Anyone else avoiding wedding showers?

Yes! We are skipping a lot of the “extra parties”. We didn’t do an engagement party, and I’ve requested not to have a bridal shower or wedding shower. I also requested no bachelorette party (although my MOH did convince me to do a trip to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter in lieu of a traditional bachelorette party, but it ended up being cancelled because of Covid). I’m not a fan of all the extra stuff that gets tacked on either. And I’ve always hated showers as a guest, so there was no way I wanted one as a bride! I can’t think of many things more awkward than sitting in front of people while they watch me open their gifts, and then having to put on some fake, over-the-top reaction that everyone wants. Nightmare.

Partly due to COVID and partly due to a quick engagement we won't be doing all these extra things. No engagement party (covid) possibly a small group of friends over for drinks one night. We already live together so we don't need a bridal shower. I asked about bachelor and Bachelorette parties and my fh wants to do ours together because he doesn't want to party without me 🥺🥺

I was going to avoid it at first but my mom insisted on throwing me a virtual one.

I love them personally but to each their own. My FH and I are doing a co-ed party in Vegas with our friends. We are renting a penthouse and it's going to be a blast.

Being a European, I don't understand what the other events are even about. 😂

I would like to have a nice meal out with some of FH's family to celebrate our engagement though. But I'm not having a hen night (bacherlorette), or bridal shower.

I don't understand being given gifts for getting married under any pretense, especially nowadays. Women have their own money and have usually lived with their partners beforehand. Back when an unmarried woman didn't have much in the way of rights or property, it would have made sense to gift her with things that might aid her in her marriage and new identity.

I agree with christa! I dreaded these extra parties as a guest, i do not want one now, either! I just want my wedding/honeymoon!! Thats it!

We haven't had any either, we originally planned a co ed bachelor/bachelorette party for my husbands 30th birthday in Atlantic City but Covid made us cancel it. My sister has been in talk of wanting to throw me a bridal shower before our big wedding in March (even though we're already married) but that probably won't happen.

We didn’t do an engagement party as they’re not common where were from. And no planned me a bachelorette which I was kind of sad about.
But I was super excited for a shower! I loved that it was a party for me 😊 it was fun having the people I cared about all together to do some celebrating. But, everyone is different. My friend opted for a bridal luncheon. So no games and only a few people (me 🤦‍♀️) brought gifts. It was nice and she still got to celebrate

We skipped the engagement party.


I’m doing a bridal shower but don’t want to spend time opening gifts in front of everyone. I find that SUPER AWKWARD and boring.

No showers or anything like that for us. But...we are old ;-) we need to get rid of stuff, not more!
Now, I am not opposed to going for a mimosa laden brunch with my friends. And my oldest daughter who is my MOH is having to be talked down from various Bachelorette Extravaganza she wants to plan.

We skipped our engagement party because of COVID cases rising. We didn't want one in the first place, but my FBIL and his wife offered to throw us one. Since we canceled, they'll throw us a couple's shower.

We like them a lot! Our family and friend group love to get together for whatever reason, so we never would have dreamed to skip them. We probably won't do the crazy games that everyone else does just because it's too much of a show. We just want to get our different friend groups together to mingle and have fun!

We moved 12 hrs away from our immediate families about 6 months ago and haven't made very many new friends in our new town yet (thanks, Covid), so traveling back home would be our only chance for any parties. Luckily, we already have a house full of stuff, so we don't really care about any wedding shower stuff. We nixed the idea of any sort of formal engagement party either. It's just too far to travel for a party especially when the pandemic is still going on and we shouldn't be getting together anyway.


We still wanna do the bachelor/bachelorette parties, but much closer to the actual wedding, maybe even just the night before.

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I love the fact that I am not the only who feels this way. I already find the planning for a rehearsal and a 70-ish person wedding overwhelming. I don't need more stuff to plan.

We selected not have to have a bridal party and not burden our friends. But I told all of my friends that I do not want to shower or bachelorette because (for us) it’s totally unnecessary. I just want everyone to enjoy themselves at the actual wedding. Plus we’re having a destination wedding in Vegas so there will be enough fun occurring throughout the weekend .

I didn't skip them but I honestly wish I did. Probably would have saved a lot of money.

We're not doing the extra parties either, don't see the point really. Our family is spread out and we don't have a lot of friends. We just want to have a great wedding we don't need or even want the extra time away from our busy lives for boring parties that are just another expense for everyone. We'd rather put all that money and effort into our wedding day. To each their own though!

*raises hand* Me!

I have never enjoyed showers as a guest and knew I didn't want any for myself. I also don't care at all about bachelorette or engagement parties. I deliberately planned a very short engagement period for several reasons, but a nice benefit was that no one had any time to even think about throwing me a party I didn't want.

Our ceremony, reception, and honeymoon were absolutely sufficient celebration for us.

Skipping the bridal shower but we are doing the bachelor/bachelorette parties...hopefully lol in my mind it'll be nice to get the bridal party together before the date so they can get to know each other before hand...and it if happens it'll just be nice to see everyone!

We are doing our best to skip all the extra wedding gatherings because we are trying to have a small intimate wedding. My mother is pressing to have a bridal shower but I don't really get the point. We are hoping to have a fun bachelorette party but that is only if COVID can go away. I think the money spent on all those extra parties is better spent on the wedding or, better yet, the honeymoon.

I have friends who skipped having pre wedding events too