Anyone else NOT doing uplighting?

We aren't having it, but our tent has bistro and LED lighting on the ceiling so it's a bit of a different venue than the typical.

If up lighting is what I think it is, we're doing it because the venue already has them. What does your venue look like? I don't think I'd bother to be honest.

Depends on the feel you're going for I think. We're doing a lot of fairy lights and tea light for our fairly rustic feeling space. I think in a hotel ballroom formal type situation uplighting is a lot more expected (but still not necessary if it isn't what you want!)

We aren't doing any sort of uplighting, but our wedding is a brunch wedding and the room in which our reception is going to be held has floor to ceiling windows, so plenty of natural lighting

We are not having it either. Julia, where are you getting married? I know you are a Philly bride too. We're getting married at the College of Physicians (Mutter Museum) and uplighting would look so unnatural and not right in the venue at all. We're using candlelight. The reason why we use candlelight in restaurants is because it provides the most "flattering" light to people.

Totally won't be missing anything!

We're not - it's an added cost we decided we didn't need to worry about.

But seriously, if someone comes to your wedding and doesn't like that you don't have uplighting...that is their problem, not yours!!

We're not. We don't care.

The venue is actually a restaurant (they shut everything down on nights they have weddings). It's beautiful in there on a normal night, the lighting is very nice. Very high ceilings, hard wood floors, no ugly chairs or anything. It has a romantic, classic feel, which is why FH says he doesn't want to "ruin" it with "clubby" uplights lol.

What's uplighting?

We're not - our DJ said it isn't necessary at our venue. We're also doing the candlelit look with dim lighting...it will look great. Honestly, no one is going to remember the lights - they're going to remember dancing and having a great time!

I was debating between up lighting or Chinese lanterns that my venue offers... I went with Chinese lanterns just because I feel as though up lighting is over done these days. Also I feel like the lanterns have more of a romantic feel than the clubby up lighting. edit my venue is a tent here is a pic of the different looks. Wedding wire ladies actually helped me choosing the lanterns instead. :]

We would not pay for them. When we booked out DJ I asked about uplighting and he actually recommended against it for our venue. He said the space is nicely lite and it really doesnt have much of an effect so we chose not to spend the money (Honestly I probably still wouldn't have paid for them even if he had not said that)... we did however add on the photobooth package which comes with 6 free uplights so we may use them but either way I wasn't going to pay for them.

I think it really depends on the venue and feel you're going for if it's worth it but generally its an expence that can easily be saved

We aren't (its a barn anyway and wouldn't work) actually I'm with your FH I really don't like uplighting plus to me it always seems to result in darker rooms

I'm not doing uplighting and I don't get what the big hubbub is. I think you put it well OP when you said, "Stupid wedding industry is getting inside my head." I side with your FH on this one; skip it and know you aren't missing a damn thing!

I think the other thing for us is that we would only wind up getting like 2 hours of use out of them. Cocktail hour starts at 5pm in a different space, then at 6pm we move into THE room. We're only in there until 10 and in July the sun doesn't set until 8.

I wanted to but they didn't fit in the budget. We already had to waive the lights that most DJs use due to medical conditions of several of our guests so I really wanted to add that element of color.

Our wedding will be at a hotel so the uplighting is necessary. Without it, our reception room would look like a typical conference banquet room. Thankfully we got it for a great deal through our photo booth company.

I would have preferred lanterns, but they'd be a bear to hang and my DJ offers them with his package, so we're going with that. FH really like the photos he's seen of our venue with them.

We are ONLY doing uplighting because his cousin owns a wedding photography/uplighting company and offered to do the uplighting for free. I definitely would not have paid extra for it.

I personally do not like uplighting. Several indoor venues we looked at offered it for free, but they like to use that as the main light source and it can make the room very, very dark.