Anyone else going forward with their summer weddings and feeling “judged” for it?

Out wedding is this July and I felt the same. Some days it's very hard! I've already had some people cancel, but I try to look it at it as the world is getting crazy now and we don't know what the next few months hold or even next year so why not just go ahead and get married! I have some family members going out of town for birthday celebrations, anniversaries , or even out the country for bachelorette events but unable to come to my wedding. I don't see how any of those events are different because you're still around people! We're just continuing to go forward with our day. It does get tough some days with people expecting us to go virtual or postpone but we can't please everyone! We've already cut our guest count in half to reduce the amount of people, and we're going to space out our tables so we're doing the best we can and those that come, will come. Hope this helps ☺️

View Quoted Comment We are doing the same! Mini hand sanitizers as favors along with spacing our guests out!

I know EXACTLY how you feel. Our wedding is July 11th, 2020 and we have been planning our dream wedding for over a year now. We definitely considered postponing but our venue had NO dates (Friday, Saturday, or Sunday) May-October of 2021. Not only that but my fiance and I were looking forward to this for so long and don't want to not be married for another year. For months now we weren't sure if our wedding was going to happen. Our venue didn't know, the governor didn't know, we were left depressed and anxious. We finally stepped in and contacted the mayor ourselves and he gave us full permission to have our wedding up to 150 people. We were thrilled and so relieved but ended up feeling guilty about being happy because some people have had negative reactions. In the end, we are going through with our wedding and so far have gotten mostly RSVP's of yes and completely understand some people not coming because they are nervous. I'm starting to get excited again with it approaching and I'm not going to be angry/upset at people for disagreeing with us. We simply have it in our heads now that we're going to do what makes us happy and we are going to be as safe as possible to make our guests that do come feel at ease.

Since I'm not sure if ppl are reading your particular reply, I'd just like to say I did. (And others may want to take a look - it's important!)
While I understand positive thinking and moving forward in life, I have been feeling odd with WW sometimes on this topic. If you want your colors to be hot pink - it's okay, it's how you feel (valid.) But people's "comfort level" with COVID has no correlation to an immunity - if anything, if more comfortable means less cautious, that is what severely worries me for my own.


I've told our current guest pool that if they aren't comfortable wearing a mask, I'm not comfortable with them coming and being around my other friends and family. Maybe that perspective switch (and reading the other response here!) may help someone. Good luck everyone.

View Quoted Comment WW unlinked my response to yours! Shoot shoot! Hopefully linking properly this time.

Hi Emily,


Have you tried to distribute an anonymous survey to your guests to get their candid opinion? I know how you feel and I can tell you for me most people were relieved I postponed and a handful of young guests who didn’t understand the gravity of the virus were up in arms. Most people didn’t feel comfortable giving their opinion at first but then followed up with me later letting me know they wouldn’t be able to make it because they or someone in their home may be susceptible to the virus. Found out slot of my friends were expecting lolol. At least seven! The other thing you may want to consider is a smaller intimate wedding and having the larger reception at another time.

Not feeling judged here, just nervous for the next few months because they’re going to be crucial in determining whether or not we can do this. We’re concerned about everyone’s safety first and have a plan to reevaluate and change plans if needed in the next few months.

Maryland bride here too! I’m moving forward with my October wedding. My father has been the most judgmental, where I haven’t heard much from anyone else. “A lot of elderly guest may not come” “there may be a second wave around that time”. I’m over it! I have been looking forward to this day for a year and a half. Everything else has been altered due to this virus, but we’re sticking with this. If people do not feel comfortable coming, fine. At the end of the day, it’s about us getting married. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’ve talked to my friends and family and most of them said they will still come and to go through with it. I think what makes me nervous or makes me feel judged are the discussions/comments on wedding wire. I see a lot of people postponing fall weddings, but personally, I’m invited/in 3 fall weddings and those couples haven’t even thought about postponing yet. But seeing people postponing for that far out makes me think, am I dumb for still trying to have an Aug wedding?

View Quoted Comment @Ajs, please don’t feel dumb. While there are a lot of WW couples postponing their weddings, there are still a LOT of us (myself included) who are still trying to have their 2020 wedding and be as careful as possible. You should take a look at some of the posts of the weddings that happened despite covid. They are beautiful and motivating!

I’m going through with my wedding 08.08 and I don’t want to seem selfish but it’s basically who ever comes come and we are following cdc guidlines for Maryland . I’m excited it’s a back yard wedding & large canopy tent reception 🥰 wish us luck I’m very excited!

We had a 10-person ceremony and I had people yelling at me! Like actual phone calls to tell me I was an awful person 🙄. I think it’s a judgement call each person needs to make, and as long as you’re ok with people potentially not coming, I think you’re fine.

Same here, we are moving forward with our July 4th wedding. We have already postponed it once from our original date. We have decided not to postpone again because this time our vendors may not decide to waive the fee. We have had family members ask us are we sure we don't want to postpone but we are sure lol. Plus we have also considered everyone's health we have cut our guest list down to 50 from 100, we will have masks for the guest, as well as seating as close to 6ft apart as we can. We have had family decline to come due to being uncomfortable and we are fine with that, we say do what's best for you as we are doing for us.

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We did the same thing as far as guest size and spacing. We don't know the future, so as long as we are allowed to continue with our wedding we are going to in the safest way possible.

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Where did you find the mini sanitizers, thats a good idea!

Reading through this thread makes me fell a little better. My original date was 4/25 but we had to postpone to Sept, I was fortunate that all of my vendors were still available. I don't want to postpone again if I don't have to. At this point I just want to get it over with and move on. I would like all of my family and friends to be there but I understand if they don't feel safe or comfortable attending. Even if I postponed until next year there's still no way to predict what the world will look like then. I wish everyone the best in whatever you decide to do!

View Quoted Comment We're going to get them online from Bath & Body works!

View Quoted Comment Wow that's horrible! Only 10 people, I mean what did they expect you to do? People can be so rude!

View Quoted Comment Same I agree! It's very hard trying to make a decision to please but we can't predict what the future will hold so it's to please yourself and FH.

I just had my wedding on June 14th in Florida and had those feelings at first too! But all that matters is your love for your husband in the end. People are going to have opinions about your wedding no matter what, pandemic or not. You just need to do what you guys want—- if people’s opinions are going to bother you and make you miserable maybe push it back. We got to the point where we were like “we’re getting married that day and whoever is there, is there” and 80 people ended up coming! It’ll all work out. Ours was perfect and the stress was totally worth it! I’d do it all over again (crazy, I know!). There’s light at the end of this long tunnel. Congratulations!!