Anyone else not have a full "bells-and-whistles proposal?!"

I also got engaged by mutual decision. About 5 years into our relationship, I got accepted to a PsyD Program, which meant quitting my full time job. We were discussing what the next 5 years of our lives would look like, and we decided that marriage should be a part of it. We then told our families the next day. He did get me a ring about a week later, which was a bit of a surprise. When we told my sister in law, she laughed and said that was the most egalitarian and "us" way we could have possibly gotten engaged lol. And I have to agree. Getting married was a mutual decision and I am happy that we came to that decision together.

I didn't. Mine and I were sitting on the couch, and I mentioned I think it's time for us to consider the next step. He said to let him think about it (we were 23 yr old). He returned to me a few min later saying he agrees, although we seem a little young it's probably time.

And...

That's it...

No pretty pictures, no ring (and I had to drag him to stores to look for a ring together), no family, no friends

He got chewed out by his mom for not doing a memorable proposal lol

We were in pajamas enjoying our coffee (pre-teeth brushing) when he asked. I knew he has the ring and he knew I didn’t want anything over the top but he got so nervous as soon as we woke up one day he got down on one knee and said one sweet and funny scentence. He did have a nice, romantic day and night planned for us after but it was really perfect for us how low key the engagement was.

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Aw, I love this! Both of our families commented the same thing about the proposal--very much "us." Our wedding is going to follow suit in being very "us" as well!

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Haha love it! My fiance's mom was leery about the no-proposal thing. Especially because he is the first of 4 other siblings to get engaged so shes been waiting for this! But in the end, she agreed it was very much an "us" thing to do lol.

My fiancé proposed in the side of a building in the dark and we almost got kicked out by security. He had a whole thing planned and it just didn’t work out. We had multiple conversations and were mutually like “let’s do this” and he only did the whole get down on one knew thing because I really wanted it. Otherwise I think we would’ve just sat by the pool with a beer and said cheers. Lol

Our proposal was a mix. He got down on one knee, but he took me out to our property for a picnic under the guise of taking pictures of our girls (dogs) in the wildflowers. Very simple, understated and perfect for us.

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Ours was pretty similar to this. Once we finally decided we were ready then I knew it would be coming eventually. But, he was the one who cared more about an actual proposal. When he proposed he didn't actually say anything to me, I just turned around and he was on one knee staring at me 😂

My fiancé proposed inside our home. I’m also not a very extravagant person, and he is romantic in his own way lol. No pictures, but he did have the ring. It was perfect for us and that’s the way I wanted it to be!

We got engaged in lockdown, and so my fiance had to scrap his original plan, but having a secret photographer to take photos, or doing it in public was never part of his idea anyway.

Because it was in lockdown, we weren't going anywhere that day other than for a walk to a coffee shop to grab coffee, I was dressed in workout gear. And because our balcony (where it happened) is small, as is our little outdoor setting, whilst my fiance is extremely tall and long of limb, he couldn't easily get down on one knee (and also he forgot! I asked him to do it afterwards, which he did, because it was important to me, haha!)

So, I guess on reflection it wasn't full of bells and whistles - no public spectacle, no fireworks or helicopter or fancy clothes.

But... it was actually super romantic and intimate, and knowing we were the only two in the world who knew it had happened for a little bit was so lovely and special. Having now been proposed to, I'm not sure I would have liked it to happen in public, or in that over the top way.

And, we got to sit an chat and sip champagne while I put makeup on and change into nicer clothes so we could take a few nice photos for instagram, and THAT was memorable and special too.

I'm sure if it had happened that way, I would have loved a limo turning up at my work with an outfit and champagne in the back and being whisked away for an afternoon at a fancy restaurant where we'd sip cocktails and watch the sunset or whatever just as much as I loved what I got. But that is because I love the man who would have been asking - which after all, is the most important part!

My fiancé literally proposed at home. It was our anniversary, so we were going out to dinner, but I didn't know he was going to do it. There are a couple photos of us at the restaurant after but not of the actual proposal. I wouldn't have minded something "bigger," but he was incredibly nervous and he thought doing some huge romantic gesture would have ruined the surprise.

No bells and whistles either. 10 years together. Surprise trip to the jewelry store to choose my ring. After it was sized, he picked it up and presented to me on one knee with in front of our 3 year old daughter 😊

We didn’t do this and we don’t know anyone who has either. Everyone has had casual proposals. Personally I would feel very awkward with all the attention.

We were looking for seashells and rocks oh the beach.I was 6 months pregnant. All he said was " how about this rock?". My engagement ring still had the tag on it. Didn't get down on one knee, didn't ask me to marry him or give me a speech.

I did not it is turning into something big now but it was more so a mutual choice for us lol

I didn’t. My fiancé proposed while we were at home, in the living room during valentines weekend. He said he had plans to propose in a different way but with covid, it derailed his plans.
However, he’s not a man of grand gestures. So it’s very expected that it happened that way.

Christmas Day my parents home. In front of the tree in the living room. No photos no fancy outfits or fancy speech. Simple to the point and special

Ours happened out of the blue as we were talking about potentially getting married on a car ride home while sitting in traffic at a light. As we were talking about it he asked me, “do you want to do this?” So I paused as and asked, “are you asking me?” And he smiled and said yes. From that moment we quickly moved forward with picking out a ring together and planning our wedding. It was perfect and I’ll never forget that foggy evening proposal in the car.

We didn’t have a fancy proposal. It was a conversation one day that we should get married and his parents called (they live out of the country) and he told them we were engaged, but I told him he couldn’t say that without a ring, so we went to costco that day and got a ring. We love each other very much, but we are just not people who do that kind of stuff.

Also engaged by mutual decision but we courted instead of dated. We knew the outcome would either be marriage or break up. So we made a decision and he bought a ring and proposed to me one morning after making me breakfast in bed. It was chili dogs lol. But no photos of it or anything really a big deal. He's a very romantic man but low key about it.