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Julie
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Anyone else's fiancé' not on board with the planning process?

Julie, on September 8, 2020 at 1:05 AM

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Is anyone else having a hard time getting their fiancé excited about the wedding process? He says he wants to be involved, be given quotes, estimates, and ideas, and I've done ALL of that for several different venues already. I think he wants a magic exact number of what everything will cost, but...

Is anyone else having a hard time getting their fiancé excited about the wedding process? He says he wants to be involved, be given quotes, estimates, and ideas, and I've done ALL of that for several different venues already. I think he wants a magic exact number of what everything will cost, but all I can give him is a price range. Obviously I cant get catering, floral, photography, etc. quotes without having a locked date and place. I have gotten lots of estimates and have presented these to him. For me, I am READY to plan and both him and I would be paying for our wedding, which our budget isn't HUGE but honestly I feel is doable for us in our circumstances. He thinks that with the AFFORDABLE pricing I've given him, with still a beautiful wedding, we'd be wasting money, but until he's completely on board with the process, I feel as though I'm wasting my time researching if were never going to lock a date. He knows that I don't ask for a lot and am not one of those women who needs to be showered with things, but the one things he has known for YEARS is that I've always wanted to plan a wedding someday. Its not like this is news to him. I feel like covid has put a huge damper on the world, and I'm here grateful for the opportunity to start to plan an event and something positive to look forward to, and I cant seem to get my fiancé excited about it. Anyone else having similar issues? Please tell me I'm not alone here.

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  • Ali
    Expert March 2021
    Ali ·
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    My fiancé seemed iffy at first too. I was kind of upset that he wasn't more excited. But I let him pick cocktail hour appetizers (he loves food so he will pick the menu as well). We talked about stuff together such as budget, wedding colors bridal party wedding bands and songs for the reception/ceremony. Looking back he was excited just in his own way. I got quotes for vendors and our engagement photo photographer. He seemed happy when we toured our first venue and we thought it would be the perfect compromise. Just try seeing what he likes and what is making him feel the way he is. It will all work out.
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  • Cassandra
    Devoted September 2021
    Cassandra ·
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    Have you guys gone and looked at venues together yet? That is something that excited my husband. Although- he really didn’t help with planning, he was excited and on board for whatever I wanted for the wedding.


    (He also really wanted input on food and alcohol lol)
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