Any other bride to be’s anxious about not having the girl friends to choose bridesmaids from?

I'm like you I don't have many friends and I don't have close friends. I'm not a people person, social butterfly nor do I like going out or really have time to maintain friendships. I'm an adult who works hard and has responsibilities and people who are friends just tend not to understand. After working long hours and overtime just about all the time then coming home and doing house work, the last thing I want is to hang out or go somewhere and I definitely don't want to spend my days off partying. I don't get many days off so when I get them I want to just chill at home with my man. And then you get the we never hang out, you never want to do anything, blah blah blah. So I ditched my friends and anyone who wants to be friends I'm like na I don't got time for that.


Since I'm very close with my family and their significant others, I have my 3 brothers girlfriends in the wedding, my 12 year old niece and my mom.

I relate to this. I wanted the people who stood by me to be those who have always been there for me, despite their gender. I ended up asking my best friend (male) as my best man, my cousin as my MOH, and members of my FH’s family I’m close to as bridesmaid and junior bridesmaid.


Don’t be too hard of yourself. It’s not necessary to have an even amount of bridesmaids vs groomsmen. If FH has a lot, maybe have them remain seated throughout the ceremony, and for pictures they can split and stand on either side of you both that way it doesn’t make it seem all on FH’s side and disproportionate if that worries you.
Include the people who mean the most to you, that’s all that matters.

As others have said have it be the closest people to you regardless of gender. Or opt out of a wedding party perhaps. I know many people are going this route. I think it’s great to mix things up and have whomever is closest to you represented, or just have the focus be on the two of you

I have somewhat the same problem. I have a lot of friends but I feel that their not as close to be a bridesmaid. My fiancé on the other hand, has a ton of friends and even said himself that it would be hard for him to choose. We both decided to just make it easy on ourselves and not have a wedding party. So, no maid of honor, best man, brides maids or groomsmen.


I still have a few girls I go to and want to go to when I try on my dresses, planning and if I need a hand with anything. I just think it makes it a little easier and simpler.

I know exactly how you feel! I'm going through the same thing right now...most of my relationships are with coworkers and although I like hanging out with them it's not like we are extremely close as to ask them such a thing....the only thing I know so far is that my sister will be my maid of honor and that's it.

Thank you guys so much! I feel a whole lot better! I’d feel happier with just my sister and my best male friend. I was worried that the ratio would be off and it wouldn’t be balanced. I worry and overthink too much!

You don’t need any if you don’t want- your mother can be one if really needed. It’s your day. Make it what you want! We only have one on each side! And it’s less of a headache and less expensive that way.

I’ve had a similar experience. Don’t have too many girlfriends, barely enough to invite to my wedding let alone be in the bridal party. I wasn’t even going to have a wedding party initially because I thought it would look weird if the wedding party was small but honestly it’s what makes you happy. The bonds mean more than the optics, if you only have one bridesmaid then shall be it. Best of luck, you are not alone.

I have a really hard time bonding with other females, despite being friendly and always up for a good time. I seem to only make "party" friends, temporary ones that hang around for a little.

I have my absolute ONE best female friend who is my MOH.

I don’t have a ton of girl friends either. We are having a small wedding so we decided not to have a bridal party and have it just be focused on us.

I'm in the same boat. I don't really have friends like I used to. Luckily, I'm close to my older and younger sisters and they are going to be my bridesmaids. It's totally ok to feel that way. For me, I just thought about the people who meant the most to me and those were the ones I want next to me on my big day.

I have one close friend and she is my maid of honor. I don’t have many girlfriends as well just from moving around and whatnot. Have none of you don’t feel close to any! Weddings are changing and you don’t have to go with what used to be!!! Do what you feel good about. If you want a few bridesmaids then maybe pick one or two friends and try to get closer? There’s no one saying you have to be close friends for years just to have them in your wedding!

I don't have many girlfriends. The ones I do have also live in different states and countries. I asked my FSIL and my brother's girlfriend to be in my wedding party.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree with Michelle. I found this to be the reason I was getting so stressed and unhappy when planning originally. I realised I was trying to create a fairytale white wedding, but that's just not us. We're both modern, untraditional, casual people, yet I was struggling with who to have as bridesmaids, despite not having any close female friends. 🙈 To add to that, FH doesn't have any guy friends either. I suggested he could have his mum or sister with him instead, but he didn't seem quite sold. I've since thought that his brother in law would be the right person for his best man, if he wants one at all.

As it stands right now, I'm hoping to have my unofficial brother (close friend who is like the brother to me) as my man of honor/person to give me away. I told him recently that he'll be the only non-relative that I'm inviting, and the look on his face was priceless. I could see he was very touched. ☺️

I totally feel this way. I had a really good group of friends in high school and when we got to college our lives just went in totally different directions, or I realized that the friendships were toxic. I met my MOH in college and honestly she's about my only close girl friend. I'd love to have more bridesmaids but my fiancé and I decided to just do a MOH and BM and leave it at that. That way we aren't putting someone we barely know in an awkward position where they feel like they have to say yes to standing up.

Definitely had this issue! I only knew of like 2 friends i knew I wanted to be apart of my day and 2 I was iffy on. Then a friend of mine actually told me she would love to be apart of the wedding in some way so I asked her to be a bridesmaid then I officially had 3. I asked the 2 I was iffy on but since then the friendships went flakey and I decided they weren't going to be part of my wedding. Fortunately my fiance introduced me to two of his coworkers and we all got a long so well and hung out all the time so I ended up asking them! Unfortunately probably still lost one since it was my fiancés daughter and we don't think the mother will allow her and his son to be apart of the day...

I’m skipping the wedding party for this reason. It does mean that you’ll have to find others to delegate tasks to. For example, I plan to have my mom hold my bouquet, and she’ll attend my fittings to make sure she can bustle my dress (and maybe also take a video of it just in case). And we’ll check with the officiant to see if she can hold our rings since there won’t be a best man.