Any new/current trends that don't make sense to you?

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I remember a few years back, my friend called me really upset that she had planned to attend a wedding that night, yet "the bride did not want her children there" I asked her what happened, thinking there was a dramatic scene, or something. Instead she said as they were heading out the door she noticed that the invitation specified only her husband and her. So she called someone from the bridal party who clarified, "adults only". I seriously spent around ten minutes explaining to her to not take it personal, that they really deserved a date night together, just them, and that some venues are not kid-friendly, etc.. She was actually very angry

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Oh no, that is so terrible! Something similar happened to me. I received a gift card for my first Mother's Day. I left our 3 month old with hubby, and I was really looking forward to an afternoon alone relaxing, some peace and quiet. Instead there was a bridal party there, loud and obnoxious, (I think they were drinking), and eventually the bride turned into a total bridezilla, then they all started bickering! I could hear them through the wall while I was getting my massage. I was hormonal still, and when I sat for my pedicure, the nail tech started to make small talk with me "an afternoon of pampering? How nice, you deserve to unwind" - as their voices carried, she spoke loudly over them- and I started crying lol the spa gave me a refund (partial) and I was so disturbed by that day that I never went back.

I have always been bad at trends and popular things, so for me, it's a surprise when I *do* end up liking something popular.

Personally, I don't see the point in bridesmaid proposal boxes, bridal boxes, elaborate bachelor/ette trips, signature cocktails, extra signage, and stuff like that.

I was actively against a first look, I think 2 dresses overly extravagant, and I worry about people who insist they need to change their body for their wedding day (changing lifestyles to be able to do things you want to do, which *might* include losing weight, great, but losing weight just to fit into a dress? Hopefully, your FS loves you the way you are).

And while I have enjoyed photo booths at other people's weddings, I did not want one for ours. *Especially* because we had an epic view that was much better for picture taking!

Irony - the one trend I like, we didn't make happen. I love the concept of BMs in matching colors but not dresses. I even encouraged my BMs to pick different dresses.

They all liked the same dress and laughed at me. (To be fair, it was an A-line with support and shoulder coverage that was super flattering for the varied body-types of my BMs. One of them didn't even need it altered *at all*.)

View Quoted Comment Whenever I’ve had a massage or anything similar since then I ask “what is a quiet time to make my appt?” LOL

View Quoted Comment THIS. 100% tired of seeing mason jars and burlap. I also told our stationer that if I see that calligraphy/cursive handwriting that everyone uses, I’ll vomit. Cheesy, rhyming signs goes in that category as well.

View Quoted Comment Children carrying signs, blech!! The past 2 summers before Covid, there were so many times that bridal parties on the entry porch lined up to go in where we have 3 small old churches, on Saturdays people slowed down to look, as usual. But instead of usual twittering comme ts, people keptessaging the local paper, asking why children are picketing the churches. Which is what I first thought. Comic strips and books need captions. On children, No. Dear bride, I cannot remember what color your BM dresses were, or a single thing about your gown. Everyone was still laughing at the kids with stupid signs. I am sure that is not what was wanted, but each live wedding with kids with signs, Daddy and the bride went by barely noticed. ..A year of planning, and you put the worlds attention grabbers just before you. Big Mistake.

View Quoted Comment How funny! I love kids in the wedding with signs. 💕 So cute. We didn’t have a wedding party but I love creative ideas for little ones in weddings. I guess the saying “different strokes for different folks” is true. 😆

View Quoted Comment I agree with all of these.

Engagement parties. if you're throwing a party to celebrate your engagement . . isn't that the wedding? lol not knocking it but for me it's a bit too much since there is already a bach party and bridal shower.

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Lmao same thing happened with the dresses. I wanted different styles in dusty blue. they all liked the same dress so we went with 2 dusty blue and 2 navy.

View Quoted Comment Or maybe you never had to walk a real picket line, with jobs and health things on the line. Takes away the cuteness factor. But, to each her own, yes.

Rustic weddings-especially when neither person is country at allllllll

View Quoted Comment Both my FH and I worked at Michaels during the rise of mason jars and burlap. When we started planning our wedding his first input on decor was "no mason jars or burlap" glad we were on the same page there.

Photo booths, and those instant cameras. They are just extra expenses that sit around unused for most of the event from my experience. The cameras and film are way overpriced and no guest wants to reload them.

Oh goodness where do I start! I think the biggest one is first looks. It’s almost expected for every couple now and when I was searching for our wedding photographer each one was shocked when I said we weren’t doing one.


Anything super on trend is always a bad idea. 3 years ago it was burlap, mason jars, getting married in a barn, succulents as every favor; now it’s neon signs, those triangular arches, huge bouquets with “untraditional” flowers and the photographers using that bronzy-orange filter for everything. Too many couples base their entire wedding look on what they see on Instagram/Pinterest/TikTok and don’t add enough of their own personal ideas or interests so every wedding ends up looking the same. It’s funny to hear brides now look back on their **** “babies breath in a mason jar” weddings and regret doing those trends because now it’s so dated.

Weddings are ever changing. What the "thing" to do now wasn't the "thing" 10 years ago and that's okay... change is good people! It's actually crazier to me that people want to keep antiquated aspects alive and call it "traditional". Those were just the trendy "thing" of that decade/century/etc! There's just as much pressure from TV/parents/internet and general outside sources to keep outdated and old-fashion "things" alive like not seeing each other until walking down the aisle, garter and bouquet toss, matchy matchy bridesmaids etc (most "traditions" are super sexist and not everyone is comfortable with that). Just a friendly reminder it's okay for one person to choose a "trend" of the past while another chooses a "trend" of today and there's no reason for anyone to judge the personal preferences of another.

Weddings are ever changing. What the "thing" to do now wasn't the "thing" 10 years ago and that's okay... change is good people! It's actually crazier to me that people want to keep antiquated aspects alive and call it "traditional". Those were just the trendy "thing" of that decade/century/etc! There's just as much pressure from TV/parents/internet and general outside sources to keep outdated and old-fashion "things" alive like not seeing each other until walking down the aisle, garter and bouquet toss, matchy matchy bridesmaids etc (most "traditions" are super sexist and not everyone is comfortable with that). Just a friendly reminder it's okay for one person to choose a "trend" of the past while another chooses a "trend" of today and there's no reason for anyone to judge the personal preferences of another.

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Choreographed dances. Unless you are both into that sort of thing, like dance instructors and such, I don't see the freaking point! I also do not like that everything is "rustic" theme. Proposal boxes and such for the wedding parties that are extravagant. GIANT weddings. I am very personal with my life and cannot fathom inviting 100+ to an event like this. I only want those closest to me that actually give a damn.

View Quoted Comment As a country girl ( we have barns in use!) this burlap and mason jars as decorations garbage is a completely foreign thing. ot from country people, but from those who know nothing of country, bizarre spawn of Pinterest.