Anyone laughing or confused with others' covid inconsistencies?!

This makes me so sad to read this. Using your wedding as leverage to force people to risk their health seems like a really poor decision in the long term. You are planning to damage relationships and reduce your circle of loved ones, which is really difficult to understand. I guess at least you are being up front with people in your motivations.

"Have any of you experienced this with loved ones? or the exact opposite? Like you see them on social media at big crowded non social distancing events yet they cannot attend your wedding because they are sooo scared of COVID?"

My social circle is pretty small, so no I haven't experienced this. My family and friends all seem to be taking the pandemic as seriously as my husband and I are. We aren't socializing at all other than occasional safe outdoor activities (e.g., walking through a park together, with everyone masked and distanced) with a very select group of people (1 friend, or my parents, or my brother and his wife). And that is ending now with the weather anyway, unfortunately. So, no, I'm not laughing or confused.

ABSOLUTELY!

a friend of mine went on a double date with her bf and his brother and his brother's gf where they did indoor dining [this was months ago]. she doesn't live with any of them and that was her first time meeting that brother's gf.

and so i asked her what it was like to hangout with friends cause i was going to have a friend over to my house where we weren't even going to eat, we were just going to sit a couple feet away from one another and do crafts. anyway, i knew she had went on that double date so that's why i asked her what it was like meeting up with friends, just so i can get an idea of how strange it felt or whatever.

SO SHE GOES... "i didn't meet up with friends, and i wouldn't now" i was like weren't you JUST on a double date? and she's like "well.. that was his brother though, so that's family" she essentially said that doesn't count. HOW DOES THAT NOT COUNT? i don't understand aha.

people just have different ideas of what counts and what doesn't or what they're comfortable with >.<

Honestly, it seems most people are Covid scared when it won't be an inconvenience. I have friends/co-workers/acquaintances who seem terrified of Covid... until there is something they want to go do. It's ridiculous and comical at times.

Yeah, i agree!

i told her like hey i'm not judging you for going... like, i mean technically speaking me having a friend over isn't even "right". all i wanted was for her to own up to it. i mean gosh, hey it's fine to say that you saw a couple friends. but for her to go and say "nah what i did didn't count" was like WHAT THE HECK?! like girllllllllll haha.

I thought that was SO sad too! people don't have to even go to a wedding in order to support you. my wedding was pre-covid and we had people not go but they still sent gifts, etc.

Yup. Happened with my wedding. My friends would not attend my wedding (which is fine), but then I see them at two house parties - that I'm AT, WITH THEM, mind you, so it's not like I'm seeing this on social media. I'm AT these parties WITH them. And they're not in their social bubbles. They're intermixed with other people, including people that they don't know, with their families, plus their children.

I have another friend who didn't RSVP to my wedding at all (no accept or decline), but then I also saw her at a birthday party the same night she sent me a huge sob text on how she doesn't know what's safe and what's not safe, etc etc. I don't mind that she was feeling indecisive, but 1.) It's 2 weeks after my RSVP date, and 2.) She told me "She has no idea what to do" (and I said I put her down as a No anyway, so....), and 3.) She had a problem RSVP-ing to my wedding, but she had no problem RSVP-ing and ATTENDING a friend's 50-person birthday bash at a house.

Not to mention this friend told me she's quitting the gym (we're both exercise instructors), and she did, but then 2 months later, she's teaching again?

I have so many other examples, but yes, I know what you mean.

Me, three.

As someone in the arts, many of our friends couldn't make it because they couldn't give up work.

NOW?

Now, I'd totally get it. I have no idea if they have a health issue I don't know about, or someone in their family does... or if they are coming from a high caseload area... or have lost work...

Honestly, people don't come to weddings for a lot of reasons, and the vast majority of the time... it's not about YOU.

A lot of my friends - and my husband - HAVE to go to work outside the home right now. And almost all of them are service-based, so bartenders, baristas, servers, etc.

So, I suppose, I'm mad that they aren't being supported to stay home until it's safe, I'm mad that people don't view them as humans and refuse to wear masks around them, I'm mad people don't TIP, I'm mad people get mad at THEM for rules they can't control, and for trying to stay safe...

After living through March-May in the NYC area.... I've got PTSD. I hear sirens and I start frantically checking our county's caseload.

THIS post is spot on!!

We have had guests cancel due to Covid fears for our wedding of less than 50 in attendance. Then these guests turn around and go on trips to Mexico and stay at all inclusive resorts and post pictures with no masks on drinking in a pool with 100's of other unmasked people. I also had guests who cancelled but attended a 30+ person Thanksgiving event last week in a small house, indoors, yet they couldn't attend our event. SMH I think it honestly just speaks volumes to what people prioritize and we have been staying vigilant to how we have been regarded during this entire situation.