I just have to try really hard to not change my mind or taste in a year! (much easier said than done). The anniversary party will also be less stressful, because it will just be us - no bridal party. No formal photos. More of a party. This will, unfortunately, mean we pay for a DJ twice (the wedding venue is luckily owned by family so they are very understanding and flexible).

My biggest concern right now is when to pull the plug, and say "We are officially going with the back up plan". I found some other brides through Instagram, and they both said end of April / April 25th before they make their decision. I think that's a good time line, but now for the next month, I am not sure how much effort I need to put into planning. I kind of stopped completely. And if we end up being able to go through with everything, then the last month is going to be extra stressful to make up the time lost.

View Quoted Comment Our wedding is suppose to May 30 too. We have people traveling from Hawaii, Florida, and texas to Vermont. We are still holding out but honestly it would feel better to postpone the event. The idea of people traveling far during this time worries me a bit. We found that Sunday and weekdays have more opening. We are between two dates, oct 4 2020 or May 30,2021. Y’all can elopement then have you’re wedding celebration later. At the end of the day, it’s your wedding day and you should do whatever makes you happy and relax.

So, we were planning to wait until the end of April to make the call on whether to postpone our May 30th wedding. Still optimistic that things can get better. But in trying to decide on a backup date, we reached out to our closest family and wedding party to check their availability, since obviously these are the people we feel NEED to be there.

My fiance's sister responded in the group text "I will only attend something in 2021."

I was shocked she put it so bluntly like that. I was still hopeful and not ready to postpone quite yet, but now I feel like with that one message we are basically forced to, because we would not at all be okay with having the wedding without her there.

Do people really think this whole year will be too dangerous for a wedding??! To me that is such an overreaction. I don't know how to handle this or what to feel.

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry she put it that way to you! As a fellow May 2020 bride (who just postponed) I feel all your pain! We were originally May 9th and have pushed back to July 24th. Everyone has been glad we’ve made the decision to postpone, but we haven’t received any backlash for July (at least yet). I feel like that’s very brass of her to word it like that! If someone told that to me, even if they were in the wedding party, I would just say something like this to them - “ Ok we respect your decision but we’re moving forward with our date, and you can watch it on Facebook live so you don’t have to miss it.” It’s your day, you shouldn’t feel obligated to push it back so far for one person. I think (and hope) that we’ll be in the clear around early June. Has your fiancé talked to her? I’d also start there and see why she’s being so brazen with that reply. Best of luck!!

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Thanks for the advice! She did apologize the next day, and we realized she probably only said it that way because she's been under a lot of stress lately with having to work from home and take care of a toddler at the same time. There's a lot of tension in general right now! My fiance did talk to her on the phone and she then said "we will be there whenever you have it," but she still strongly recommends we postpone and said even if social distancing is lifted, people will feel uncomfortable being in large groups for a while. That might be true, but I also think people will be desperate for a party after all this. Everyone's going to want to get together again as soon as it's safe to do so. I guess the problem is, no one will really know when it is safe. But I am a strong believer in not living in fear. Appropriate caution, yes...but not completely putting our lives on hold for an entire year because of the possibility it will still be a threat.

We did pick a backup date in 2021, and will slowly start the process of solidifying that date, but I still want to wait it out a couple weeks before making it official and communicating a postponement to guests.