Anyone change jobs in the middle of engagement?

I started at my current job in January and will getting married next month. I'm not taking a lot of time off for the wedding itself (three days), but I have had to use PTO on a few occasions for vendor meetings, family visits, etc. My boss knew I was engaged when I interviewed, and during my first week here we sat down with the team calendar and he made sure I had the days I needed surrounding my wedding marked off (even though it took 3 months to be able to submit to HR). Like you said for your situation, it's better pay, better hours, and a shorter commute. Plus I'm not exhausted and cranky from work stress 24/7 so I can actually schedule and allocate my time wisely. Apply for the job. Have an honest conversation if they offer it to you. The new job transition might be tough for a couple of weeks, but ultimately you'll be so much better off. And there's no guarantee the job will still be there after you get married - you really do need to go for it while you can.

I was trying to find a new job too, while engaged. I went on a couple interviews nothing worked out. Now that the wedding is two months away, I’m just going to stick with my job until it’s over. I think it will be much easier than telling a new job, hey I need all this time off. But up until this point, I was looking.

The way I see it is you can't put your life on halt due to wedding planning! I am casually looking/applying at the moment bc the truth is I am not making what I should. FH is also waiting on a few things to go through. Neither of us are quitting until we are 100 percent in a new job. You just need to be smart about it! Also while you may be able to get a day or two off for the wedding, I would imagine it will be hard to get off for a honeymoon right away so that may need to be put off til a later time!

I switched schools a few months before my wedding, as my charter school closed in June, I got married the following October. I guess I had no choice, lol! It was no biggie, I put in for PTO for the Friday before and the Monday after, I told no one I was getting married.

I would go for the new job!!!!! More money, closer to home? You go girl!!!

I received a promotion so more money different department but it is still with the same city municipality. I put in my leave time for the honey before I left my previous job so it would already be on the books but i did not mention during my interview that I was planning a wedding I did not share that until I was selected for the position but so far my job as been working with me. Being that I work for EMS and my wedding is planned at the end of the summer most of the busy time will be over. I would say go with what would make you happen in the long run and where you can progress.

It should be fine tell your new employer right away, as soon as you get an offer (BEFORE you accept it!) that you’re getting married and you’ll need x amount of days off. If you let them know before you accept the job, you having those days off can be one of the terms of your employment.

I didnt “switch” jobs but I was a few months away from graduating college when I got engaged. My boss knew right away that I was getting married soon and would need some days off... since I haven’t been an employee long enough, the system won’t let me officially “request” those days off, but he asked me which days I’d be out and has it marked in an unofficial calendar!

My daughter and her FH both took new jobs and moved to another state a couple months ago and their wedding is in November. Neither employer had an issue with the time off they needed for the wedding. They are changing their honeymoon plans, but overall they are much happier where they are now. No need to put your lives on hold for the wedding!

I just had an interview and it went great! The hard part is telling my boss that I'm leaving. He's a hothead and everyone that's put in a notice with him he's told not to come back. A hostess texted him her notice, but it was really well written, I know a text is unprofessional, but she was young and sweet and he told her not to come back. Same with some other people. I guess we'll see.

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Right??? I have a 52 mile one-way commute... so 25 min sounds like a DREAM! LOL

But on a serious note, I am in a similar situation... I former coworker is trying to get me to come work with her at her new company... the money would be better, and it would be closer to home... But I am struggling with the decision because despite those "pros" I would be giving up some security, knowing I am liked and respected and on the right "path" where I am... also giving up all the vacation time I have banked up in anticipation of my wedding and honeymoon next year, plus I like what I do... there's a lot of pros and cons for making either decision but ultimately I am trying to not get too stressed out about it until I have the actual offer from the new company... It's premature to get worked up about it until I know what's actually on the table. Good Luck!