Anyone Else Totally Overwhelmed?

Love your avatar photo! Hang in there.

I got a little overwhelmed at first because I am back in school for a second bachelor's degree and as soon as I got engaged I kept getting distracted by pinterest (I never had a pinterest before wedding planning) and looking at wedding dresses, etc. I thought that as soon as I got the big stuff booked I'd be better, but I'm not. I did get caught up on my school work though and finished that semester with some solid B's so it's all good.

And you're right. Boys just don't get it. Hahaha.

Whenever someone asks me how the wedding planning is going I always say, " Not as fun as I expected" I was so excited to start planning my wedding. And then you start and there are a million different decisions to make and ideas to work through. The money is a huge road block for me, everyone cost money and you have to decided how much you can spend on each table, each person, each bridal party member, each item. It is so much more stress then I ever thought possible. On top of that I have a strict workout regiment, meal plan, working full time and going to school. I am juggling so much sometimes I forget where I am!

Lets just all take a deep breathe and make lists for EVERYTHING!!!!!!

I know this is going to sound silly, but I'm overwhelmed with coordinating e-pic outfits. I have a pretty good sense of style, but I feel pressured since I have to pick my outfit & FH's & make sure they go together but that we don't look like twins lol. The wedding itself, my venue is helping SO much. But we will see once we start choosing food, cake & flowers how it will start to feel. Hang in there!!

It was once we got engaged. I had a ton on things on the to do list. Now that I have the HUGE things done, Im on cruise control and enjoying wedding shopping on Etsy.

Wow, you are well out still to be feeling so overwhelmed! When I read your initial post I somehow missed your wedding date thinking you only had a few months to go. Wait til' you are at the 2-3 month mark! Yikes!! I planned for over a year. Initially, it did seem a little overwhelming with trying to find the right venue. Once we determined the venue, the other vendors (photography, caterer, florist) came in dribs and drabs, usually all contacted by voicemail and email - once initial contact was made email worked best for getting faster answers to questions. Enjoy and cherish this year, take your time with the researching on your vendors, there is still time!

It gets overwhelming party because you fall prey to Pinterest, SMP and every other media outlet that sends you the clear message that if you don't have signature drinks, blackboard signs, a trail of events and photos leading to the day itself and OH BY THE WAY, don't forget to have an after party and a trash the dress session...

It doesn't have to take over your life, nor should it. Your life is not the wedding; it's the marriage. Figure out a budget, decide on what you REALLY want and what you don't care about and let some of it go. I did a blogpost a few months ago on things no one needs; things that cost you time, emotion and money and stress;

1. STD's

2. Big bridal parties

3. Giant guest lists (because everyone has 400 close friends and family)

4. limos

5. hotel blocks/oot bags/oot welcome dinners

6. bridesmaids proposals

7. pre parties/after parties

8. transportation for guests

9.favors

10. programs, menus, any printed items

11.engagement shots, boudoir shots

Keep it simple. It's one day; a magnificent, celebratory day indeed, but not one that should suck your entire brain for a year plus. And you know what? No one will remember half of it.

I totally understand the feeling. I am a mom of 2, I have a full-time job and run a part-time (sometimes seems full time) freelance business. I also suffer from anxiety - so the best advice I can give is to create a checklist and break it down over a few days at a time. I typically give myself 3 or 4 simple tasks for each day, and I have learned to be OK with leaving some things go until the following day. Its also good to take a break and do something like a puzzle, coloring pages, word searches, board games or something else that is elementary.

Being 9 days away from my wedding, overwhelmed and stressed is definitely how I feel! Being engaged for over 2 years, I was mostly calm for the majority of my engaged. Then May 2015 came. I had been balancing school, part time work, and wedding planning before, but once I graduated, I had to register for and take my board exams. Finished those July 1st. Add in weddings, showers, grad parties, etc. those weekends. Realized I was a month away from the wedding and missing many things. I've been scrambling since to get all my RSVPs, all my accessories, all of those final details for the wedding, shop for things for the honeymoon. My dress didnt fit at my first fitting-- I had gained weight so on top of studying for boards and wedding planning and job searching, I had to LOSE WEIGHT to fit in my dress. That was incredibly stressful, but I lose a few pounds enough to fit in the dress snugly, but with unsightly back fat. Now trying to do back exercises and watch my diet as much as possible. On top of all of that, FH and I are moving into our first place today/this weekend and I need to pack all of my stuff for the move, the furniture and everything is being delivered and set up over the next few days. We JUST did the seating chart last night. It's been absolutely crazy, but FH and I knew the timing of our wedding wouldn't be the most ideal and were willing to suck it up to get married sooner. I just keep trying to keep myself calm reminding myself that in just over a week I will be married to FH and we will be going on our killer honeymoon without a care in the world!

In summary, the month before your wedding (for me anyway) has felt like cramming for an exam for a class you've been taking for 2 years!

Don't mean to stress you out more by all of this, I know my situation is somewhat unique. Just wanted to put into perspective how manageable JUST wedding planning can be and also wanted to recommend doing things as far in advance (yet still spaced out) as possible if you won't change your mind because you will be a lot calmer and more excited when you're close to the wedding.