Hey everyone! I'm 37, just got engaged, the wedding date is planned for February 2020 (relatively short turnaround as we want to try to get pregnant shortly after). Anyway, I'm just feeling like the odd one out among my circle of friends and coworkers as among my group of friends everyone either 1) got married in their late 20s or 30 at the latest and have one or two kids by now (or aren't planning on having kids) or 2) is happily single and not opposed to finding someone but not planning on having kids. I feel like I'm already so behind with my coupled up friends because most of their kids are already around 5 or 6 by now! I do have some friends who are on or planning their second marriages already but they already have kids and aren't planning on having any more.
I'm "late" compared to others as I didn't meet my fiance until I was 31 and he's significantly younger than me and took a while before he was "ready" to settle down and have kids and we finally decided since I'm 37 this year to do it now.
I'm just feeling a bit bummed because I was at a family thing with his extended family this weekend and his female cousin who is 29 was telling me how she's been pressuring her boyfriend for months he needs to propose NOW because "I don't want to walk down the aisle when I'm old and wrinkly like 35" and that "I want to have kids soon and I think it's selfish of mothers who have kids after 35 when they don't have the mobility and energy to have kids at that age". I know she didn't mean anything by it because I'm sure she assumes that I'm the same age as my fiance and not 37 but I had this moment of "Oh geez, have I waited too long? Am I going to look old in my wedding pictures while I would have looked better a few years ago? Maybe I should have pressured my fiance more like she is with her boyfriend" lol.
I do take some comfort in knowing that Megan Markle was 37 when she got married and pregnant and she looked amazing lol.
Anyway, looking for any other brides in the same boat as me so I don't feel so alone here!