Any new/current trends that don't make sense to you?

All of the celebrity entourage things. Going to spas with WP, social things to meet everyone like you are now one big team. Sleepovers, having lots of wedding party stay together overnight, even when not from out of town any great distance. Group dress shopping for bride, group dress shopping for BM, group scheduling of grooming onsite for hours and hours of wedding day for pro makeup, BP doing mimosas and lunch or snacks together wedding Day. Bachelorette s suddenly expected to be minivacations running $500 to $2000 instead of 4+ hours max $100 evening out. Basically, the modern TV wedding. I had been in 36 including one of my own before most changes, and about half since have been new style, the others more old style. It comes down to this: I do not see weddings as the most important days of a bride or groom's life, and do not see them like a film to be directed/ produced/ stage managed by a few people who think they should have every bit of their vision indulged, whether it involves treating family and friends badly, or not. I see being in a weddig as putting on a party or 2 for half a day or an evening, plus rehearsal, a dinner, and being there groomed and dressed in time for pictures, Ceremony, and reception, and spending $200-700 dollars not counting gifts. Not 20-25 days, not $****, which some have not said they expected up front, then did. More wedding have been getting more traditional near me , and I appreciate it.
But pet peeve, this.

Several: wedding party proposals, groom's cake, 10 hours of photography. Nothing wrong with these things. Different strokes for different folks

I understand the obsession with rustic weddings. Everytime I Google decor ideas burlap and Mason jars pop up.

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View Quoted Comment I definitely agree with you. I have yet to see a modern tv wedding scale like this in real life, but the pressure that is forced on brides these days that if they don't have all these things..instead of the truly old fashioned much simpler way of wedding planning..then their wedding will be the disaster of the decade. It's no wonder so many feel it's a burden.

The only 2 things I can think of are how huge weddings have become- it seems like people are expected to invite every single family member no matter how distant (seems like weddings are looked at as family reunions these days), and every “friend” no matter how casual; otherwise people are upset and bitter they didn’t get invited. And also that it has just become expected that guests’ children are also invited.

View Quoted Comment I hear you on the proposals. Calling someone or texting them to ask with a normal conversation is perfectly ok and been done that way since the dawn of time.

View Quoted Comment I don't get the "obligation" invites either. Never noticed that people not invited were upset.

View Quoted Comment Yet real life authentic rustic decor does not include any of those. It's a city-view stereotype that sells

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The guests' children is a big one for me! I feel like I've been forced to use covid as an "excuse" for a kid-free wedding and people are still trying to make me feel bad about it. "Oh you don't want your own godson at your wedding?" Sorry, but NO!! (he's 1, he won't even remember it) A lot of our family/friends have kids, and I don't need a million babies screaming during the ceremony, or parents not drinking and enjoying themselves because they have to watch their children. Rant over

View Quoted Comment That makes sense. For alot of people, weddings are family events and many children are well behaved but get lumped into the unruly category anyway because other parents don't teach their children to behave in public. But as a host, it's definitely your choice and if they don't like it, they can stay home.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with you about how couples are expected to invite literally everyone they've ever interacted with to their wedding!! My fiance and I intentionally booked a smaller venue, so that we had a built-in excuse for not going crazy with the invites (and also because we looove the venue). I was surprised that we had a few people (mostly just acquaintances who we don't really interact with normally) specifically ask us about them getting an invite/save the date.

View Quoted Comment Wedding tv and online articles perpetuate that idea too.
So many of the current generation are being raised without manners. Most people know you don't ask for an invite to anything.

Staged exits.

I am not a fan of the first look. I can logically understand for nerves or photography scheduling but I like the tradition of the groom seeing the bride for the first time walking down the aisle. Or wedding hashtags.

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I can agree with some of what you said but I do not see why getting together with the wedding party to maybe get nails done before the big day as a big deal. I see it as some brides are excited. I know it meant a lot to me to have my MOH get her nails done with me the day before (her suggestion not mine) and she even suggested and paid for us to get a massage. It made me feel special. I can agree not expecting people to spend tons of money but I think wanting to get together and celebrated with loved ones because you are excited is not bad. However you see that weddings are not the most important day of someone's life and that is okay to think that but for me it was a big life event I at one point thought may never come so I was excited to want to celebrate with my nearest and dearest within reason of cours.

View Quoted Comment I agree that people shouldn't ever ask for an invite to a wedding!

There's a few things...the "destination" wedding weekend even though it's only an hour from where the bride and groom live. It's not enough that I have to give a gift but I also have to pay for a hotel? The bridal party proposal. Everything, from the proposal all through to the wedding, being over the top, Instagram perfect. Rustic theme that costs a fortune. Everything being labeled "bridesmaid". Getting ready robes/outfits.

View Quoted Comment I agree with all of those. You can thank wedding tv/articles and Pinterest for those expectations.


But most guests get a hotel room anyway because many couples have close loved ones who don't live in the same city/area.

Choreographed first dances. Hate them. I prefer the couple look at each other like they are in love rather than a staged dance.