Anyone else who's mother is not interested?

Think about why you are doing this know that if no one is there that you are doing this for you and your new husband only. Don't worry about anyone else if they are there or don't care know that it's your day and enjoy it. Do what you two want and how you want it. You can not worry about anyone else feelings what so ever. My mom is jealous she try to ruin my first wedding and my brothers just flat out crazy. But I will be get married if she there or not no one matters on that day but him and him you are vowing to. Think about what will make you happy period.

Just focus on you and your partner planning your big day. In the end you two are the only ones that matter. My mom is the opposite and wanted to be involved in everything and I wouldn't let her(long story). I was so much happier planning without the crazy train involved. Mom's can be pretty stressful!

I really enjoy planning with just my FH, it’s fun & we get to do what we really want. With too many people involved, it can get stressful. My mom lives in Europe, so planning together is not viable, but she is not really interested in it either 🤷🏻‍♀️ I was bothered at first by lack of excitement but then realized that everybody has their own worries & reasons that not necessarily have much to do with me & I let it go.
However, your mom saying: I’d rather go to a funeral - is extremly passive aggressive & sensless & obviously meant to hurt you. So wedding planning aside, I would have an honest conversation with her & let her know calmly that her words are mean & hurtful & that I do not appreciate them.
Losing your friends is tough, it’s really important to have few very close people you can lean on besides your FH. This is something I would also focus on.
Good luck with the planning!

I have a non supportive mother how dare I have a wedding better then my sister's who is the golden child I've heard I should just go to the Justice of the Peace

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Unfortunately, I found out that a lot of brides are alone in the planning process. I have been planning our wedding 100% by myself with no input or help from anyone. My mom doesn't show any interest, but she is supportive. She hasn't ever been married, so weddings are a bit of a "waste of money" to her. I ask FH his opinion when it counts, but otherwise he doesn't even get involved. No one asks about our wedding, so I don't even get a chance to talk about it. It hurts, because FH's brother recently got married and that is all his family could rave about for the longest time. However, no one has shown any type of excitement for ours. My bridesmaids don't check in and ask how things are going, and I don't want to bother them since I know they have their own lives. I've come to realize it is a lonely process, but I'm confident the actual wedding day will be full of love and support. I just wish there was a little more a long the way.

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Ha...this! My older brother is the golden child in my family. My mom and family were so excited for his wedding. Mine? They keep "jokingly" suggesting we elope and save the money (so annoying).

What about your FMIL? Would she be more interested than your mom? It may not be a good solution in your case, but if she might want to help, and won't be pushy or interfering, then maybe she would be excited to help?

PPs are right, though, your wedding is about you and your FH, and whatever makes you two happy and excited is what you should go with. We made choices that our moms thought were odd when they heard them, but we wouldn't change a thing about our wedding.

My SO is having more of the issues with her mother not taking an interest and is not even coming to the wedding and she is an only child and is hurt by this I don't know what to do to help her feel better myself. I did suggest that she talks to her or asks her to do things to help. She feels she shouldn't have to and that her mom should just want to be involved.

I heard here that nobody is as excited about your wedding as you. So you might not be missing out on much although your mom’s total lack of interest is definitely upsetting. Hug for that. 🤗

Focus on creating your wedding day with your partner. Because we wanted to surprise guests, we kept all our details secret—not only were we like two kids planning a surprise party, we unintentionally avoided any criticism or drama (which happens here a lot when parents are actively involved or friends express their negative opinions). I also did most of my dress shopping myself. No wedding party which meant no extra giggles/fun events I’ve read about but no drama or extra costs for anyone either. My hubby & I created the destination wedding & local reception of our dreams! Planning together brought us even closer (with the occasional head butt) and we had a blast getting married and celebrating with everyone. 🎉

I'm so sorry you're struggling with all that. I feel like we're in the same boat, although my mom is in the late stages of Alzheimer's. I also don't have any sisters - just brothers who disapprove of everything I do. A teacher of mine, who was really supportive and a mother figure and someone I always went to for help, is incredibly busy lately I hate to bother. And of my two friends, one is, while I love her, really egocentric so talking about my wedding makes her bring about her new job and how it's far more of an achievement than getting married. My second one just broke up with her boyfriend so I can't talk to her about it. I understand your feeling alone and confused and I know how incredibly hard it is. But remember this is your wedding this is your day, you can make it anything you want so long as you believe in yourself.

Does your FH help you out at all with the planning? Does he have a mother you can also get help from? Try to get your fiance more involved and have fun with it. Try not to look at it like a chore. And if anything, if you need help, the lovely ladies on here are full of advice.

Something that also helps me is knowing on my wedding day I can look around and say I made that happen without the help of anyone else. I made it possible. Remember that.

My mother isn't interested at all. She's still mad that I divorced her beloved son-in-law years ago. But I'm not letting it get to me. This day is about me and my FH and that's really all that matters to me. There are plenty of other people in our life who are very excited for us.

My mother has showed zero interest in the wedding, and FMIL has showed even less. It was hurtful at first but then I realized the lack of input meant FH and I could do everything exactly as we please. Reading the various family drama threads here, I’m even more relieved to be on my own.

I'm focusing on me and what I can control. I'm trying to do small, positive things each week to help toward planning the wedding. That way it will be achievable to do everything I want without anyone else's help.

My mother isn’t very interested in anything I do with the wedding !

Does your FH have any sisters or could you ask FMIL for help? Aunts??

I'm sorry you're experiencing this though. Its a happy time! Don't let others opinions, lack of interest pull you down. This is a very important and exciting time of your life!

My future mother in law is not interested. Anytime we just to give her updates or include her she doesn't want to be bothered so now we stopped sharing.