Anyone else TTC while wedding planning?

I think we are going to start trying just before the wedding. I am 33 and just had the chat with my OB yesterday about preparing for a baby. She mentioned "later age childbearing", possibility for genetic testing and all that fun stuff that I guess comes when you TTC at the age of 35. Made me cry. Scared me a little. We waited to be more stable, now I wonder if we did the right thing.

@SarahMarie, that would be a scary thing to hear... it's hard to second guess yourself and wonder if you did the right thing. At this point, there is nothing you can do to go back in time and have a baby, so you only have the path you have in front of you. If you are worried about the health of your (future) baby, the good news is that you can be super proactive right now! Take your prenatals, do testing, etc etc. to make sure you give the baby the best opportunity possible...

@GrayCatVintage.... You do have some valid points in your argument there. I had accounted for the dress not fitting, etc, but you do raise some good points about being tired/sick.. I guess for myself at this point we are doing the "casual" approach before the wedding, my FH works away from home for 2 weeks and is home for 1 week . With my weird cycle, it's not very likely that we will actually be able to find those magic days where I am ovulating and he's home, and we feel like some McLovin

Futuremrsbooker, are you actually trying or just not using BC? There are really only 3-5 days per cycle you can get pregnant so if youre not charting and paying attention, its not necessarily weird you didnt get pregnant yet. it took us exactly a year of charting and temping and ovulation tests to get pregnant.

@ Stephanie...we have been trying. Monitoring my ovulation is difficult because my cycles are hardly ever regular! I've heard that it's around the 14th day that you ovulate though so we always try around that time! Any advice on ovulation tracking?

This thread makes me happy! I'm really looking forward to actually TTC, since my first pregnancy was unintentional...after being on the pill for 8 years straight, I missed a week and got knocked up. I'm hoping my body goes back to its super fertile self as soon as I stop BC after the wedding. Good luck to everybody! Looking forward to hearing updates

@GrayCatVintage -- I would definitely have all of those concerns! Not so much the dress not fitting (if you'll only be a couple months pregnant), but the sickness and sleepiness...and not being able to drink a ton of champagne! That would be a tough one for me lol

GreyCat - I haven't been sick a single day in the first 12 seeks so far. No growth or bump yet and my dress has room for me to let out if needed. Brides are always tired the day of but with proper rest and food/fuel everyone can be ready to host and smile when they are happy and celebrating.

You could wake up with the flu on the wedding day just as easily as I could feel crummy. Life happens.

Average ovulation can be anywhere from day 8 to 22 (or longer) depending on cycle length. The only way to confirm you ovulate is with temping. To temp, you need a basal thermometer and app/paper (I like Glow). Take your temp as soon as you wake up at the same time every morning. Don't get out of bed or do anything else first. Record the temp. When you ovulate, your temp will jump about 1 degree. It might take a couple months to see a true pattern though, but it will tell you if you are not ovulating normally as well. You can also use ovulation tests and check cervical mucus but those can be misleading. Those are the basics of it. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a good resource.

We won't be trying until at least a year from now. Before my surgery, the Crohns had my intestines literally on top of my right Fallopian tube and ovary, my ob/gym advises me to stay on bc as long as possible as I am a high risk for an etopic pregnancy. I also have concerns because I take humira as maintenance for Crohns and I believe you have to stop taking it in the third trimester. Ultimately I would love to have a child before the Crohns flares up again.

Stephanie has great advice. Get on Amazon and buy a basal body thermometer. It really does give a clear indicator for ovulation, especially if you have unpredictable cycles. I had my last Depo shot last July, married end of September so it "wore off" just after the wedding. It took me about 4-5 months to really get back on a regular cycle but we were being casual. I go to the dr in about 2 weeks to be confirmed but I tested positive last weekend!

Congrats Rynney!.... @AndixLyn, when my sister was pregnant, she was sick allllll the time hah, but she didn't have to worry about weight gain

I mostly am just so excited to be having kids with my FH and can't wait.. if we get pregnant before the wedding great... if not, we just get to try more vigorously after wards

@AndixLyn -- there's no way I would have survived hosting a wedding when pregnant! I attended one as a guest at 7.5 months and it was pretty much torture. That special brand of exhaustion is like nothing else (at least for me), regardless of how much proper rest or sustenance you've had. But it sounds like you have the perfect attitude and disposition to be a pregnant bride, so go you! You're a stronger woman than I!

This is exciting ladies!! FH and I are not preventing but we aren't stressing it either. I did see my gyno a month or so ago and she said to start prenatal vitamins if we are going to try after the wedding so that's what I'm doing. We do plan to try after we get married.

Someone told me once she was TTC and they were only having sex once a week. I was like, um...why aren't you having sex more. If you're not keeping track of ovulation, then you can totally miss your window. Not that we were TTC, but we were having sex all the time, and of course I got pregnant.

Don't let him go down on you. The bacteria in saliva kills sperm.

So the orgasm needed to help draw up the sperm needs to be achieved another way... Sorry girls

We will be waiting until next February because we are planning a trip to WDW and universal Orlando for our big honeymoon and we can't go if I get pregnant lol. Btu I can't wait to be pregnant and have kids

I have to agree with grey cat vintage! Being pregnant can be really hard on your body! Aside from the obvious morning sickness, fatigue, weight gain, etc, your hormones are out of whack! So, you're much muchore emotional and easily stressed. Planning a wedding can be stressful! And stress is NOT good at all for a developing baby. I've had 3 babies and each pregnancy was different. Honestly, even with my easiest bought, I'd never plan to be pregnant during my wedding! We are paying way too much $ to not have a fun night!! lol

@onawho, I don't like your advice hahaha, how sad