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Dedicated August 2020

Anyone else going forward with their summer weddings and feeling “judged” for it?

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Emily, on June 21, 2020 at 12:23 PM

My husband and I had to push our wedding reception (160ish people) to August 23rd, 2020 from our original date of 4/19/2020. We got married on the 19th anyway - but as of now we’re planning on going ahead with our August wedding. We’re in Maryland and things here are still looking good COVID wise. A lot of people said they’re planning on coming still but I can’t help but feel like people are judging me and really don’t want to come. All of my coworkers talk about the world like there will be no in person events anywhere until 2022. The idea of postponing again will break my heart. I just want my wedding to be overwith now, its not enjoyable anymore. I think personally it’ll be fine and People are OF COURSE welcome to wear masks, I don’t care about them being in masks in photos, but I just can’t tell but feel like people think it’s “irresponsible” of us to have a wedding then. I already feel awful that My aunt whom has MS wONT be coming, but my mother says you can’t not have a wedding for ONE person. I just feel at such a loss. I want my special day but I don’t want to feel guilty about it.

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Emily · on June 30, 2020 at 7:02 PM
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Congrats! I bet it's a lot more relaxing now that it's behind you.
I don't want to pry (so it's absolutely cool if you don't answer), but I think I'm not alone in being curious on how your wedding went/ what kind of precautions you had. I think 80 ppl is the most I've heard of so far with a wedding since early March.
Glad you got to enjoy your day!
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Katie · on June 30, 2020 at 8:36 PM
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I understand where you are coming from. Here's the way I see it. If people are comfortable and safe enough going shopping for unnecessary stuff. And feel comfortable enough and safe enough to go out to eat and to the bars. Then having a wedding should be no big deal as well. And anyone with major health issues will stay home and maybe you could have someone there who can put it on zoom for anyone who doesn't attend. Don't feel guilty for having your day. Some of the people who judge wouldn't be guilty if it was their wedding. They probably would expect everyone to attend. So don't worry about it, and just enjoy your day and have fun.
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Just Said Yes June 2020
Jaclyn · on June 30, 2020 at 10:28 PM
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So with it being in Florida, everything was outside. (Which from watching the news, etc. apparently helps a lot in regards to Covid) Ceremony was on the beach and reception was on a terrace so we didn’t have to have any restrictions really. There were changes mostly in food service and how that went. We had picked out a buffet (way far in advance) so that looked a bit different and then nothing could be on tables (besides favors and decor) until guests were seated. Please know I’m thinking about you! I know how hard it is. Hang in there!
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Savvy September 2020
Kelly · on July 1, 2020 at 8:41 AM
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Emily, I feel your frustration!
With the recent spike, I’m getting nervous we will have to postpone yet again. We are waiting until
last minute to make a decision. I’m concerned people will decide not to come last minute after rsvp’ing. Almost half of our guests are from out of town. I’m wondering what other brides in this position are feeling about the situation..
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Devoted August 2020
Elle · on July 1, 2020 at 10:17 AM
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That's horrible!
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Just Said Yes July 2020
Uwa · on July 2, 2020 at 12:45 PM
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We are in DC and going forward with our wedding on 7/18/20. I know some people are like "oh wow you're going forward with it?!" We significantly scaled it down to 50 people and will have a spaced out / social distant wedding (luckily our venue has multiple floors and an outdoor space). We told everyone no pressure if they can't make it - it will be live streamed! There are a lot of people we wish could come in person, but their health and safety is the most important. We made the tough decision to move forward with it because who knows what next year will look like (seriously). You will have a beautiful wedding regardless and I am telling myself again and again that this is not the last major celebration we will have. Hello 1 year anniversary parties!
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Savvy September 2020
Helene · on July 10, 2020 at 11:35 AM
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I'm so relieved to read the comments of the fellow covid brides, that i could cry...again! because that's all i've been doing this week as i've received judgement from my bridal party about not postponing. at this point, i don't have much of a choice to postpone my 9/25 wedding as my deposit with be forfeited and another deposit would be needed. unless my state would shut down again, then i could postpone without a financial issue. my bridal party is also being judgey of my venue's policy, but it seems like many venues have similar policies. i'm feeling judged and i fear losing friends over this! i keep being told by a few supportive people that it's just about me and my fiance, but it's hard to ignore the feelings of others. i plan on buying masks and sanitizers and posting reminders around the venue to social distance.
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