anyone like to give a couple something through Honeyfund?

It is horribly inappropriate to ask people to pay for a lavish vacation. Also, the funds don't automatically go a specific thing, they cut you a check and you book the thing. I would never contribute to a honeyfund

I went to a wedding that had a registry and a honeyfund. it was for dinner on the beach, breakfast in bed, a nights stay etc. in Hawaii.

I just gave them cash because I didn't just didn't want to pay for something like that knowingly. Sure they may use it on the honeymoon, but I would rather receive cash and just use it where I need to instead of specifically on something that was picked out for me. Plus, I am not familiar with those things, and I don't like that lol

I would rather give cash. I'm not anti honeyfund. I just think they are a waste because from my understanding they take a percent of the money.

I think the same. A friend of mine is getting married. She and her husband are super well-off. They registered for a whole bunch of super expensive items and also made a honeyfund. I'm pretty turned off by that. They can very much afford a honeymoon all on their own. Whatever. Thankfully when I scrolled to the very bottom of their registry, I found a few items that were reasonably priced. I prefer to give a gift, so I'll be getting them that.

A wedding I went to last year had a Disney Honeymoon account. It had things listed to upgrade the room, special tours, gcs, etc. I didn't mind. They were going regardless, and any money they received would likely have gone towards it anyways.

I also would never contribute. I believe in giving gifts that would benefit the couple, not money and especially not money towards a vacation.

Thats my thoughts too. they have it broken down on the site but i would also assume that they would just get a check for however much was given to them

It's the ultimate middle man - does nothing, takes a percentage.

Just a curious question (I am also anti-honeyfund). How on earth do they work if you've already booked your honeymoon so you can leave after your wedding? Or do you have to have a honeymoon later? or are they all just for excursions and stuff

I would probably give, as long as it was spread by word of mouth like any other registry and not put in the invitation.

Most times, it's not like they wouldn't go if they didn't get enough contributions. Cash is a major PITA for me.

I've been burned by buying someone a specific experience before (she wanted something different than what we got her, so we had to get her an ADDITIONAL one) so I think, in the future, I'll probably just give cash and let them choose how they want to spend it. I don't care at the end of the day because, either way, I'm giving them money. They might as well just use it whichever way they want, whether it sits in the bank or they want to go spend it scuba diving on their honeymoon.

I just got an invite to my friends shower and she didnt register anywhere but did do a honeymoon fund. They are asking for airfare, hotel room stays, and all the fun stuff. I was kind of shocked. I understand they dont need anything but I dont want to go to a shower where they just open envelopes telling them they got a night stay at their hotel. If you cant afford to pay for it yourself do it later and use the money that you get from the wedding to pay for.

I am going to her shower cause she is my friend but I dont think I will get anything off her honeymoon fund. I will make her a nice homemade present instead and maybe a gift card.

Honestly, I don't see the big deal. My friend did this for her weekend honeymoon to Disneyland. She didn't register, she didn't expect anything, it was just a different way for people to give a gift. Anything from a cup of coffee at a cafe to their tickets. I thought it was cute! Its seen as so tacky, but I really don't think this is a big deal.

ETA, she properly hosted a great wedding. If that matters. It was so obviously not a ploy to fund anything, but simply the gift of an experience vs an object.

I tend to give physical gifts but in that case I would give cash. I think you should plan a honeymoon you can afford and not ask everyone else to pay for it.

If I give you cash I know you are getting 100% of what I give you. If I give you money through a honeyfund you are not getting 100% of the money and I don't like that.

All she had on there were things to do while they were at the resort, so scuba diving, snorkels ($60 pp for the 8 days), dinner etc. they already booked the room

ETA: you can buy snorkels and put them in your bag for a fraction of that

I created one but didn't make it public because a few friends of mine wanted to contribute to that, specifically. I don't know why. My MIL found the link and bought a whole bunch of stuff on it and our vacation ended up being running from one excursion to another, which was less than ideal. Not to mention, it gives you no room to change your mind on the excursions once you get there. Not a fan at all.

L&G the couple I know left right after the wedding. Maybe they give you a "coupon" in your email and you can show the voucher at the place where you had money go to? (IE: and excursion)

Kind of like retail me not. Just show us your phone lol

We have a honeymoon registry and whatever anyone thinks about that is up to you. Yes the sites take a percentage so we'd be perfectly happy if people didn't use it but a lot of people like the idea of giving you a "gift" of some kind instead of money and we really can't fit more stuff in our house. We wanted to use it as a deterrant for people buying us stuff we don't need. The activities may or may not be used on your friend's honeyfund. It's a nice way of getting them something they want: a nice honeymoon. Some people would rather give cash, some a gift, for some the cost of attending a wedding is enough and couples understand that as well.

If that's what the couple wanted, I would do that instead of cash. I'm in the minority I am sure but I personally don't have any issue at all with it. My travel agent has one that comes with his services (we are not doing/using it because I would honestly just rather cash if someone wanted to gift us something) but he does not take a percentage out.