Anyone else regretting not eloping?

No drama for us. It's just the guilt over the cost that makes us wish we eloped.

While I'm excited for the wedding, I'm completely over the unnecessarily family drama and stressing over stupid little things. If I could do it all over again, I'd take 3 weeks off and elope in New Zealand with FH. We'd just have one hell of a honeymoon.

I'm sort of bummed that we're spending so much on the wedding day that we can only afford to stay in the states for our honeymoon. I wish we could've done a big international trip, but a week off with FH is still great.

.. 100% regret .. 60 days away and I'm seriously wondering what made the courthouse NOT appealing ughhhhh

Sometimes I do think about it especially when I found out we could have gotten married on our cruise.

Drama free so far...*fingers crossed*

Honestly not at all. I wanted to when we first started planning but I knew my family would be upset. I'm the first of my generation to get married in our family and seeing how happy my mom and grandmother have been during planning really makes me happy we are doing a big wedding instead of eloping.

Here's the thing.. We got married in the courthouse, there were a lot of things that influenced our decision but now, a few years later I regret not having a wedding. So, from the other side, I think you might just be overwhelmed right now but it will be worth it in the end. You would definitely feel like you missed out if you didn't do it, specially if it's not because of money. Just my 2 cents

@Futuremrskristen that's exactly how I feel! Glad I'm not the only one!

I don't *regret* not eloping, but I do think I would have enjoyed it more. We didn't really have drama, but our wedding was like 85% DH's guests. I would have been just as happy with 20 guests, a cute tealength dress, a courthouse wedding, and dinner afterwards at an upscale restaurant.

My pockets might regret that we didn't elope. But I know with both of us being as close as we are with parents and siblings we never could have just eloped without getting very angry earfuls!

Not happy with the decisions you made? The decision of a big wedding in general or are there smaller things you are regretting?

Your guests will know what to do at your wedding. Try growing a thick skin if there's any drama with them. "Not my problem, girl bye!". I hope you can get to the point where you can say "Eh, fuck it, let's drink and have fun!".

Me. Me times a million. I live in Maine with my family in Connecticut, and none of them are coming except a couple uncles and an aunt. I'm not going to know about 85% of our wedding guests. I don't like planning this, I hate doing it on my own and I wish we would have just eloped with our parents and siblings. Don't get me wrong, I'm very very excited for our wedding day, but I wish we would have stuck with the original plan. Less stress. And I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking this!

I just wish we would have done it smaller, with just those we are very close to. I'm not feeling all the traditional stuff...wish we would have decided what's special and important to us

@spirit Just regretting a big wedding in general. I think we thought too much about other people instead of us. He's an only child so I think he thought his parents would have been upset if we didn't have a large wedding with all the family there. I see everyone post on here that it's your wedding so have the wedding you want and I wish I would have done that from the get go. Just frustrating, but I think one day I may have regretted eloping too. I can't win haha at the end of the day we'll be married and that's all that matters.

Yep. I think it's pretty sane to think about it. It's a lot of money to spend on one day.

I also know we are going to have one freaking awesome day too. And on that day all my worries will melt away because I get to share a once an a lifetime memory with my new husband.

Every once in a while yes. It would have been simpler.

We have had no drama I just feel guilty about spending so much money. I know our families are thrilled that we are having a big wedding though. I weekly ask FH if he is sure he doesn't want to elope.

I totally feel you! The other day I called my grandmother for advice on how to say screw it all and instead of doing our DW, have a courthouse wedding. My grandmother pretty much told me to ignore my mother, who is stressing me out alot, and stop worrying.

At the end of the day FH and I chose a DW because that's what we really want. I'm working on not letting my mother's dramatics get to me, making the decisions that work for FH and I, and enjoying our engagement.

Maybe have a day (possibly a few days) where you don't look at anything wedding-related, don't talk about anything wedding-related, and don't think about anything wedding-related. Go do an activity with your FH and just be. It sounds like you've already put so much work into making sure your guests are all set that day. The rest is on them! Relax and plan to enjoy your day.

My FH was the one who pushed for the big wedding, but yeah, I feel guilty about the money we will be spending, but he keeps reassuring me that it will all be worth it in the end.

The cost has me wishing I wasn't doing it this way, for sure. And if inside I wasn't such a child and wanted a dress and a dj and a wedding cake and all the other pretty pretty princess things that go with a wedding, I could maybe do the elopement. Who knows? Maybe as I get closer I can talk myself out of it, hahaha...