I'm the type of person who plans and keeps organized when there is something big going on. I am planning left and right. I want things to go perfect, well as perfect as I can perceive them to be. I'm in no means a bridezilla but I have been planning and dreaming of a beautiful and organized wedding for a while now. I'm realistic in the terms and understanding that I am unable to control certain things, but I feel like everyone is looking at me crazy for trying to plan a perfect wedding by some standards. I'm a planner and organizer not only is it nice to do but it keeps my anxiety levels low and stress low. I'm working on a seating chart for the wedding and my FM-I-L just asked if I would be making place cards or just letting people group at a table. I want both families to intertwine themselves and mingle but she basically made me feel like making a seating chart was dumb. We also talked about RSVPS and she basically said to plan for those stragglers who come anyway that don't RSVP and it made me upset. She stated that her side family is the type to not RSVP. I feel crazy thinking that no one understands social etiquette. She made a reference to the one time she didn't RSVP to a wedding because she couldn't go at first and then showed up anyway. Like common courtesy would be if you've not reached out to the bride before hand about coming to the wedding without RSVPing then do not show up.
I also feel crazy because I asked my FH whether it was stupid of me to do a seating chart for the wedding and he basically said that the organization and structured feel would take away from the guests' experience. So, yeah feeling a little down and crazy at the moment.
Anyone else dealing with this type of stuff? Or is it just me deep in my feels?
