Anyone have trouble parting with YOUR last name?

I'm having a difficult time parting with my last name because it's legendary. It also has very short lines during voting season. My new last name is nice... but every 4 years I'll have to deal with the very long lines to vote. LAME.

Yes. I'm the last on my dad's side and they all had girls. So I just sign everything with my first name, my middle name (my maiden name) and my new last name. It's long, I know. But I didn't want to hyphenate so this was the best I could do. I'm sure over time it will fade out to just my first name and my married name. I've only been married for a few weeks, but I still say my maiden name when people ask my name, it takes me a second to say, no sorry, it's ....

I don't really have any advice or anything

I am planning on taking my FH's last name because I want to be traditional, and I just can't be any other way, it's who I am and how I was raised.

But in saying that, there are times when I think about it, really think about it, and I am gonna miss my last name. i hate my last name but it's tied to my family,it's not really about the name per ce, it's what that name ties me to, so therefore I am going to miss it alot. I also think it's going to be a little weird when i've had this one name my whole life.

My plan is just do it, and not think too much about it.

I am graplling with it, I mean my last name is hard, but I am one of 3 girls in my family, and 8 guys so it's hard to let it go, but i may just add it to my middle name bc I do want FH's last name.

Nope, no issues with it, I'm ready to drop it like it's hot.

NO...I can't wait to have my new last name. I guess its because my last name now is my ex husbands name. We were married 23 years so it was easier to keep his name. But now I am so excited!!!!!

Nah, not really - but I also have brothers and cousins to carry on my family name. But, I'm losing my place in the alphabet! My current last name starts w/ A, and FH's is R. I keep trying to convince him to add an A to the beginning of his last name, but he doesn't seem to think it's as good of an idea as I do.

I have been slow on the paperwork on my end. I want to do it, but the prospect of changing my name is, well, stranger than I expected it to be.

If you have kids, could your "maiden" name be a son's middle name?

I am having a hard time. My name just flows so nicely now and I have always loved my last name. My future last name is not going to sound right and no one will be able to pronounce it. I already see how people have a real hard time pronouncing when talking to my FH. But I think I will change it because I have 2 older brothers so they will carry the name out. My dad just told me the other day that I have to change it, and it's not nice to talk smak about my future last name hahaa. Sorry about your losses :-/ I would definitely have a much harder time if I were you. Is it too long to have both, like hyphenate it?

I'm not taking his name. My mother never took her husbands name.

My FH has 4 names (last name hyphen) and I have 4 names (two middle) so if I took his name I would have 5 names. That is too much. Also, if we triple hyphenated our last names (the only way I would take his) then he would have 5 and I would have 6!!

If we have kids I think that they get a double hyphen with my last name and his last-last name (haha).

I cannot wait to drop my last name. There were no males on my mom's side of the family to pass on the name so when I was born I got a hyphenated name with my mom's maiden name and my dad's name. I hate having a hyphenated name and cannot wait to get rid of it. FH's last name is unique and I'm excited to have it

No, it's not a name we could give a son as a middle name. And they are both short names, could be hyphenated but still Im not going to give my kids a hyphenated last name so in the end it dies with me I guess. I will take my FH last name but wondered if I was the only one out there thinking a lot about what giving up her name means. Thanks for the comments.

Corinne- I'm already thinking of future children and how I don't want them to hate me for giving them a hyphenated name.

I'm changing it. It's a little sad since when I get married, the name dies with me. But I'm traditional and legally it's easier when we have kids. Unwilling to hyphenate, because 16 letters plus the - is way too long.

Personally, I've always had 2 criteria for me to be willing to change my last name whenever I got married. 1) Had to be a shorter name then what I have (mine is currently 9 letters, FH's=7 letters) 2) Got to move up on the alphabetical list (mine starts with a P, FH's starts with an M).

I'm been having a hard time with this as well. I already have a middle name so I decided to just add it to my name on all legal documents, but my day to day will be my first name, middle initial and his last name.

I am sorry for your losses I could imagine why you are having such a difficult time. I am not even approaching my wedding date and making that change, but I can tell you I am having major reservations in changing my last name too.

I feel like a part of my identity will go away when I change it. Even if you hyphenate mine it would be too long and sound weird but if you are that attached I would hyphenate it, I am sure it won’t be as bad as you think! It won’t be like Julia Gulia from wedding singer, lol.

If your last name is nice, maybe you could incorporate your maiden name as your child’s middle name when and if you have one? I know a lot of people who do that, even if it makes no sense it’s a nice way to carry on your last name. I couldn’t really do it with my last name, it’s too italian but just a suggestion.

Not looking forward to it, but he's psyched about me changing it. Guess I"m trying to put it off as long as possible. But I really really love my middle and last name. But I also want my new last name. UGH. THis is HARD.

I don't want to change my name...but My personal feelings is that it would be disrespectful to my FH. My name current last name is unique and not common at all. My FH last name is very common, but I want to be traditional in taking his last name...but yes I'm finding it difficult to let my last name go.

I am ready for it. I am not all that partial to my last name, so its not a big deal. Its going to be hardest on my students (I am a teacher). They are already complaining about having to call me something different after calling me Ms. W for the last three years.

Thank you Poly W.- It really has been a hard thought for me. I never imagined in life that I'd face this concern but when I suddenly lost my brother it really hit that my last name and me is the end of the line. Not easy. But it doesn't mean I don't want my FH last name, I do....just hard is all.