Anyone else have a "perfect" sister-in-law?

Like Janeen, if there was a "favorite" in the situation I would say my FILs prefer me over my FSIL. (Luckily my parents only have daughters and my sister and I are treated the same). Basically my FSIL has been on disability since she became an adult (my FH questions if she is truly disabled as she claims its her back and she has no problems sitting a computer all day to play games on Facebook) and her husband doesn't make much money. My FFIL is often called on to bail them out (mind you FSIL is 43 and her husband is 60). In the 3 years FH and I have been together FFIL has bought them 3 cars (2 were wrecked in accidents) and has had to pay their rent at least once. On the flip side FH and I are paying for the wedding ourselves and can afford to take care of our own needs. Funny story. on FFIL's 65th birthday, FSIL gave him 5 can of Diet Coke (like seriously she couldn't even give him all 6) while I got him a gift card to the Harley Davidson store (he has a Harley and really likes to shop in the Harley store). He opened the card (from FH and I) and said (in front of his daughter), "Oh, this is from Chris and my favorite daughter". I assume a large part of it is that I made an effort to know what my FILs like so that gifts are personal and I know they will enjoy them.

When FH and I started dating almost 10 years ago, his brother was married and FH's mother loved to tell me EVERY chance she got that my then FSIL was amazing, every MIL's dream, and how no one could ever compare to her. -_- Then FSIL and FBIL divorced, and he was single for about 7 years. You would think that over the course of all these years, FMIL and I would have developed an amazing bond (which I thought we had too), however, FBIL started dating a chick about a year ago and I now suck in comparison to her, smdh.

My fmil thinks her daughter is perfect! Not the case..

I guess it is just upsetting since this is my mother, and my brother's wife.

I mean I love her, don't get me wrong, or she wouldn't be one of my bm's.

My mom literally said "Well I'm going to get her a little something then, since I just love her so much"

If she presents the gift on my wedding day, I might freak out.

FSIL is a talented artist with an awesome quirky style. She's also something like a UK size 8 or less and is currently training for a half marathon... as her main fundraiser with an additional "sponsored pajama day" and bake sale for ME Research (prompted because she wanted to find a way to improve my quality of life.. so she went fundraising mad for the biggest UK charity for it)

Oh, not including college full time, working part time and volunteering at a young club.

I love her to pieces but if we weren't pretty much related (we were close before her brother and I got together) I'd probably despise her with every fiber of the green eyes monster of envy. As it is, I don't think FMIL really sees her awesome and FSIL often spends xmas/occassions with us or comes to us for support/advice over her mother.

Then again, the future inlaws adore me so goodness knows how FSIL's partner feels or FH's step brother's GF feels.

Not officially my SIL (I think she will be someday), but my brother's girlfriend is super-organized and awesome.. She's a graphic designer and actually designed official t shirts for a Lady Antebellum tour while she was still in college. She always gets my parents gifts for birthdays, shows up for family events with gorgeous baked goods that she made from scratch, etc. I don't have time to do that stuff. It's not like I'm a bad daughter, I always call my parents to say happy birthday and such, but there's no way I have time to bake and decorate 4 kinds of cupcakes for a family BBQ.. not sure how she does it. On the other side of the family, BIL is definitely the favorite, which sucks for DH and his sister.

I'm kinda in the opposite situation--my mom is absolutely infatuated with my BIL (sister's husband). Like, thinks he's God's gift to earth. They're both teachers, so that started it, but like everything he does my mom just goes on and on. I mean he really is a great guy, but he's not perfect.

I know it hurts Matt to hear my mom talk like that. Poor guy.

Love love love my FSIL

She lives two hours away and I couldn't be happier. I see her once every month, and if I'm lucky, once every 2 months.

My FSIL (married my Fh's brother) is the favorite by far. Not that she's any different from me but, she definately kisses A$# and doesnt say her opinions whereas FMIL and i are pretty similar. FSIL/FBIL planned their wedding and had it March 2013 and while i have planned mine, FMIL says constantly.. "well ____ did this, you should too" i nipped that one in the butt quick. FSIL is a BM and i love her! I think FMIL compares us too much. Religion comes up alot (FSIL is catholic as is my FMIL. FH is catholic as well as i am lutheran), and my FMIL thinks that our future children should be catholic. I could care less- i think if my FH wants our children to be catholic thats fine. lol not a big deal!

Edited (didnt finish my thought): My FMIL stated that my FSIL/FBIL will raise their kids catholic and i think i heard crickets chirping... i was all uh ok... and?

View Quoted Comment So glad I’m not the only one. I love my SIL, but she works in fashion and I don’t see her often. She’s beautiful, tiny and extremely successful. My
BIL is always going on about how perfect she is. I feel like a looser even when I had a really good job.