Anyone else doing an unchoreographed first dance?

I totally agree with you. FH and I have no plans of doing a choreographed dance. I'm too clumsy for that and I don't like being the centre of attention anyway so we're keeping it pretty simple.

We are uncomfortable with that much attention on us and we are both clumsy. We will be doing the first minute alone and then there will be an announcement for all the couples to join us.

Ours was as unplanned and was not choreographed in any way. It was just an amazing moment between the two of us, and I couldn't even tell you "how" we really danced. Honestly, during our dance, it's almost like we tuned everything else out. I don't want that to sound rude, or that we just ignored our guests, but I mean it was just a really special intimate moment.

I think it's perfectly fine to not "practice".

We're gonna attempt to slow dance! Lol but when I originally wanted to dance (bc we weren't even going to) i was stressing about it being perfect. Now though, idc it isn't for anyone but me and my fh.

I find choreographed dances embarrassing.

@JamieLynn that's exactly what we want, an amazing moment between us where we tune everything else out. We still intend to practice because we're not dancers,, but we'll just practice basic dance steps.

I'm glad others are thinking the same. I was beginning to feel like I was the only one not a fan of choreographed dances.

I'm not sure, we haven't been to a wedding with a choreographed first dance. And he's is musical and I'm into dance so if we do it, it will be done well and unexpected because we both tend to be quiet. Its be fun and short because it can be entertaining and awkward if it's too long.

I say do what you and your FH want and do whatever fits your personalities.

At every wedding I've been to I watched the first few seconds of the first dance and then stopped watching and starting talking to others at my table or drinking my wine if I didn't know any of them. Unless you plan on making a big deal about it I don't think most guests will care too much either way.

Elizabeth, you aren't alone at all! I hope you guys are able to just focus on each-other for those few minutes, and have that perfect moment you are looking for.

We aren't doing one. I'm not putting on a show and stressing about remembering moves. Not our thing.

What's the prom sway?

My FH dosent want to dance but he's doing it for me and it's just going to be the prom sway neither of us can actually dance and neither of us wants the cost or stress of learning now. It will be just us swaying to our song my head on his shoulder his hands around my waist. And then after our dance by our selves my FH will dance with our daughter and I will dance with our son no choreography for us

We aren't doing a choreographed dance. FMIL keeps pushing it but I adamantly don't want one. I don't want to worry about remembering steps or anything like that. I want it to be a nice moment with each other where we can just enjoy each other

We are taking dance lessons because we both are horrible dancers. We aren't really doing a choreographed dance though- just trying not to step on each other's feet.

We're doing a simple foxtrot. I did NOT want to do the "highschool hug".

As someone who takes regular ballroom lesson and help my teacher with his wedding couples, let me tell you what I think.

Some couple come to learn basic steps, basic ballroom holds and turns, I highly encourage that. Because not only it will make you less worry about what to do on your wedding day, you can use the skills the rest of your life.

And then there are some who come wanting to dance Dirty Dancing Style and their wedding is in two weeks. It's normally the brides who get into this fantasy and I always see miserable grooms questioning his life choices. Don't. It takes years to dance like they do on TV/movie.

Oh no simple slow dance like the idea of cutting the song short too

I really didn't notice anything else around us during our first dance. There was no choreography, we just swayed around and every now and then he would spin me, and it was perfect.

I have always disliked choreographed first dances. I find them generally awkward and it never really looks like the couple is actually enjoying it since they're so focused on the choreography. So, I'm going with just a simple slow dance to enjoy that time with my FH.

I loathe choreographed dances at weddings. It's never done well and I feel awkward watching them.

FH and I might practice a little in the living room, but we're not making it a spectacle. Short and sweet, probably about a minute.

We didn't choreograph ours.