anyone like to give a couple something through Honeyfund?

I love giving through Honeyfunds (and I expect the couples are happy to receive those gifts, or else they wouldn't set it up). I would much rather get to select a specific activity or meal that I'm funding for the honeymoon, over just cash -- but that's just me. The whole taking a cut thing does suck, I honestly hadn't thought of that before. I don't think there's anything wrong with listing a bunch of activities on your Honeyfund, whether they come off as lavish or not. Lots of people cherish experiences much more than kitchenware (I'm probably going to have both, so I'm not picking sides, just saying). Obviously, the couple is going to DO stuff while they're away -- sure, they could just list their airfare and hotel, the bare necessities for the trip, but that's no fun when you're shopping around for what to gift them, as a guest. I think it's not uncommon for the parents of the bride or groom (or someone else) to want to pay for honeymoon airfare as a gift -- so, why not have your friends help with all the other little stuff?

I like the idea of giving the gift of an experience. So, I have no problem with the theory of Honeyfund. I just wish it worked more like groupon...where the couple gets a voucher or certificate for whatever it is you buy for them. I don't like that the registry just cuts the couple a check, after taking a percentage for themselves.

I am considering doing a honeyfund, but I haven't fully decided yet. I don't think it's a greedy request, and it's not about booking something I can't afford. My fiance and I have been engaged for six years, and we are finally planning our dream wedding with absolutely no financial help from our parents or relatives, whatsoever. He and I already own a house, as well as every item we could possibly need. To me, registering for gifts feels like I'm redecorating my house, and that is what seems greedy to me. If anyone wanted to contribute to a honeyfund for us, (assuming we do one), I see it as them helping to give us memories, as opposed to items. I would so much rather be able to talk about my honeymoon, and say " Do you remember how fun it was when we swam with the dolphins? That was because of Aunt Kathy", instead of, "who gave you that toaster"? "Which toaster"? "The stainless steel one". "Oh, right. Uh... Aunt Kathy, I think". I truthfully don't care about gifts or vacations at all. I have no idea which way I'll go with this, but the previous comments have definitely given me lots to think about.

I once attended a wedding (I was the +1, lol) and the couple with the invites included a card that in lieu of gifts they were needing help with a down payment for their first home together. It never dawned on me before WW that it would be in appropriate or rude to ask for it, or for it to be included with the wedding invite. I don't think we'll be having a registry. If ppl want to give us cash it would be welcome, but TBH I just want my family to come, and it's international travel, so I'd call that my gift :-)

We are invited to DH's cousin's wedding this summer. Her mother, FMIL and bridal party let everyone know the couple have everything they need and have set up a honeyfund for the 12 days in Turks & Caicos. DH and I are completely against doing this and decided not to contribute towards their vacation. Next month, we will purchase a $100 gift card to either BBB or Macy's.

At the end of the day, it's all about your dearest friends and family helping you build your life together -- in whatever form that may be. 30 years ago, it was the norm to ask people to contribute to furnishing your house; everyone would chip in for the couch the couple wanted and called it a day. I think that if a couple is specifically requesting something, it's rude to give them something else (other than cash).

I registered for a honeyfund along with amazon and target. There isn't much on our registry. We are older (29 and 30 at the time of the wedding), have lived together for 2 years, so we have plenty already. Plus we are moving states a few months after the wedding, so we have no immediate plans for a honeymoon. I do not want to pack MORE knick knacks and home decor!!! I really want new dishes, serveware, and stemware (none of which are super expensive). a shark steamer mop. 1 nice set of sheets. a mattress topper. some tools for FH.

I have a guest list close to 200 and could barely choose 60 things to register for. I made sure to include all price points. I could see how some think it is tacky, but they don't have to contribute to it if they don;t want to. Growing up, my mom always refused to give cash as gifts...she thought that was tacky. So I just thought this was a new, different way for people to contribute. FH and I are travelers at heart, but he is in grad school at the moment and we plan to wait until we settle down somewhere and he has a job before planning a trip.

Knowing that they take a portion of your money - i would just give cash. Also i find it inappropriate to ask for money for na expensive trip. you shouldnt plan that trip if you can't afford it on your own.

I'd give cash