Anyone else regretting not eloping?

Nope. Not even a thought.

I'm so excited to have our friends and family with us for the day. It's so rare that we are all together and after the year we've had, it's important to have something to celebrate!

I am sorry you're feeling this way! The good news is that you will be married soon . Try to do little things for yourself to feel better! It is not worth wasting the emotional energy on anyone who brings negativity (I need this advice for myself too).

I originally wanted to elope, but my grandpa is dying and I would really like to share this memory with him. I am so excited that he is coming to our ceremony!

FH and I decided right away to keep it small. We will have about 27 guests all of which have been lovely and drama free. We have actually received a lot of rude comments from friends, as we decided to keep our event for family only. We are spending more on our honeymoon then we are on our wedding. Sadly, I think it is just impossible to please everyone and it is best to focus on the fact that you get to share your life with your awesome FH.

Sometimes, yes. But then I ask myself: what would I regret more? And it's always not having the wedding. But yeah, looking at all the money we are dropping makes me a bit ill sometimes. Lol

Tomorrow we will be married for 3 months and I still regret either not eloping or having a smaller wedding. But, at the end of the day, I married my best friend and that's all that matters.

Not stressing out about any drama, just the cost. I get huge anxiety thinking about the fact that we could have put this money down on a house! In the end, I know we will have the best time of our lives so I try to not think about the cost

Nearly EVERDAY!!! Family drama. Being treated like someone else (other than me) is paying for this wedding. Being told I made a bad decision with MY MONEY (this kills me the most! bc its like oh you don't like purple... how much money do you have to order pink?). Having little to no help from FH. Seeing my side of the guest list dwindle while he'll have probably 200 guests (75 percent who I have never met). Sacrificing to have the wedding in his hometown and then he not helping. Being told I am only spending X amount by FH while he goes all out spending while at his bachelor party and his attire cost more than mine. The few things I actually wanted, seeing them not happen. Honestly its made me so bitter and regretful.

Not to mention my cousin had a small ceremony on NYE (right before church), she looked beautiful & happy and didn't cost her a dime. Seeing my classmates run off to Greece and get married alone. Seeing couples getting married by my boss (a judge) and them leaving just as happy as ever.

@FFW that all sounds really stressful. Your day is right around the corner and you will be beautiful & happy too! I'm so looking forward to your BAM. The beginning is near and soon you'll be able to relax. In the meantime, if you can, take a breather.

Definitely glad I'm not the only one feeling this way. Thank you all for the advice! I can't change it now so I might as well embrace it and enjoy the day. Sequoia National Forest will always be there to visit

@FFW not going to lie I just walked past the courthouse and people were taking wedding pics outside, I did get jealous so I definitely understand. You're almost done though and you'll be married and finally get to relax!

I'm doing a DW and all of our immediate family will be there as well as most of my closest friends. But I'm in the midst of planning an at home reception to please my FMIL and FHs extended family that won't be able to make the cruise. They all tell me they want it fancy like a traditional wedding so they can still do family pics and whatnot. But I'm starting to wonder if it's worth the extra expenses after we are already paying for a DW. Ugh....

No problems yet but Im still a bit early in the game!

I felt this way last night. I was crying my eyes out blabbing on and on about how nobody gave a shit so we should have eloped like I wanted. I know no one cares about your wedding as much as you do but it just sucks. I just wish someone would ask me how it is going.

I would gladly elope with DF, if he would go for it, but he has certain family members he absolutely wants present, so we're doing a very small wedding. Personally, I'd rather we just elope, but it's his wedding too, and I understand where he's coming from 100%.

I'm a little stressed over the wedding, but I'm glad we are doing it. FH and I have both been married before, and neither of us had "real" weddings the first time around. We both want a wedding, and our parents are getting older. We want to build those memories with our families and friends while they are still with us. I regretted not having a wedding the first time around, but I'm glad that I get to see both perspectives. Hang in there!

We keep both families out of the wedding planning basically. We are paying for it ourselves. We have the money and are budget conscience so no stress (yet!), I would regret not having a wedding as this is both of our firsts so I'm happy to say things are going pretty good so far!

KatieB, it sounds like you know yourself and expect you'll be more worried about your guests having fun than you having fun. I am a therapist, and if you were my client, I'd say, "Make your manta for the day 'I am going to enjoy this. I am going to enjoy this'." Your guest will have fun. They'll have food, family, and friends. Now you have to make sure *you* get to enjoy all those elements!

@zoe I like that. That is what I'm going to do

If only. Tomorrow will be here quick enough

We ended up nixing our original idea of a fairly large DW (100) and had a much smaller one on the end (18). I'm happy we did. I was so stressed about how everyone was going to "like" everything from the decor to the food it became unsettling. We decided on a small wedding after some personal issues and I enjoyed it so much better. When it's a smaller crowd and with only your closest friends and family all my anxiety went out the window. Although sometimes I think what if we went through with our original idea But, I still married my honey and I still had my "wedding moment." So I'm okay with our decision.

Meeeeeeeee!

You took the words right out of my mouth.

We're having a small wedding (20-25) and sometimes I wish it was even smaller! We could have been married already and taking an amazing honeymoon!