Anybody having issues with not giving every single person a plus one???

Truly single individuals do not need a plus one if you can't afford it. We only had a few truly single people, so we gave everyone a plus one, and only 1 person opted for one. As long as you invite anyone who has a significant other, by name, you're fine with not giving people plus ones. If you opt to give some and not others, make sure that you have a clear rule (like people traveling a long distance only or something).

View Quoted Comment Thank you for that! We have people who just met someone and are pist they don’t have a plus one. I thought we were going crazy but I am not spending money on someone I do not know. Thank you for the insight definitely will make a consistent rule about it!

View Quoted Comment So the general rule I have heard is that if someone is in a relationship by the time invitations go out, that partner should be invited, by name. Since your wedding is in July, I would maybe keep that on my radar because someone who just started dating someone now could potentially be dating dating 4 month or so by the time the wedding comes around. Invited typically go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Gotcha! But that’s too less of a time for me personally to invite someone I don’t know to our wedding, especially if I don’t know the name 🤣. Good thing we can make our own rules for this day, Thank you!!

I don’t want anyone’s gross tinder randos at my wedding. I also don’t need on again off agains. The ‘plus ones’ are always the girls that try to one up the bride.

Covid times call for covid measures. Before I felt bad telling ppl “No im sorry” you cant bring your random friend that I have never met or heard of to the wedding. But now I dont feel bad. We are going to have to make serious cuts to our guestlist . Unfortunately some ppl will have to be uninvited and now plus ones are definitely limited to only a select few people.

View Quoted Comment Preach!!!!

Your not going crazy! We have a few singles that aren’t bringing any plus 1’s. I wouldn’t want their date of the month in my wedding pictures. If they get pissed, they get pissed!

View Quoted Comment This is spot on and absolutely the correct etiquette for this situation

I have no issue not giving everyone a plus one! You'll see a lot on WW about how all couples, no matter the time together are a package -- I am not going by this and think it's totally up to you who you want at your wedding. I know for me, my seating is very limited. No way in the world I'm giving someone's boyfriend of three weeks a seat. I'm going by rings, and long term relationships! But what really trumps that for my FH and I, is if we know/have met the person -- if we haven't, you're not coming. I think Covid weddings throw some etiquette out of the window.

"Rude" or not, it's the way we're doing ours! So you do what you think is best and fits what you can do!

View Quoted Comment I COULD NOT AGREE WITH YOU MORE!
Our seats are limited too, there’s no way I am giving it to someone who I don’t even know their name! THANK YOU FOR THIS!!

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I just can't reason with 'plus one etiquette' when letting someone bring their boyfriend or girlfriend may mean I can't have someone I really love at a celebration being had in our honor. "Sorry grandma, you can't come to our wedding because Susan is bringing this guy she just started seeing and it would be rude to not include him." Just, no LOL

Plus ones (random singles, not significant others) are never a requirement, nor is it rude to deny them, even pre-Covid. Countless couples do not allow plus ones but they do make sure tgat anyone in a relationship is acknowledged and invited appropriately. For example, it is rude to not invite a couple because they are not yet married or engaged, or because you have not met their significant other. You cannot ask someone to celebrate your relationship while disrespecting theirs, whether they have been together 4 months or 40 years.

On the flip side, I seriously question people who feel that unattached singles cannot enjoy themselves unless they bring a random friend and that they will not know one or more guests to have fun with. I have never seen this nor met anyone who has experienced it.

Skip the plus ones. Skip the relatives you aren't close to. Invite your best friends because many of them care more about you than family does sometimes.

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Michele, I was expecting a comment soon that didn't agree with mine! LOL

I seriously can't understand why this is even controversial in the wedding world. If your seating, or even your budget, is limited, you simply don't have to invite anyone who you don't care to have there.

I have to ask, if it were to come down to telling someone who you really loved and wanted there that they couldn't come, or telling someone that has a new boyfriend/girlfriend that you aren't able to include them - which would you chose?

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The only ones who should be in attendance are those nearest and dearest to you that you cannot imagine the day without and their significant others. Random dates are not significant others.

Playing devil's advocate, I going to assume the one you really want in attendance is a best friend who had to be cut to fit relative, alot of whom you may not interact with but were pressured to invite. Assuming save the dates have been sent to over 100 and it has to be downsized to bare minimum. Pick the best friend and tell the couple you will meet up with them when it is safe to do so.

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I'm sorry, but in this case I won't invite the friend if I have to chose between my grandma (as you provided earlier) and my friend plus her BF.

This is a matter of prioritizing your fringe groups. It's trimming your obligatory cousin, and grandma's sister invites to include a friend's SO, not cutting an aunt or uncle you're close to.

You're comparing apples to oranges.

If I invite a friend and I haven't met their SO yet, I'd make sure to find room for them on the list or not invite either one. Because I know they're in a relationship, and it's rude to exclude their partner in a night out.

Straight up, if I have someone I'm good friends with and want them to come to my wedding, and the week of invitations going out I find out they've been seeing someone I'm adding them. Maybe someone else will say no, or at this point I can say, oops. Cousin who I don't want there anyways can get from the list.

No one expects you to kick grandma off the list to invite Sally's boyfriend

If 👏🏻 You 👏🏻 Cant 👏🏻 Afford 👏🏻 the 👏🏻 SO 👏🏻 You 👏🏻 Can’t 👏🏻 Afford 👏🏻 the 👏🏻 Friend 👏🏻


If you can’t fit the SO on the guest list for space, you can’t fit the friend either!
Stop diminishing people on the basis of “I haven’t met them” “they’ve only been together a few weeks”
They’re in a relationship and you treat them as such.

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Exactly! Also, stop assuming they just met 2 weeks prior on Tinder.

View Quoted Comment I just don’t agree! I’m sure your guests really appreciate that you’d be willing to add a spot for them if they were to start up a relationship right before your invites go out. But I just simply won’t be.

I don’t think by not including a boyfriend or girlfriend in your guests list, especially if they’re a new relationship & especially if you’re having to be selective with the list, is disrespecting that relationship. And honestly, this particular event is about honoring my relationship, not someone else's.

I’ve been to several weddings that my then boyfriend wasn’t invited to — the wedding was smaller for whatever reason that the bride and groom didn’t have to explain to me. I never have taken offense to that because I, myself, was invited to an event. They wanted me there, they may not have wanted to make space for, or pay, for my boyfriend who they didn’t know to eat dinner and drink all night. The grandma reference is because sometimes, that is the case. If I’m only given so many seats at my wedding and I have to create a guest list based off of what’s deemed “rude” by other brides on a wedding forum who don’t have the same circumstances I may have, my wedding could be 50% filled with people I don’t know or care to have there with me. If you’re able to give those guests a plus one, or add their new S.O to the invite, that’s great and I’m sure they will really appreciate it. Every situation isn’t like that.

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Tinder or last weeks church service, you’re not entitled to come to a $100+/head dinner because you met someone who is invited to my wedding.