Any one else sick of listening to other people?

When I first decided to have a DW wedding, my family tried to bribe me out of it. I would've gotten 3k more from their wedding donations ( I didn't ask for anything, they offered ) if I just got married here. Which was incredibly annoying because (DW in MX) we have gone to MX as a family 5+ times. They love to travel. My mom IS A TRAVEL AGENT? But for some reason when I chose this as my wedding, it was like "why? just get married here...." and sent me a bunch of inexpensive venues that were 100% not what I was looking for.

You're not alone. Your wedding is going to be perfect for YOU and your FH. That's all that matters! I'd try and stop responding to FBIL when he says that, or if you're comfortable say, "I understand that your wedding unfortunately got derailed and I'm sorry because that's really crappy. But it's pretty discouraging when you make comments like that."

Oh my, I can't believe they tried to bribe you out of the wedding you want! That always blows my mind when people people offer to help pay and then try to dictate what's happening! So sorry you had to deal with that!!

I'm way more comfortable then that I just tell him to shut up lol but that doesn't stop him.

I totally understand what he means, his wedding cost so much money and they honestly didn't get a lot out of it (at the end of the night him, FSIL and the bridal party had to tear down the venue and pack all their stuff up that night) while for us our venue is doing all of that and even if they weren't my mom would designate people to do it for us. FSIL and him are NOT planners, so a lot of stuff for their stuff wasn't done by the day of the wedding and we were literally making signs the morning of. But we're completely different people, my wedding is a little over a month away and ALL my stuff is done and organized.

I don't mind if after the wedding he wants to share his feelings, but just keep ya mouth shut for the next month and let us enjoy our wedding before you start bashing weddings lol

ESPECIALLY knowing that we all love to travel, even travel together? It was so dumb. Hahaha I'm so glad you're not shy about it, honestly when it comes to your wedding 9/10 you have to really put your foot down. So many posters on this forum literally get steamrolled by family/friends/bridal parties and end up so stressed out and regretting the entire planning process! That's so terrible for your FBIL, I cant imagine my wedding going up in flames like that, but not planning WAY ahead of time...they were def asking for a disaster. I think he's just jealous, lol.

Yes that makes it even crazier! I could understand if you guys never travelled and all of a sudden you're like "hey we're going to go to this place we've never been to get married" lol

I've been a super relaxed bride, and just keep telling everyone I don't care when they ask me questions or "permission" for something cause I really don't I just want to marry my FH and everyone to have a good time! But some people are just starting to get on my last nerve

I don't understand how they didn't learn from their CT wedding that got cancelled last August, they drove up to CT a week before the wedding and that whole week my FSIL were making signs and décor for the wedding literally up until the phone call that the venue was cancelling the wedding, how they then had 7 more months to prepare and they still weren't prepared I will never know lol

Sorry negative nancy is in your ear. Everyone is in some way traumatized by their wedding. When I got married 20 years after some of my friends, they got triggered and unearthed their trauma. Shutting it down is as easy as a finding that one-liner. And when all else fails, you can use the go-to reserved for pets, "No." Keep on repeat. You got this.

THANK YOU!! I am so tired of random people giving me their input on our wedding or really any wedding in general! I am so over this wedding stuff and ready for it to be over!

SO with you! This is the exact reason I've been so cagey and secretive about our plans. If anyone asks about something, my response is usually either "we haven't decided yet" or "it's a surprise." I love surprising people, but I really love having as little reason to hear their opinions as possible lol.

My favorite is when people say "it's just a day." Like, yes, it's a 24 hour period, but I don't usually pour thousands of dollars into a random Tuesday. This is a major milestone in my life, and it's important to me!

Or when people feel the need to comment on how much money we're spending for the wedding. We're planning a wedding we can afford since we're paying for it ourselves, but some people are convinced I'm throwing some opulent 7-figure soiree when I talk about some of the things I'm thinking about or our venue. I used to work for a wedding planning company, so I planned our wedding super strategically, and we're probably spending a lot less than a lot of people in our area. But anything more than an undecorated ceremony in my parents' backyard wearing a dress out of my closet with dinner at the local McDonalds sends people into a frenzy 🙄

I know! Everybody's got an opinion, it's infuriating!

My FBIL's wedding (both that he planned but he did get a full refund for the CT One that never happened) were like triple what FH and I are spending.

I will say FH and I are SO SO lucky, as my parents are footing pretty much 90% of the bill with FH's parents helping a little. We still remained VERY conservative in our planning and aren't spending anywhere near what his brother did. I don't know why people get married and then complain about the money spent, YOU KNEW HOW MUCH YOU WERE PAYING WHEN YOU WERE BOOKING ALL THESE PEOPLE. Be mad at yourself not the world.