Anyone asking family/wedding guests for their opinion on postponement?

No. We haven't. We've had to postpone a few times before the virus and we feel if we took everyone's feelings into consideration, we'd never get married. If you really feel like you want to do that, I wouldn't do it on fb. I would email everyone personally and ask then tally them up. Just to keep better track and make sure that you've actually reached everyone on your list.

I actually considered this also. Right now, we are scheduled to get married in October down in Florida, but I have a massive amount of my 160 wedding guest list coming down from the Northeast. I did ask all four of my mom’s sisters who live in the NE in a group text today what their opinions were about flying down because 1) because they’re all older and the husbands and uncles I’m sure feel the same way as them 2) it was a good amount of people to ask, without having the ask the entire family. I already have a big Facebook group with all of my cousins and their significant others (I have a very very big family) and I considered asking in the Facebook group, and the more I thought about it, I let it be and didn’t do it. I just left it at asking a handful of aunts. If you are concerned about families opinions, maybe ask the most vulnerable only? Those are the opinions that might actually matter.

We did tell our families how we were eloping May 16th and not doing a vow renewal or later reception due to finances and just not wanting to, and got a lot of negative feedback and lack of support. So after that I learned I'll never ask a family member their opinion again.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I’m worried about! The smart thing to do is probably postpone but some people can be really negative about it. And this whole situation stings so the last thing I’d want is for someone to rudely say we need to postpone. There’s just so much that goes into postponing. Added fees, etc.

View Quoted Comment I think I might do that, thank you! So far all of our friends don’t mind and think we should have the wedding. My moms best friend also says she’ll be there but when I asked my other aunt she said “you’re not going to like your uncle’s answer” :\

Another option is to use Survey Monkey or Google Forms rather than a Facebook poll, then you can email the survey specifically to your guests rather than getting responses from uninvited friends.

Honestly, I wouldn't. Maybe reach out to a few important people, but... too many cooks spoil the soup, if you will.

View Quoted Comment Exactly! It's a big decision to make

View Quoted Comment This 100%. Poll your most crucial VIPs if you want input from others, and make the decision from there.

I wouldn't do this. We just sent our postponement notice today for our August 8th, 2020 wedding and I've already gotten so many "thank you" responses. It also could cause a situation where people will start debating the politics of the pandemic and judging the people who feel it will be safe and vice versa.
Ultimately we made the decision ourselves and with our parents. I don't want to have a wedding where I can't hug my guests or dance the night away.

Best of luck!

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Ooh I didn't think about the politics aspect! Good call! If you don't mind me asking, did you postpone to a date in 2021, and are you at all worried that the postponed date could be affected as well? That is my biggest concern and why we are hesitant to postpone if we don't absolutely have to.

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We are postponing to either August 2021 or October 2021. We just have to decide by Tuesday.

YES we are worried about 2021. Especially my fiancée. We discussed our concerns with the venue and they have worked it into our contract that we can make the call to cancel (or postpone again) 6-8 months before the new date. We don't want to have to go through the stress of waiting until 2 months before like we did this time. We aren't even sending the new date out to people until early 2021. Just let everyone know it's postponed and stay tuned.

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Oh that is smart! We put a soft hold for June 2021 but I will definitely ask about cancelling if June doesn't work out because if we have to postpone a second time, I would rather get our money back than postpone again. Waiting another year or two is just not worth it for us. Sigh, hopefully everything works out!!

We are supposed to have our wedding overseas and haven’t asked anyone partly because I’m afraid people will ask us to postpone by quite awhile, and be hurt if we end up eloping or something instead, it’s our day and I feel like if people aren’t comfortable they don’t have to go, but that’s to say we’re having a wedding anyway!