Anyone change jobs in the middle of engagement?

You just let them know ahead of time that you need certain dates off. If they are not okay with it then you stay at current job or give up those dates

I’m not very happy at my current job and just applied for a new one last week. FH encouraged it and said to just be very upfront when I go in for an interview that I’m planning my wedding and the venue and honeymoon are already booked. Good luck to you!

After they offer you the job would be the time to let them know you already have a couple of trips planned, and you would need to keep these dates off. If there are a couple that are non-critical, I might try to postpone those, so you are only asking for the minimum necessary.

But if there's a good opportunity and you hate where you're at, it's worth looking into.

If you get offered the job then you should bring up the dates you absolutely need off. That will determine if you stay at the current job or leave. (Also, I'm sorry, but I LOL'd when you said you drive 25 minutes. I drive 45-50 one way every day, 25 would be a dream!)

I changed jobs shortly before my BFF's wedding a few years ago. i was really clear about the time i was going to need off for the wedding weekend and for a couple events leading up to it, and they gave me my options--it was an org with really weird and restrictive vacation rules, so i ended up taking the time i needed as unpaid "exceptional" leave, but i was happy to at least have a plan. just be clear with them that there's time you'll need, as PPs said try to minimize that amount as much as you can so you're not asking for a ton of stuff right off the top, but definitely i would pursue the opportunity, especially if it'll make your work life happier in the long run!

I changed jobs in the middle. No big deal. Once you are offered the position, then tell them that you will need X, Y and Z days off. If they say no, you simply don't accept the position. Who would want to work for a company like that anyway?

Don't tell them during the interview process. That's the absolute worst thing I think you can do. As a manager, I would immediately take you off of my list since it creates the impression that you're more worried about time off than the job - even though that obviously wouldn't be your intention at all.

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Same here, lol.

I agree, just bring it up ahead of time. We had a guy just leave our office 2 weeks ago and is getting married this weekend. He said they had no problem but he had to take a few of the days unpaid.

I change jobs in the middle of my wedding planning. I left a daycare and took a nanny position at a house. I know it was a risky move but I told the lady up front that I need time off and she was understanding. You just have to be honest with your new job about getting married and what days you need off.

I actually just got a new job that I start Monday. Luckily I automatically get PTO as soon as I start so my wedding next year won't be a problem. It's what you feel is best, but I did it and am really glad I am going to be working somewhere new and my wedding is next May so I have time to discuss my wedding and honeymoon with them. Just discuss with a new job if you get one and see if they're understanding of it and if so, go there!

Get it is writing that you get X days off for your wedding before you start working.

I changed jobs in the middle too and they were more than happy to approve my time off right away. I just had to let them know. Some companies, like mine, don’t have pto for the first year, but they let me borrow it from my next year.

I agree with not taking the job if they don’t approve your time off. There will be more jobs available after you get back

I graduated with my MSW right after we got engaged. I am currently a week away from starting a new full-time position. I told them in advance of the dates I already knew and honestly it is sometimes easier to do that, then when are already working there.

I agree that you should bring up the dates you need off after you get an offer. At my last job, my boss actually chose not to hire someone because she kept bringing up certain times she needed off all throughout the interview.

Go for it and just be honest about your upcoming plans. We will be in Vegas from Oct 24-31 for our wedding and he is starting a new job on Aug 27th. They were perfectly fine with the time off he needs and this job is going to help his sanity.

You'll never know until you try!

I switched jobs in the middle of my engagement and it was the best move I made! I also worked at a job that I didn’t care for, worked long hours l, and brought stress home. After I moved on from the job to my new job that is amazing I no longer being stress home or work crazy hours. I wish you the best of luck!

FH just went for an interview today and was upfront about the honeymoon time he'll need off and they were fine with it. I started a new job a month ago, and was upfront that I will need the honeymoon time off and my wedding week off and they were totally fine with it.

I am just changing jobs myself and understand the feelings. I am paying for the wedding on my own with no help from family. My FH keeps reminding me to let God guide me through this so to do that I pray about it every time I get anxious. I am also writing down all the needs, wants and wishes (both his and mine) for the event with current prices (ignoring sale prices) so I can anticipate the expenses and make a budget I can stick with. I know I can't full anticipate everything but it helps to know what I'm looking at so I know what I can live with and what I can't live without.

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THIS. Also others may have mentioned to get it in writing if they agree to the time off.

That said, I accepted an internal transfer in January and the job was to start April 1 with us moving to a new city in the summer. FH proposed in February and my job has been totally accommodating. Most are. And if they aren't, it could be an indication of how they treat employees. Also, FH is looking for a new job now and his plan is the above. It will work out!

I say submit your resume, interview, and see what happens!

You should have some vacation time this year and next year as well to take days off....Good Luck!